Dd in bigger clothes than her age. Does it really matter?

[Karleeb30]

Dd is 6. She's 122-123cm tall and weighs just over 4 Stone. She is in mainly 7-8 clothes and some 8-9 yet she still has some clothes in 6-7 that fit. Depends on the fit and style. It's mainly because she does have a little tummy so does need things a little roomier plus 6-7 is usually way too short on her!! She's had a massive growth spurt since the first lockdown . Went from clothes being too long to now too short.

Mil works in a clothes shop that sell kids clothes (won't say where). She's asked if Dd needs anything, I told her she needs 7-8 or maybe 8-9 and she seemed disgusted implying that my daughter was huge or something!

I know some of the cute clothes Stop in 5-6 or 6-7 so she will have to look in the older girls section... but does it really matter?

we all know that kids are not all built the same! Sizing for an average sized kid of their age. Dd is quite tall so anything smaller than 7-8 is just too short and often a little tight around the waist. To think all 6 year olds would fit into one generic size is madness.

Plus it really depends on the shop. Some shops come Up crazily small and some bigger. H&M is my go to atm. Dd wears their 6-8 or 7-8 years clothes and fit perfectly!

She definitely has my body shape and tall like me!

She doesn't necessarily look big compared to her peers, maybe a little but not massively bigger.

My DD is 7, in age 3-4 or 4-5 clothes, she does still fit in some aged 2-3, she's abnormally small due to a condition she has. She's extremely skinny to the point we have to size down trousers or buy elastic waisted trousers as they fall down as she has no bottom to hold anything up (paediatricians words).

Her best friend is the opposite. She's almost 8 (both school year 3) and in age 11-12 and some 12-13 clothes, she's very tall, almost as tall as me (5ft 2) and is quite stocky (not fat).

Everyones different. I wouldn;t be worried.

The "bit of a belly" is maybe muscle tone. Even physically active children don't tend to be doing sit ups/stomach toning exercises etc (thank god) so its not abnormal for them to have tummy's. I did as a child despite being very physically active and skinny. I think that matters less than other factors such as being able to see ribs etc. If you are concerned I would ask at the next doctors appointment but I don't think needing a year older clothing is a big concern in itself.

I came on to say what @Ozanj has said, front loaded height and weight in a child with parents who aren’t tall themselves is something I’d watch out for but you’re all tall which is reassuring! It’s just the tummy which stands out to me which can be a sign she’s carrying a bit of extra weight.
I’d just be cautious as you mention she has a mild disability. If she does gain more weight then she may find it more difficult than you did ( or her peers) to slim down in adolescence or adulthood. For that reason I’d gently suggest keeping a closer eye and considering small healthy changes if she continues to have a bit of a tummy.
Apologies if that’s not relevant to her specific disability. So many children now are overweight or obese, the HV and GP may not be too fussed for a child not very overweight, but if you notice her filling out more they may be able to help.

Can’t believe some of these replies. There’s nothing wrong with your daughter. If you buy the same size in boy section you will see with your own eyes how society sexualises young girls into being a particular shape. It’s disgusting. Ignore your MIL. Buy whatever the hell fits and ignore the haters.

DD age 5 wearing 7-8/8-9 tall and solid . Im 6ft3 (mum) find primark fits her best .

No! One of my children was always in sizes smaller than her age and never had anything on her. She's now 9, filling out and is is 11-12 clothes. She's not big by any means.

Youngest is 5.5 but absolutely tiny, I got him some age 6 stuff thinking it was safe and haha, it is not. HUGE. He can still wear 4-5.

Kids are all different, thinking a child should fit in a clothes sized based on an average that doesn't take into account for variation is quite black and white thinking.

My Dd who is now 20, has worn 11-12 year old clothes since she was 14.
They definitely come in different sizes.I’m a size 22 and DH a large. Both of us approaching 6 feet tall.
Our only girl is 5’1” on a good day

I would worry tbvh.

She is a quarter more than average for her age.
Where I leave 23%of children are overweight. We have a huge obesity problem. Parents classically find it hard to see their own children as fat. Having others on here say "don't worry my kid is overweight too" isn't going to be helpful.

I have 4 kids and have watched so many of their friends turn from slightly chubby "they will grow out of it" 6 year olds to very large awkward teenagers.

She might grow out of it but the majority of kids don't.

My 6 year old wears age 8... problem is they are too big on the waist but the right length! She is Skinny and tall.

My 5.5 year old girl has just moved into clothes for aged 8 to 9 year old. She was born on 99.8 centile for height and I can clearly see all her ribs, she is perfectly skinny for her age. Children aren’t supposed to have fat tummies and we (parents) need to be careful not compare children bodies to adults because they are supposed to be different.

I found with DD2 that she would get a little pod of tummy from time to time and it was always followed by a growth spurt which trimmed it down again.

And DGD at 9 is the tallest in her class, towering over the rest by at least half a head to a whole head, including the boys. She is in age 12-13 clothes. Her paternal GF is 6'4" at a conservative estimate.

When you look at adult variation, why should we expect children to be uniform?

Just to add, my 9yo in 11-12 clothes has a very average BMI.

If you know she has a reasonable diet, and you don't encourage her to over-eat (make her finish her plate, give unlimited access to snacks) then I'm sure she's absolutely grand. The most important thing is to let them self-regulate in my opinion, unless you can see there's a glaring problem and they can't for some reason (not every child can).

Kids are all sizes . My 7 year old daughter wars age 4 to 5 and her sister age 9 wear 11 to 12 🤷‍♀️

I have distinct memories of not fitting into anything in Tammy Girl when I was about 10 and being taller than the height chart (which apparently went up to age 12)

There are two separate questions here: is your DD overweight, and is it unusual for kids to be dressed in the 'wrong' dress size?

Is she overweight? Possibly. As PPs have said, being tall doesn't necessarily 'excuse' being heavier.

However, you can't go by clothes sizes, because they are based on an average, and many kids will be above that average but still within a healthy weight range. All the kids in our extended family have needed clothes 1-2 sizes above their actual age for at least the last 2 generations, and none of us has been overweight either as a child or adult. We are a bit taller than average but not giants 😉

Mine never wore the right size once they moved onto the next stage. All tell and skinny now and healthy.

My dd is same age and she is in aged 7 to 8 or 8 to 9. She is 3ft 11 and 4 stone (just weighed and measured. She's bang on skinny. Don't worry

@MissLucyEyelesbarrow

There are two separate questions here: is your DD overweight, and is it unusual for kids to be dressed in the 'wrong' dress size?

Is she overweight? Possibly. As PPs have said, being tall doesn't necessarily 'excuse' being heavier.

However, you can't go by clothes sizes, because they are based on an average, and many kids will be above that average but still within a healthy weight range. All the kids in our extended family have needed clothes 1-2 sizes above their actual age for at least the last 2 generations, and none of us has been overweight either as a child or adult. We are a bit taller than average but not giants 😉

and the third issue is not letting MiL make a "thing" of it!

She's got skinny arms and legs, just carries a bit of a belly - exactly like me!

I'm sure she's fine OP however please remember she's a child so her 'having a tummy like you' isn't really normal.

I'd limit sweets, pop anything that 'bloats' her tummy and is empty calories.

My kids are huge. 9 year old is in 13-14 and my 12 year old is in medium mens 😅
Everybody has a different body shape and the sizes are just a guide anyway hence the differences in size depending on where you shop

no course its not odd

for example

one set of niece and nepehews wore a size below or their own size

the other (tall parent) wore one to two sizes bigger

everyone is different

If she tends to go out before she shoots up, I wouldn't worry too much. My DS did that and went through phases of having a bit of a belly and then having a massive growth spurt. He's now 14, nearly 6 ft (having grown over 6 inches in the last year), and is a total beanpole - age 16 jeans are half-mast on him and he's in age 17 school trousers with the waists in as far as they'll go. If she's always got a bit of a tum, though, maybe keep a bit of an eye on what she's eating.

My dd 6 wears 7-8 and 8-9 she is tall tho. Clothes sizing are just a guide I wouldn't worry about it as long as they fit that's they main thing.

Okay well I think you mostly want to hear people agreeing with you, but I'd be a bit worried.

I agree with bubblebath above.

The sizing varies dramatically. I often buy 1/2 sizes up (so 6/7 usually) especially from supermarket/cheaper places as I’m expecting some shrinkage from the wash anyway 😂

My daughter has some age 7 pjs from John Lewis which fit perfectly but also still fits into and loves a 2-3 years t-shirt from Mountain Warehouse. So the size written in the label matters not!