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Kate Middleton is a role model for me?

519 replies

BlueBookBag · 03/10/2021 20:21

I like the way she looks, so pretty and stylish but classic and simple at the same time.

Slim but toned and athletic figure, meanwhile I could lose a few kg.

Her personality seems refined and elegant, you will never catch her sharing controversial opinions or offending views.

She seems to be a supportive wife and mother

Seems overall to live such an elegant life.

AIBU? To want to be more like Kate and see her as a role model?

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TertiusLydgate · 03/10/2021 21:10

If you aspire to have the best education that money can buy, then put it to no good use - crack on.

I'd like to think a role model should be someone to whom one could aspire. Kate looks nice, seems jolly good at smiling and waving and knocking out children. But a role model? No.

MrsSkylerWhite · 03/10/2021 21:10

Don’t know the woman so no idea what she’s like.

SprayedWithDettol · 03/10/2021 21:10

I’m sorry, but I can’t get over excited about Catherine. There are far more impressive women in the world to admire. Go to your local hospital and see the exhausted women working to save lives on brutal shift patterns for ridiculously low salaries. They are the icons for me.

As for leaving MN (whispers) no one will notice.

Heronwatcher · 03/10/2021 21:11

Look I have nothing against her. I liked that she took attended the Sarah Everard vigil. But do you know her? Do you know that she’s happy (Diana wasn’t)? And even if she is, do you realise that she quite literally has a staff of servants, a nanny, stylist, personal trainer and various other people who are behind brand Kate? As well as more money than most people see in a lifetime, and she doesn’t have to hold down a 9-5 job. I really do think you’d be better finding someone in real life who you can actually aspire to. This country’s obsession with landed upper classes is really very backward.

Theredjellybean · 03/10/2021 21:11

I am sure she is a reasonably OK person in rl.
But I'd be horrified to hear one of my young adult daughters say they looked to her to be a role model.
She has vast amounts of staff and resources to enable her to do a job that requires no talent, no skills and no self development
She is not willing to step up and do anything more than nod or smile for charities she claims are close to her heart.
She is referered as a mother yet I fail to see her parenting.
And I'd rather my daughters admired and strive to be strong women, with their own minds, own careers, own money, doing good and bringing about change.

thepeopleversuswork · 03/10/2021 21:11

@BeardyButton

Is your aim to be inoffensive? Personally, the idea of aspiring to be insipid does nothing for me. Now that’s not to say that this is what Kate really is. Maybe she has her own opinions but keeps them out of the public as she doesn’t see that as her role. Fine. But to aspire to have no opinions at all.... no ta!
This. I know it's not her fault, she has to be like this and she may be fascinating behind closed doors.

But of all the women to choose as a "role model", to choose one who appears like a modern day version of a Stepford Wife is just utterly depressing.

FourteenSixteenTwentyTwo · 03/10/2021 21:13

Before you wander off - yes, it's fine to admire and emulate certain characteristics you think are worthy.

But it's ludicrous to use a public figure with an incredibly expensive PR package as a pinnacle of what you want to be. She farts just like the rest of us. She'll have immense pressure to remain thin and she's never allowed an opinion - of which I'm sure she has thousands and the likelihood is you'll bats heads on a fair few.

Be your own role model. Use your own set of ethics and morals to form who you want to be. Don't base it on someone who you know nothing 'real' about - it's a painful fall when you realise they are secretly racist or are a flat earther, etc.

Vancouverorbust · 03/10/2021 21:13

I can’t take her seriously because of her fashion obsession. Changing outfits and coats multiple times in 1 day on the ill advised train trip. Posing in multiple outfits for a fashion shoot etc

She is a very attractive woman but not the supermodel she seems to aspire to be

Thedogscollar · 03/10/2021 21:14

@BlueBookBag
Strange subject choice for a "last post"
I feel concerned about you OP but I can't quite think why.

emmetgirl · 03/10/2021 21:14

Role model? Because she married a rich bloke? FFS

annacondom · 03/10/2021 21:16

She seems OK and she does her job well but bland, yes. I hate the.boring hats Catherine wears, I prefer Camilla's. As for a role model, she's not exactly pushing the boundaries, is she? Yes, look to Malala, or Greta, or someone else who has triumphed over adversity or who educates and inspires young women.

VladmirsPoutine · 03/10/2021 21:17

Yanbu. She knew from an early age what she wanted and designed her life to achieve it which is no easy feat if you've set your sights on literally becoming royalty. She manoeuvred herself very well, at all times with grace and decorum and finally landed her prize. That's razor sharp precision. If my friend had told me at 13/14yrs old she was gonna marry a Prince I would have laughed and said ok 'sure'. Kate accomplished her mission.

Evesgarden · 03/10/2021 21:17

Its pretty obvious this thread is a wind up Grin

amitoooldforthisshit · 03/10/2021 21:17

You are not being unreasonable, but personally I find Megan duchess of Sussex more relatable

Stompythedinosaur · 03/10/2021 21:18

I'd prefer people admired women for doing things than for supporting men who do things. Women are not sidekicks.

Vancouverorbust · 03/10/2021 21:19

I also don’t understand how any woman can bring children into the world who have a pre destiny. I don’t understand how as a nation we can think that it is acceptable to have George trained and indoctrinated from birth for a role.

The images of him a few years ago with the Queen, Charles and William stirring the pudding were heartbreaking.

BSideBaby · 03/10/2021 21:21

A woman who's not allowed to share her opinions. My dad's ideal woman.

Cantfindausernamethatsnottaken · 03/10/2021 21:21

I think she's lovely.She has done a lot for charity actually and is a photographer of merit.She seems very genuine to me.Very family orientated,which I admire.I really hope she is happy for real.

FlyingWhistle · 03/10/2021 21:22

Apparently she is just as boring behind the scenes too.

I must admit I wish I looked that polished after three children!

BSideBaby · 03/10/2021 21:22

Sorry, I mean 'girl'.

Bounce55 · 03/10/2021 21:22

She's conditioned to be like that
Take her out of 'The Firm' and she'd probably be swigging Gin from the bottle, be in a Primark onesie and be out every Friday night.
(Nothing wrong with that btw)
She's not real....she's playing a role, she can't put a foot wrong. I feel quite sorry for her.

EmoIsntDead · 03/10/2021 21:22

@TertiusLydgate

If you aspire to have the best education that money can buy, then put it to no good use - crack on.

I'd like to think a role model should be someone to whom one could aspire. Kate looks nice, seems jolly good at smiling and waving and knocking out children. But a role model? No.

I couldn't agree more.
Cocomarine · 03/10/2021 21:22

I don’t criticise her at all for not sharing controversial opinions publicly, given her role.

But bloody hell, if I’m looking for a role model, I’m looking for a woman that does!

Wineandroses3 · 03/10/2021 21:23

I like Kate but I am sure you are lovely to OP! Don’t ever put yourself down. I wouldn’t want Kates life, but remember yes she does look wonderful but she is a millionaire, has cleaners, nannies, housekeepers etc it’s easy to look immaculate if you have got all that help, for most people that’s not achievable but I wouldn’t swap places with her, the level of scrutiny she is under would be too much for many. We are all blessed in our own way x

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