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Kate Middleton is a role model for me?

519 replies

BlueBookBag · 03/10/2021 20:21

I like the way she looks, so pretty and stylish but classic and simple at the same time.

Slim but toned and athletic figure, meanwhile I could lose a few kg.

Her personality seems refined and elegant, you will never catch her sharing controversial opinions or offending views.

She seems to be a supportive wife and mother

Seems overall to live such an elegant life.

AIBU? To want to be more like Kate and see her as a role model?

OP posts:
madisonbridges · 06/10/2021 21:48

@RonaldMcDonald. I think she's great. She has to talk to loads of people and be lovely and interested all the time. Judging by the number of people on MN, yourself included, who find it difficult to be pleasant to and about other people, I can only conclude that is a difficult skill that she has mastered very well.

Lightisnotwhite · 06/10/2021 21:51

i think you could find MUCH better role models than a gurning, taciturn doll who is perpetuating a long dead monarchy at the top of a toxic class system that excuses sexual predators

Toxic class systems are endemic to every society everywhere throughout the world. We make sure ours is accountable.

The world is an aggressive, toxic, mixed message place and she does a great job of not being any part of it. Nor has she from the moment she married ( which was a fantastic example of nailing a Royal wedding as a non royal). She has also never been a twat.
Not being an aggressive twat is something we could learn from MusicTeacherSussex

TheKeatingFive · 06/10/2021 21:51

Judging by the number of people on MN, yourself included, who find it difficult to be pleasant to and about other people, I can only conclude that is a difficult skill that she has mastered very well

I expect most of us would manage this just fine if we were given an allowance worth millions and a selection of palaces/country estates for our trouble.

TheKeatingFive · 06/10/2021 21:52

We make sure ours is accountable.

This might just be the funniest thing I've ever read on here. 🤣

RonaldMcDonald · 06/10/2021 22:05

[quote madisonbridges]@RonaldMcDonald. I think she's great. She has to talk to loads of people and be lovely and interested all the time. Judging by the number of people on MN, yourself included, who find it difficult to be pleasant to and about other people, I can only conclude that is a difficult skill that she has mastered very well.[/quote]
She is a paid mannequin/brood mare. I’d be horribly disappointed if a child of mine did so little with their lives or brain.

I am perfectly pleasant to people in my job, something the Duchess of Cambridge doesn’t ever have to manage.
I find it horrifying that anyone admires her - I mean that absolutely seriously.
She is a pea hen kept to allow another balding Windsor to look vaguely interesting in their ‘wave and superficially connect with the poor people’ role
Dull and dire

StoneofDestiny · 06/10/2021 22:09

An excellent idea. In the meantime perhaps we could say that I pay your £2 a year and you pay mine for something I disapprove of. There’s a long list for you to choose from

If you think we pay just £2 a year to keep the royals in their lavish style you are deluded.

mustlovegin · 06/10/2021 22:46

I’d be horribly disappointed if a child of mine did so little with their lives or brain

It's likely they won't, so you won't have to be disappointed. Don't worry

RonaldMcDonald · 06/10/2021 23:10

@mustlovegin

I’d be horribly disappointed if a child of mine did so little with their lives or brain

It's likely they won't, so you won't have to be disappointed. Don't worry

I think you seem to wish to be goading me. I fear the absolute loss of face and complete disappointment I would feel if they turned out like Kate. Made her choices. Were her parents not dreadful social climbers they would have wanted more for her. The idea that one of my absolutely brilliant and worthwhile daughters would have to grin like a loon no matter how they feel and be utterly, always, beside the point for the rest of their days - is chilling. Literally like a walking magnolia wall, painted to show off a fucking boring and no longer useful or interesting painting. Being a rich man’s plus one. How sad.

You seem to imagine that marrying into an almost defunct royal family is the greatest wish a woman or indeed mother can have.
I am highly educated, wealthy and respected in my field. My girls are tiny activists, brilliant, motivated and will live extraordinary lives - of their own making.
They will never have to cut a ribbon or pretend to superficially be involved. It is tragic that you believe this is to be aspired to.

madisonbridges · 06/10/2021 23:41

@RonaldMcDonald.
Were her parents not dreadful social climbers they would have wanted more for her.
Actually, they brought up an educated, well-adjusted, lovely woman who seems to be in a happy marriage, is an excellent mother and who has good relations with both her own family and her in-laws. She is good with people, is a great ambassador for the country and performs charity work across different interests. If she were my child, and she was as happy as she looks, I couldn't wish more for her than that.

My girls are tiny activists, brilliant, motivated and will live extraordinary lives - of their own making.
You have absolutely no idea what sort of life your children will live unless you're a controlling parent who doesn't let them make their own life choices. Heavens they might decide to be SAHMs. How ashamed would you be then! Let them live their own lives and stop pressurising them to live a life you think is extraordinary but they might not.

Blossomtoes · 06/10/2021 23:48

@StoneofDestiny

An excellent idea. In the meantime perhaps we could say that I pay your £2 a year and you pay mine for something I disapprove of. There’s a long list for you to choose from

If you think we pay just £2 a year to keep the royals in their lavish style you are deluded.

That’s what all the official sources tell us. But if it’s a tenner a year, we can still do the same deal.
Cascais · 06/10/2021 23:49

@RonaldMcDonald.
Were her parents not dreadful social climbers they would have wanted more for her.
Actually, they brought up an educated, well-adjusted, lovely woman who seems to be in a happy marriage, is an excellent mother and who has good relations with both her own family and her in-laws. She is good with people, is a great ambassador for the country and performs charity work across different interests. If she were my child, and she was as happy as she looks, I couldn't wish more for her than that.

Hear hear

mustlovegin · 06/10/2021 23:51

tiny activists

I wouldn't want to raise a 'tiny activist' for instance. Each to their own

Blossomtoes · 06/10/2021 23:52

What causes do these tiny activists espouse?

julieca · 06/10/2021 23:59

@Blossomtoes the official figures leave out a lot of costs, not least the massive security bill.

julieca · 07/10/2021 00:01

[quote Cascais]@RonaldMcDonald.
Were her parents not dreadful social climbers they would have wanted more for her.
Actually, they brought up an educated, well-adjusted, lovely woman who seems to be in a happy marriage, is an excellent mother and who has good relations with both her own family and her in-laws. She is good with people, is a great ambassador for the country and performs charity work across different interests. If she were my child, and she was as happy as she looks, I couldn't wish more for her than that.

Hear hear[/quote]
You do not know this, you are projecting your own ideas onto a stranger. None of us has any idea what she is like as a mother. How do you know their marriage is happy? How do you know what her relationships are like with her family and in-laws?
And personally I do not think a husband who has affairs is a sign of a happy marriage. But perhaps your standards are much lower than mine.

Cascais · 07/10/2021 00:04

You do not know this, you are projecting your own ideas onto a stranger. None of us has any idea what she is like as a mother. How do you know their marriage is happy? How do you know what her relationships are like with her family and in-laws?
And personally I do not think a husband who has affairs is a sign of a happy marriage. But perhaps your standards are much lower than mine.

How do you know its not.

julieca · 07/10/2021 00:09

@cascais you think a husband having affairs is a sign of a happy marriage?

madisonbridges · 07/10/2021 00:11

@julieca Why would you think she's not a good mother? She's come from a happy family so she has a good model. And her children look happy. Why would you think she's not a good mother other than you don't want her to be? We can see how she behaves with her in laws, we can hear what she says. Her husband loves and admires his grandmother and his father. He has said so. Why must he be lying? Why would she not have a good relationship with them? And you have no evidence that PW has been unfaithful. None. You're just repeating gossip that you want to believe because you don't like them.
I don't know what your standards of marriage are to compare to but I can read other things in your post and I can say your level of bitterness is much higher than mine.

Blossomtoes · 07/10/2021 00:17

[quote julieca]@Blossomtoes the official figures leave out a lot of costs, not least the massive security bill.[/quote]
Well, the worst possible scenario from the Republic.org website, which includes estimated security costs, tots it up to about £7 per taxpayer.

julieca · 07/10/2021 00:18

@madisonbridges we don't know either way. I see children in my life smiling and laughing who have great parents and who have awful parents.
THEY ARE STRANGERS TO YOU.
You are making up stories about their life without having any idea what the truth is.

julieca · 07/10/2021 00:21

@Blossomtoes maybe we should have a Royal Licence that people can buy to fund them? Then the public can decide if they are worth paying for. They could do an annual Royal Family telethon where they get people to donate, alongside appeals from various RF members about the difference they make.
It would have the added advantage of focusing their minds to do more work and prove they are value for money.

madisonbridges · 07/10/2021 01:35

[quote julieca]@madisonbridges we don't know either way. I see children in my life smiling and laughing who have great parents and who have awful parents.
THEY ARE STRANGERS TO YOU.
You are making up stories about their life without having any idea what the truth is.[/quote]
SO ARE YOU!!

derxa · 07/10/2021 06:04

tiny activists 🤣

sangak · 07/10/2021 06:48

“What causes do these tiny activists espouse?”

GrinGrinGrin

I also need to know this.

Morgan12 · 07/10/2021 06:53

His affair has been reported on plenty btw. Just not in the UK. He had an affair. Probably more than one.

But if one wants to be Queen consort one must simply look the other way.