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WildfirePonie · 03/10/2021 17:58

He doesn't care if you have great sex or enjoy it.

That is why you don't feel anything.

BiscuitLover09876 · 03/10/2021 18:04

You really need to talk to him. Does be forget? Or is he depressed?

With the sex thing, he sounds clueless tbh. Do you know what you'd like him to do? Sounds so hard.

AttaGirrrrl · 03/10/2021 18:11

This is grim on multiple levels.

If he really is great in other ways, then you do need to speak to him about it, otherwise one or the other of these issues is going to leave you so resentful that you’ll split anyway.

WhatAShilohPitt · 03/10/2021 18:27

OP, it’s not that you feel nothing during sex. I’m sure you’d summon up some enthusiasm for George Clooney. The problem is that you feel no sexual attraction for a man doesn’t warrant any because his hygiene is appalling and his attentiveness towards you is sadly lacking. Not brushing his teeth is like him saying ‘I don’t care if you’re attracted to me and I’m going to make zero effort.’ This is not you- it’s him!

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soapybubblesandviolet · 03/10/2021 18:47

I’d love a bit of George Clooney! Though I’m quite partial to Machine Gun Kelly.

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Eilatan2018 · 03/10/2021 18:56

@soapybubblesandviolet

I’ve been with my DP for three years and we have a toddler. At first the sex was good but I have never felt how I felt with my last partner during sex, where it was intimate and passionate and I was really ‘into it.’

A lot of the time I do it out of habit and when I do do it, though it feels good, emotionally I feel quite numb. I also hate kissing my partner during it because sometimes he goes up to a month without brushing his teeth (yes, really, and yes, I’ve spoken to him about it multiple times.)

When he’s done, he walks off to clean up and then I’m sort of just left. He rarely focuses on me and if he does, he just kind of sits there looking bored which makes me feel quite uncomfortable so I just give up on trying to get off.

I can’t Orgasm through penetrative sex, only through clitoral stimulation - and I can’t remember the last time I did.

He’s great in other regards, very caring, a good dad, a good laugh. We rarely argue or have disagreements. But in bed it’s just passionless.

Am I doomed to have emotionless sex forever?

I wouldn’t go near anyone who didn’t brush their teeth every day let alone leave it a month! Wtf is wrong with him? That is totally vile.. he must stink. Plus leaving you unfulfilled… wow what a great catch! My partner gets off on making me orgasm and always makes sure I do first!

Get rid now!!

Hawkins001 · 03/10/2021 19:15

@soapybubblesandviolet

I’ve been with my DP for three years and we have a toddler. At first the sex was good but I have never felt how I felt with my last partner during sex, where it was intimate and passionate and I was really ‘into it.’

A lot of the time I do it out of habit and when I do do it, though it feels good, emotionally I feel quite numb. I also hate kissing my partner during it because sometimes he goes up to a month without brushing his teeth (yes, really, and yes, I’ve spoken to him about it multiple times.)

When he’s done, he walks off to clean up and then I’m sort of just left. He rarely focuses on me and if he does, he just kind of sits there looking bored which makes me feel quite uncomfortable so I just give up on trying to get off.

I can’t Orgasm through penetrative sex, only through clitoral stimulation - and I can’t remember the last time I did.

He’s great in other regards, very caring, a good dad, a good laugh. We rarely argue or have disagreements. But in bed it’s just passionless.

Am I doomed to have emotionless sex forever?

From the sounds of it, is it likely to improve or would you be better having an affair or an open arrangement ?

Hawkins001 · 03/10/2021 19:16

I would recommend a sports massager wand, they are very good

Kittykat93 · 03/10/2021 19:22

@Hawkins001

I would recommend a sports massager wand, they are very good

Well that's totally missing the point...I'm sure op can masturbate, but she's asking about her partner here ! Who for the record sounds revolting. But still

PermanentTemporary · 03/10/2021 19:23

I can't get past the teeth either. Does he have some kind of sensory issue? Would he use a mouthwash?

I feel very sad that he's unable to find your pleasure interesting.

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soapybubblesandviolet · 03/10/2021 19:29

He does use mouthwash most days to be fair.

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IWantT0BreakFree · 03/10/2021 19:31

He's seflish in bed and has such poor basic hygiene that you can't bear to kiss him. Either you stay and accept that this is all he is offering, or you give your head a wobble and find someone who has a bit more respect for you and for themselves. I can't believe he is happy for you to put up with this. Total disrespect.

Toomuchtooyoung01 · 03/10/2021 19:33

Seriously his teeth must be disgusting. Does he shower/use deodorant etc?

User85858686 · 03/10/2021 19:34

@soapybubblesandviolet

I’d love a bit of George Clooney! Though I’m quite partial to Machine Gun Kelly.

I bet MGK cleans his teeth. I doubt Megan Fox would put up with the vile specimen you're married to.

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soapybubblesandviolet · 03/10/2021 19:42

MGK has beautiful teeth. I wish I was her (for him and for her). Yes, he does shower daily.

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NotAnotherPylon · 03/10/2021 19:43

Crikey, you won't have to worry about his dental hygiene for long. He won't have any teeth. Just a few stumps. That is bad.

imnotacelebritygetmeoutofhere · 03/10/2021 19:45

I couldn't be in the same house as someone who doesn't clean their teeth, let alone in the same bed. That's really disgusting. I honestly don't understand how you got past that to be in a long term relationship with him.
Re the sex issue. You've said it yourself, you can't bear to kiss him, he's not interested in giving you pleasure. You are not sexually compatible. Are either of you attracted to each other or is it just habit?

Aisforharlot · 03/10/2021 19:52

I think you are mentally checking out, and that's a good indication of the direction you're going to eventually go in.

Teeth aside, I was with a man who was pretty much like this in bed. I left him, his disinterest in my pleasure did a number on my self confidence though.

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soapybubblesandviolet · 03/10/2021 19:56

I feel you regarding self confidence @Aisforharlot and I’m severely lacking in it and have gained a great deal of weight.

I’m so tempted to join dating apps just for some kind of interest and validation but obviously I know that’s wrong. If we didn’t have a child together things would have been different.

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pinkyredrose · 03/10/2021 19:58

He does use mouthwash most days to be fair.

To be fair?

pinkyredrose · 03/10/2021 19:59

Do you want to stay with him?

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soapybubblesandviolet · 03/10/2021 20:00

@pinkyredrose

Do you want to stay with him?

I don’t know, honestly. I think I’m just so settled in our ways and I’m just tired of how things are. I’m not sure if I’ve checked out already or if today I’ve just decided that I’m not happy with how things are.

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UniversalAunt · 03/10/2021 20:03

What does his dentist say about his oral hygiene?

I think I know the answer to this question, but I’ll ask anyway.

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soapybubblesandviolet · 03/10/2021 20:05

@UniversalAunt

What does his dentist say about his oral hygiene?

I think I know the answer to this question, but I’ll ask anyway.

Alas, he does not go to the dentist.

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Bombaloorina · 03/10/2021 20:11

Am I doomed to have emotionless sex forever?

If you stay with him - yes, absolutely.