Mean and unhelpful comments

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I'm quite new to MN and joined because I always found myself going on Google and asking questions like, 'what nappies prevents leaks for a baby that sleeps on their front' and would have past answers from MN come up. I thought to myself, 'I always seem to be on this site, let me download the app and join.'

I've only been on here for a month or so but I'm really shocked at some of the responses I see in people's threads and struggling to understand why?! It's one thing to disagree with someone's views or try to show a different perspective but often I see people kicking someone when they're already down, being as negative as possible or adding blatant unhelpful comments just for the sake of it.

Maybe this is the tone of MN and many people don't see anything wrong but if anyone agrees, do you think this is because it's an anonymous site and people can get away with saying mean things? Maybe a case of people being 'keyboard warriors,' and being extra mean because it's not a face to face interaction and so on.

Really interested to hear people's views or if I'm just new here and need to adapt to the jist of things🤔

@LukeEvansWife

Plus calling someone 'mean' makes you sound like a ten year old!

You're clearly one of the mean ones 🤷‍♀️

Clearly I am - but 'mean' sounds whiny

@LukeEvansWife

Plus calling someone 'mean' makes you sound like a ten year old!

And what would you rather she had said bitchy, mean-spirited, confrontational, goady?

Actually yes. Although ironically the thread itself is a tad goady

Women are being killed by men every week.
That’s my point.

But I've had enough of faux naivety this week. So there's that.
But next week we’ll have all forgotten, so there’s that.

@LukeEvansWife

Actually yes. Although ironically the thread itself is a tad goady

I really don't see that it is goady and does it really matter that she's used a word that YOU deem makes her sound like a 10 year old?

It doesn't matter at all as long as he/she is fine with sounding like a whiny child

@BoredZelda

Especially this week.

As opposed to the weeks when women aren’t being attacked and killed by men?

This week because so many failings have been highlighted by the forces who are supposed to protect women, and then that same force victim blames women and puts the onus on them to not get themselves killed by police.

So yes, especially this week

I find it's fairly common, especially on the aibu section. It's always the same names that are rude to the OP and it doesn't matter what the thread is about, they'll always tell you you're being unreasonable and you'll get called 'unhinged' 😆. I find those same posters quite pathetic, just your typical internet trolls who probably wouldn't say boo to a goose in real life. There are some decent posters too though.

@Yourfinestpantaloons your reasoning is flawed - what has happened this week does not give permission for women to be mean-spirited to other women

@LukeEvansWife As a previous pp said you are exactly what we've been talking about

@Saoirse82

I find it's fairly common, especially on the aibu section. It's always the same names that are rude to the OP and it doesn't matter what the thread is about, they'll always tell you you're being unreasonable and you'll get called 'unhinged' 😆. I find those same posters quite pathetic, just your typical internet trolls who probably wouldn't say boo to a goose in real life. There are some decent posters too though.

I agree and I recognise a few on this thread.

[quote Thesummeriwas16]@Yourfinestpantaloons your reasoning is flawed - what has happened this week does not give permission for women to be mean-spirited to other women

@LukeEvansWife As a previous pp said you are exactly what we've been talking about[/quote]
I didn't say it did. I said it's the time to be angry, not be kind

@Yourfinestpantaloons You make no sense at all - we're talking about women being mean-spirited with each other and you're talking about something entirely different!

Women can be horrible to women - who knew?

@LukeEvansWife

Women can be horrible to women - who knew?

Yes but why? Does it give you satisfaction?

No it doesn't particularly. But then ask all the others who do it. AIBU is a bear pit. Nobody has to see the board (you even get the option not to show it when you sign up).

I have only re-registered in the last few weeks but have been lurking for a couple of years. And even without my input, it's full of conflict.

And I have had some vile things said to me in the past. But I'm a grown up so I just hide the thread and move on

@LukeEvansWife

And I have had some vile things said to me in the past. But I'm a grown up so I just hide the thread and move on

"Grown-ups" shouldn't feel the need to be mean-spirited to others and if you have had some vile things said to you in the past then you should be more compassionate.

Oh grow up! Look around you. People in RL and the internet are mean spirited most of the time. If you think otherwise then you are fooling yourself.

But it's goady to come onto a forum and announce that everyone is mean. If I use a forum which I don't like, I either avoid the bits I don't like or I leave.

I rather think it's you who needs to grow up. I'm going to bed now but you carry on being the mean girl in the playground.

You aren't exactly being very nice to me - thank you for proving my point

@LukeEvansWife

You aren't exactly being very nice to me - thank you for proving my point

If anyone has goaded anyone on this thread it is you and if you truly believe that I've proved your point then I feel very sorry for you. Goodnight

I've noticed that people are very contrary – they will take things in the opposite direction from what the OP is hinting at. There's like a crowd of villagers with pitchforks who just like disabusing people of any notions they might have.

@LukeEvansWife

It doesn't matter at all as long as he/she is fine with sounding like a whiny child

@LukeEvansWife

Please tell me you can see the irony here?? 😂😂