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To have carried on running?

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OdettySpaghetti · 02/10/2021 08:06

Went for a run this morning. Ran past a couple of women with offlead dogs (cockapoo and a frenchie) which chased me as I passed them. They were not aggressive, more like running alongside me. The owners shouted of them but the dogs ignored them and carried on following me. I kept on running - before long we (me and dogs!) we’re quite a distance from the owners who were miles behind shouting and running (in a fashion) after us. I ran my usual route, off this path and into a wooded cut through, dogs still by my side. I’m getting pissed off at this point as I know I’m coming to a road and will need to stop so the owners can get their dogs. Sure enough I come to the road and stop. The dogs stop too and just start sniffing around but because we’re now close to a road I feel I have to take the dogs back before they dart across it so I head back the way I came, fuming that this has messed my run up. When the owners catch up one says “if you’d just stopped running we could have got them ages ago!” I replied that their dogs are not my responsibility to which they replied “no need to take them close to a main road though is there? Where is your common sense?” So livid now I say “get your fucking dogs under control, next time I don’t stop at the road”.

AIbU to have not wanted to mess my run up?

OP posts:
lockdownmadnessdotcom · 05/10/2021 08:20

I cannot believe a poster has implied they would let dogs run into the road with them and they wouldn't care if they got hit

Not my concern. If you love your dogs you look after them. I'd grab a small child who was about to run into a road but I don't give a ross about someone else's dog if they are too lazy (and inconsiderate) to keep it under control. I wouldn't run one over, but I wouldn't stop running if one was chasing me (or a small pack of them in this case) towards a road. That may be disappointing to you, but it's disappointing to me that some dog owners don't care about their pets and also think it's fine to allow their pets to chase people.

lockdownmadnessdotcom · 05/10/2021 08:20

toss not ross

lockdownmadnessdotcom · 05/10/2021 08:22

Well I imagine they would have done if the runner had stopped at the time, instead of acting like an arse and taking the dogs and owners on a chase up hill and down dale in order to retrieve them

How is the runner to blame? If dogs chase a runner, it's the dog owner's fault for not calling them back!

sunglassesonthetable · 05/10/2021 08:44

And then once the unpredictable dogs had run into the road, then surely the traffic can just stop

" just stop" 😬

sunglassesonthetable · 05/10/2021 08:45

Yes
Way too risky to be off a lead

Probably

Macncheeseballs · 05/10/2021 08:47

Sunglasses, yes cars can stop too

sunglassesonthetable · 05/10/2021 09:11

course they can. @Macncheeseballs

that's what's called
An EMERGENCY stop.

great

nanbread · 05/10/2021 09:15

@vivainsomnia

Out of curiosity OP. If a 5yo started to run in your direction, not paying attention, their parents oblivious as talking to each other. The kid runs into you and with the speed falls down and hurt themselves. Would you keep running and shoot at the parents they are idiots for not controlling their kid.

Or would you stop, check they were ok, and just apologise to the parents but explain they ran into you in a pleasant voice however annoyed you are that the incident messed up your time?

This becomes a valid argument when kids start regularly shitting on pavements, biting strangers' legs and stealing picnic food.
Macncheeseballs · 05/10/2021 09:19

Sunglasses, eh? If the dogs were running with the runner, surely any traffic would be far enough away to stop normally, runners don't generally run infront of cars either

sunglassesonthetable · 05/10/2021 09:24

@Macncheeseballs please

After reading " and cars can stop too"
I don't think anyone should be taking road safety advice from you.

All the "surely the dogs will do this or that" doesn't cut it.

Macncheeseballs · 05/10/2021 09:27

Sunglasses, haha it wasn't advice as such, just saying if there is a dog on the loose, surely it's not just the runner's responsibility to stop, cars can too

sunglassesonthetable · 05/10/2021 09:33

it's kind of EVERBODYS responsibility to stop in danger and traffic situations.

EVen the OP felt that!

Unpicking it like you are just makes you sound petty and ridiculous.

Macncheeseballs · 05/10/2021 09:47

Sunglasses, well that was my pont, if the runner feels its safe to run across the road, is it a 'danger and traffic' situation?

TheOrigRights · 05/10/2021 09:49

[quote Reallyimeanreally2022]@TheOrigRights

Not seen you around for a bit!

Saw you on the ED thread (name changed)

Hope all ok? Xx[/quote]
Hello,
I'm not sure who you are Smile
I'm OK. Running, working, being a Mum etc.

sunglassesonthetable · 05/10/2021 09:51

With two unpredictable, badly trained dogs following her that she has no knowledge of. Yep I would call that a risk to them or to other drivers.

There are many obvious scenarios where things could go bad. It's literally like the opening sequence of Casualty.

BrendaBubbles · 05/10/2021 09:54

The kid runs into you and with the speed falls down and hurt themselves. Would you keep running and shoot at the parents they are idiots for not controlling their kid.

Dog. Human child. Dog. Human child. Radically different things in law and otherwise. I know some people treat dogs like children but some people treat dolls like children as well, that’s their call not mine.

FrozenoutofCostco · 05/10/2021 10:37

I really hate all this "There was no legal requirement for me to stop!" "Why should I?!?" mindsets these days. I honestly think we're turning into a society of mostly soulless robots. Wouldn't it have been the nice & decent thing to help out the owners by stopping for two seconds???? Ya know, like stopping to let a car past when there's an obstruction on the road.... Takes 2 seconds also. You don't have to. Why should you? Most people do it out of this thing called KINDNESS though!
Yes, they should have decent control over their dogs & I'm not excusing that. However some dogs really are untrainable. Some owners are untrainable also when it comes to being a soft sod and letting them off the lead. It's life. Some dogs behave impeccably for years and then get inexplicably 'triggered' by something random & unexpected and boom! Off they go! (My Mum's dog was perfectly behaved until one day at age 7 he saw a Squirrel (prob one he'd seen before) and shot straight out ON A LEAD into a road with my elderly mother on other end! 🐿

Sorry but I think there was fault on both sides. You were unnecessarily obstructive simply because "Why should I?!?" Behaviour expected of a teenager not an adult with a heart & a moral code.

EerieSilence · 05/10/2021 10:53

I'm a runner and a dog owner. I would have stopped because sometimes the dog owners are dumb, sometimes the most reliable dog has a brain fart but it shouldn't entitle me to endanger them.
The dogs are not the mental extension of their idiot owner. I certainly would have told her it's her responsibility to keep them under control but I'm not a selfish idiot who'd rather have an animal run over so as not to have my pace disturbed because it looks bad and I won't be able to post it on Whatsapp or Facebook to brag to my friends about my daily fitness accomplishment.
You were both YABU, she more but one's twatism doesn't balance out the other's.

BadLad · 05/10/2021 10:53

@BrendaBubbles

The kid runs into you and with the speed falls down and hurt themselves. Would you keep running and shoot at the parents they are idiots for not controlling their kid.

Dog. Human child. Dog. Human child. Radically different things in law and otherwise. I know some people treat dogs like children but some people treat dolls like children as well, that’s their call not mine.

It's astonishing how many posters don't seem to understand that people might not do the same thing if they were two completely different situations.
Stoppochoco · 05/10/2021 11:17

@sunglassesonthetable

And then once the unpredictable dogs had run into the road, then surely the traffic can just stop

" just stop" 😬

Yeah. I remember that bit of the green cross code. Just hurl yourself into the road and wait for the traffic to stop. Works every time.
Macncheeseballs · 05/10/2021 11:20

Yes dog owners/animal lovers are generally 'kind' people, I love how they kindly leave all their dog shit everywhere

2ndtimemum2 · 05/10/2021 12:34

@Macncheeseballs

And then once the unpredictable dogs had run into the road, then surely the traffic can just stop
Here's an idea why don't you spend the day testing your theory!? Like your saying it's so easy for a driver to stop and its such a fool proof idea why don't you randomly run into traffic today and see how often the cars stop? Then come back to us and let us all know how you get on
Leibham · 05/10/2021 12:37

@Macncheeseballs

looking back on this thread it seems you have some sort of axe to grind, going off topic repeatedly about dog shit

most owners are responsible, sorry if this hasn’t been the case for you but stop trying to rally more hate for dog owners, as you can see there’s enough of that

Reallyimeanreally2022 · 05/10/2021 12:48

@Leibham

* would prefer for the animals to die to teach their owners a lesson then that says everything about them*

Genuine question. Do you eat meat? Your family? Children? Just wondering how you feel about animals being killed for…. A nice bacon sandwich for example?

Leibham · 05/10/2021 12:50

@Reallyimeanreally2022

Hold on, did you just compare a runner knowingly running two dogs into the road with a person who eats meat?

You’re deranged

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