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To have carried on running?

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OdettySpaghetti · 02/10/2021 08:06

Went for a run this morning. Ran past a couple of women with offlead dogs (cockapoo and a frenchie) which chased me as I passed them. They were not aggressive, more like running alongside me. The owners shouted of them but the dogs ignored them and carried on following me. I kept on running - before long we (me and dogs!) we’re quite a distance from the owners who were miles behind shouting and running (in a fashion) after us. I ran my usual route, off this path and into a wooded cut through, dogs still by my side. I’m getting pissed off at this point as I know I’m coming to a road and will need to stop so the owners can get their dogs. Sure enough I come to the road and stop. The dogs stop too and just start sniffing around but because we’re now close to a road I feel I have to take the dogs back before they dart across it so I head back the way I came, fuming that this has messed my run up. When the owners catch up one says “if you’d just stopped running we could have got them ages ago!” I replied that their dogs are not my responsibility to which they replied “no need to take them close to a main road though is there? Where is your common sense?” So livid now I say “get your fucking dogs under control, next time I don’t stop at the road”.

AIbU to have not wanted to mess my run up?

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MrsLargeEmbodied · 02/10/2021 12:37

i doubt frenchies and cockerpoos are the type of running dogs that would take part in this scenario, unlike bigger dogs such as pointers

SueSaid · 02/10/2021 12:39

Perhaps we should all just behave like twats, carrying on our entitled business and brushing off anyone or anything that should inconvenience us?

I've had dogs run near me, harass my dogs trying to mount them and I always patiently get ours to sit and stay (which they do) and grab the collars of the untrained dogs to return to the owners. It would not occur me to carry on walking with a procession of dogs 🙄.

vivainsomnia · 02/10/2021 12:47

the dog owners should have had their pets under close control as per the law.
if they had, this never would have happened
Oh yes, that good old 'two wrongs don't make it right' we were taught as a kid long forgotten by the majority of people.

This is exactly why there is so much rage, selfishness and depression in this country. Nobody cares to do right, they only care to strike back and punish everyone in their way.

Mummyoflittledragon · 02/10/2021 12:49

I agree that dogs cannot have 100% guaranteed recall in every given situation. I’ve trained my dogs to return and ignore joggers and they are off lead where recall can be pretty much assured and on lead everywhere else.

I understand your frustration that there are a lot of dog walkers, who allow their dogs to follow zoom off or follow mine, often not noticing they’re trying to join the party. Especially as I’m disabled and big, bouncy dogs could cause me a lot of damage.

However, as a societally responsible human, I wait for the owners to take charge. And this even though this can take a lot of my very limited energy.

Quite frankly you don’t know how lucky you are even being able to run. As a disabled person, I struggle to walk.

I find it incredibly lacking in societal responsibility to not bother to just wait a few moments to ensure another living being is safe. It isn’t the dog’s fault it’s owner is a flawed human. By definition humans are flawed. Perhaps other humans have shown you kindness in different ways - even if it’s just letting you out at a junction - and now you are not prepared to show kindness in this way.

In summary, it is somewhat ridiculous that your self actualisation could be so overshadowed by a non event.

vivainsomnia · 02/10/2021 12:50

You’re not a runner are you? My dh would be so cross if he had to stop his run because of people who can’t control their dogs
How about people who can't control themselves? Their children? Does he get pissed off with them too or does his radar only targets dog owners?

vivainsomnia · 02/10/2021 12:54

I'm a very keen runner and have been for years. Everyone irresponsible get on my nerves. Those who could cause me injury most. That includes people, children and dogs.

Dogs running next to me is the least if it. It's quite sweet. I've never had a dog continuing to run next to me for miles.

That and the mention of the Frenchie, one of the least likely breed to run for miles does make me question the truthfulness of OP's post.

SueSaid · 02/10/2021 12:55

'My dh would be so cross if he had to stop his run because of people who can’t control their dogs.'

'So cross' Grin. Oh diddums! Fgs tell him to get a grip.

There are annoying runners, annoying cyclists, annoying dog owners. Tell him to try to be the better person hmm?

Reallyimeanreally2022 · 02/10/2021 12:56

@vivainsomnia

You’re not a runner are you? My dh would be so cross if he had to stop his run because of people who can’t control their dogs How about people who can't control themselves? Their children? Does he get pissed off with them too or does his radar only targets dog owners?
Oh don’t be daft This isn’t a thread about “what pisses you off”

It’s explicitly about a specific scenario involving dogs and running

inmyslippers · 02/10/2021 12:56

They should be on leads

Reallyimeanreally2022 · 02/10/2021 12:57

It’s when dog owners chuckle and benevolently shake their heads when their dogs have chased after me, causing me to dodge, paise, dodge etc.

As though it’s all a bit of play and joke.

It’s not. I was running, focussed, and your inability to control your “scamp” is bloody annoying

xprincessxjanetx · 02/10/2021 12:58

They should have their dogs on a lead unless they are trained enough to not run off or come back immediately when called. Not your responsibility.

SueSaid · 02/10/2021 13:02

'It’s not. I was running, focussed, and your inability to control your “scamp” is bloody annoying'

It's running not neurosurgery!! Yes dogs off the lead are annoying but these joggers who take it all far too seriously are utterly ridiculous.

TractorAndHeadphones · 02/10/2021 13:04

@deadleaves

Its this attitude that has caused me to really hate dog owners. Its really easy: if, for whatever reason, you have failed to train your dog how to behave in public, then keep it on the lead. Or just don't get a dog if you can't put in the work to train it.

I'm sorry I would have kept running because the years of bad experiences of dog and their ineffective dog control have utterly worn my patience. Learn to control your dog or prepare to lose it!

100% Also a lot of people banging on about ‘mistakes do happen’. The owners didn’t even apologise just blamed the OP. They were clearly deluded about their dog’s behaviour.
Reallyimeanreally2022 · 02/10/2021 13:04

@JaniieJones

'It’s not. I was running, focussed, and your inability to control your “scamp” is bloody annoying'

It's running not neurosurgery!! Yes dogs off the lead are annoying but these joggers who take it all far too seriously are utterly ridiculous.

You’re not a runner, are you?!Grin
tickledtiger · 02/10/2021 13:05

@Reallyimeanreally2022
I’m a runner not a dog owner.
I’ve been bitten by someone’s dog while I was running, it didn’t appear to be aggressive but overexcited and the owner apologised for it “nipping” me.

clockleddy · 02/10/2021 13:06

They should have apologised. A dog went for me on a run recently- jumped at me barking aggressively, teeth bared. The owner and her friends laughed. Arseholes Angry

Reallyimeanreally2022 · 02/10/2021 13:12

[quote tickledtiger]@Reallyimeanreally2022
I’m a runner not a dog owner.
I’ve been bitten by someone’s dog while I was running, it didn’t appear to be aggressive but overexcited and the owner apologised for it “nipping” me.[/quote]
Bloody hell. What a fool

SueSaid · 02/10/2021 13:13

'You’re not a runner, are you?!'

I run, I cycle, I dog walk. Twats come in all forms, runners can be just as annoying as dog owners.

Dogs should be kept on leads but if I had dogs run after me I'd stop no matter how 'focused' I was on my very complex jogging.

hamstersarse · 02/10/2021 13:15

It wouldn’t have taken much to stop

I run and tbh I’d just have stopped. What’s the big deal? 5 seconds off your time?

Reallyimeanreally2022 · 02/10/2021 13:17

@JaniieJones

'You’re not a runner, are you?!'

I run, I cycle, I dog walk. Twats come in all forms, runners can be just as annoying as dog owners.

Dogs should be kept on leads but if I had dogs run after me I'd stop no matter how 'focused' I was on my very complex jogging.

Good on you.

I wouldn’t!

WaltzingBetty · 02/10/2021 13:18

@Mummyoflittledragon

I agree that dogs cannot have 100% guaranteed recall in every given situation. I’ve trained my dogs to return and ignore joggers and they are off lead where recall can be pretty much assured and on lead everywhere else.

I understand your frustration that there are a lot of dog walkers, who allow their dogs to follow zoom off or follow mine, often not noticing they’re trying to join the party. Especially as I’m disabled and big, bouncy dogs could cause me a lot of damage.

However, as a societally responsible human, I wait for the owners to take charge. And this even though this can take a lot of my very limited energy.

Quite frankly you don’t know how lucky you are even being able to run. As a disabled person, I struggle to walk.

I find it incredibly lacking in societal responsibility to not bother to just wait a few moments to ensure another living being is safe. It isn’t the dog’s fault it’s owner is a flawed human. By definition humans are flawed. Perhaps other humans have shown you kindness in different ways - even if it’s just letting you out at a junction - and now you are not prepared to show kindness in this way.

In summary, it is somewhat ridiculous that your self actualisation could be so overshadowed by a non event.

Sorry for your struggles but this thread isn't about you and to criticise someone else for being able to do something you cannot is quite frankly ridiculous.

The 'reasoning' that the OP should feel 'lucky' for her run being interrupted by entitled, irresponsible dog owners, on the basis that she's physically able to run is quite frankly ludicrous.

vivainsomnia · 02/10/2021 13:18

It’s explicitly about a specific scenario involving dogs and running
And sadly too many people enjoying too much drama in their life!

The owners didn’t even apologise just blamed the OP
I don't blame them at all. If OP.istelling the truth, continue to run for miles, out of sight, getting close to a road with the dogs, I wouldn't have apologised either.

If she'd turned back after 30 seconds, I would have done so and thank her profusely.

Therunecaster · 02/10/2021 13:19

@PlonkyWillyWonky

Would it really have hurt you just to have jogged on the spot for a few minutes? A bit of kindness goes a long way
Totally agree. You sound like a right wanker.
vivainsomnia · 02/10/2021 13:20

Good on you. I wouldn’t!
You've made it clear already. Don't assume all runners agree with you though.

Bella43 · 02/10/2021 13:21

I'm always coming up against dogs off the lead when I'm out on a run. I don't know what