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Aibu to not send doc a pic of private area

192 replies

Pud26 · 30/09/2021 20:45

Bit of a long winded one sorry!!

My 2 year old son is having issues down below.

He's red raw and blistering and complaining about it being sore. (Don't blame him it looks horrendous)

This has been going on for a week now, he's not sleeping at night because it's sore and itchy and is itching it like mad! He is now hating have his nappy changed or going in the bath it's traumatising!!

I phoned the doctors today and got a student who said take photos of it and send them through! I absolutely refused as I wouldn't take photos of my sons bits regardless. The doctors then said they had no appointments available and if I didn't send through photos then there was nothing they could do.

Aibu to not send photos to a email address???

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LibrariesGiveUsPower45321 · 30/09/2021 22:54

No way. Tbh I’d call out of hours and describe how much pain he was in.

BungleandGeorge · 30/09/2021 22:55

It’s not illegal to take a photo with children’s genitals in. Genitals are not automatically indecent, it depends on the context/ purpose/ type of photo etc. You’ll see loads of naked shots reproduced in medical texts.

SpeedRunParent · 30/09/2021 22:56

Absolutely not. They should give you a face to face appointment.

ControView · 30/09/2021 22:57

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Marmite17 · 30/09/2021 22:57

@LegoLady95

I have a similar issue. My son is 14 with severe learning disabilities. At his learning disability review a nurse at the surgery told me on the phone to book a GP appointment and email photo of his privates. I asked if he was sure about that and he said yes. When I rang for the appointment the receptionist said definitely not! They offered an in-person appointment straight away, but I won't be able to get my son through the door (very challenging behaviour and bigger than me). So we agreed I would attend an in person appointment and show the doctor the pictures on my phone...
You sound like a very caring and resourceful lady
Biancadelrioisback · 30/09/2021 22:59

In the height of the pandemic I was able to have a face to face with a Dr as I found a lump in my breast. Was then able to have hospital apps within 2 weeks and a f2f review after.

It's a joke that you can't get a F2F app for something that clearly needs to be seen in person.

I speak to my drs regularly for my anxiety meds and they told me that anything new and physical still had a priority for F2F..

SandAndSea · 30/09/2021 22:59

To people who can't see a problem with this: apart from the obvious child protection issues and legalities, do you think that only people who send in photos of their genitals (or wherever) should be entitled healthcare?

MyPatronusIsACat · 30/09/2021 22:59

@Pud26 NO! WAY!

YANBU at all. Like fuck would I be sending a pic through the internet to the GP surgery of my toddler's 'private bits.'

For FUCK'S sake can someone do something about this hideous - and continual - REFUSAL from GPs to do face to face appointments still. Especially when it comes to children. Hmm

This is just grim.

Throckmorton · 30/09/2021 23:00

[quote ControView]@MrsReeves

Yes I am serious. I'm not saying the OP should mail pics of her child's privates to known pedos, but this is a doctor who's asking and for a valid reason. All I'm saying is what are you afraid of? What's the worst that could happen, and how would you ever know or be affected by it?[/quote]
Well, as taking pictures like this is illegal, technically she could end up in trouble with the police. Seems extremely unlikely but I don't reckon I'd want to risk the police asking me why I was taking indecent pictures of my child.

WeAllHaveWings · 30/09/2021 23:01

Yabu

I did an econsult for ds(17) a couple of weeks back for acne problems and they requested photos and the portal specifically said in big letters no images of genitals should be sent. If it was in that area to describe the issue and they would call and if required a f2f (face to foof 🤣) appointment would be made

Gwrach · 30/09/2021 23:01

No, I'm not one to produce indecent images of a minor and send them regardless of of it's to a NHS.net email or a Gmail account.

State clearly to the practice, you will not take pictures of your child's genitals and send them via the internet to anyone.

Demand a F2F appointment.

WeAllHaveWings · 30/09/2021 23:01

Sorry that should be yanbu 🤦🏻‍♀️

Bizawit · 30/09/2021 23:03

Absolutely outrageous 😡😡. He should be seen in person for a start. I would be making a complaint and going elsewhere. Not a chance I would send photos on these circumstances.

careerchangeperhaps · 30/09/2021 23:04

At our doctors, there is a strict warning on the econsult that if you send pictures of genitalia you will potentially be banned.

Very odd request from your GP and I wouldn't be happy either. If the Gp won't see you in person, could you get an appointment with the health visit or see a pharmacist perhaps?

MyPatronusIsACat · 30/09/2021 23:14

@ControView

Just send the pic without a face. I mean what's the worst that could happen, a pedo finds it and gets off on it? So what? How would that affect you or your son, especially as you wouldn't even know about it?
OMG I actually threw up in my mouth right then. Confused

PLEASE tell me you are joking! I mean it's a sick joke, but you are joking.... right.... Shock

MyPatronusIsACat · 30/09/2021 23:15

[quote ControView]@MrsReeves

Yes I am serious. I'm not saying the OP should mail pics of her child's privates to known pedos, but this is a doctor who's asking and for a valid reason. All I'm saying is what are you afraid of? What's the worst that could happen, and how would you ever know or be affected by it?[/quote]
Oh dear God. Confused It's terrifying to think there are individuals on mumsnet who think like you. Utterly sick.

MyPatronusIsACat · 30/09/2021 23:18

@Neonplant

How fucking dramatic. Honestly mumsnet is the gift that keeps on giving.

What do people think is going to happen? I'm actually embarrassed as the dramatic replies. I don't know how most of the people posting function in the world.

Are you fucking kidding? WTF is wrong with you? How can you POSSIBLY, for a fleeting second think what the GP is proposing is OK?!

Stop fucking minimising people worries and fears, by mocking and deriding. It's fucking repugnant.

Sarah2384 · 30/09/2021 23:19

Our GP specifically asks you NOT to send pictures of intimate areas and in fact there is a tick box at the end of the form to confirm that you haven't attached any.

BrilloSolar · 30/09/2021 23:26

@BungleandGeorge Well yes, I'm very aware that Ireland doesn't 'the NHS'. Where did I suggest that? I clearly said I was talking about the Irish Health Service.

CamillaRose · 30/09/2021 23:32

YANBU, it’s ridiculous that people can’t get seen in person. My Dad doesn’t own a mobile phone so they refused to treat him. They said can your daughter not photograph your privates and text the photo? Erm no!

123feraverto · 30/09/2021 23:32

Our gp photo system specifically states to NOT send any photos that contain genitals

MilduraS · 30/09/2021 23:35

Anyone remember the story of the hospital worker who was accessing the records of acquaintances? They only found out because she shared information with a patient's ex partner and the patient reported it.

The case is one of several ICO prosecutions involving staff illegally accessing health records in recent months

www.digitalhealth.net/2017/08/ico-warns-nhs-staff-that-unlawfully-accessing-patient-records-is-an-offence/

eightlivesdown · 30/09/2021 23:35

What's the point of a GP service if cases like this aren't seen in person?

LadyLolaRuben · 30/09/2021 23:49

Its for clinical purposes and the photo won't include his face. Id be willing to send photos

userxx · 30/09/2021 23:52

@SnackSizeRaisin

Damn. I sent a photo of my fanny, how long do you think I'll get?

Are you under 18? If so suggest you go and speak to your mum or responsible adult about this.

Nope, 45.

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