To be fed up of not being able to make any sort of mess?

[Veggieseverywhere]

We both work full time with young kids so DP decided on a cleaner. Fine, except he is now obsessed with the fact no one can make a mess so that the cleaner can clean.

I am getting a bit sick of bowls and plates being whisked off me two seconds after I’ve finished eating, kids toys being doomed to obscurity seconds after they’ve finished playing and even ordinary household items being constantly put away.

It’s really stressing me out. AIBU?

He needs to take a chill pill and relax. Could he not compromise and clean after kids gone bed.
As for work stuff, he should ask if finished, not just put it in your car

I feel fine about myself, thanks

@Mischance it’s recent, thank god … I think he is going to wind it in now a bit as I’ve made it plain I’m sick of it.

It might sound amazing to people who haven't lived with someone like this. But I found it stressful too, and I am not messy. People like seem to be very uptight generally, unfortunately.

@mrsm43s

Ok, I've told you I'm upset, and you...decide to twist the knife. Nice.

I'm leaving this thread now.

You have upset me, when it was very clear that I was just trying to be helpful.

Hope you feel good about yourself.

No need to announce your flounce.

You were patronising and now you're being overdramatic and derailing the OPs thread

I think mrsm43s is the sort who spends the last day of the holidays cleaning the air bnb

I think people who agree with your DH are people who have never experienced the stifling atmosphere of living with someone like this. The irony is I'm the one who cleans the kitchen and bathroom properly scrubs it out, I'm the only one who deals with cobwebs and cleaning the skirting boards etc yet dp thinks I'm a dirty tramp because I don't feel the need to hoover twice a day or immediately put a book away in a drawer after each chapter. Heaven forbid you have a hot drink that's not drank and the cup washed within five minutes. the irony is I have OCD and had a huge contamination issue growing up where I was incredibly unwell for years. I can see a milder form in dp so try to keep everything neat but some things I do have to put my foot down and tell him it's not happening. It's not healthy to jump up immediately after a meal and race to the kitchen to clean. Think of your own health op.