To wonder who knows your true hair colour

PorridgeLove · 2021-09-27T02:47:03+00:00

Do you also feel that hardly anyone knows your true hair colour? Would you try your true hair colour before turning grey? I am early forties and I wonder if it would be shocking to people around me. Everyone would describe me as a blonde, but I don't really think that is accurate. I guess the polite way to describe my hair is medium ash blonde. I'd call it dishwater coloured. Since I am 19, I have never had my true hair colour. Always blonder, lighter or once or twice with reddish highlights. I never look very done up. I do make-up once a month and never do anything fancy with my hair. My clothes are business casual or smart casual when I am at the office. Really wondering why I bother with the hair colour.

NiceGerbil · 27/09/2021 03:56

Not me.

Others yes sure.

I was v blonde when young. White blonde.

It was a mixed thing really in terms of what it meant about how other people reacted etc.

Anyway.

I'm nearly 50 and have started going grey. I have had short hair for years now and love it. I'm hoping to sort of. Gradually get the (now darker) blonde replaced with grey / white gradually and it won't be a big deal

We'll see.

I do get the long front bit coloured and bleached. Concern is ending up with trump top hair and full grey on sides

Loads of my friends have been colouring their hair for years. Generally to cover grey.

It's rubbish really.

Men go bald/ grey no probs.

All this fucking about. Effort money. To meet something or other. Some female standard.

RainbowMum11 · 27/09/2021 03:59

I am early 40s and don't colour my hair, brunette with a couple of silver hairs but not enough to start the whole colouring thing

NiceGerbil · 27/09/2021 03:59

Oh but my dad did ask me when I was 21ish.

How long I'd been dying my hair.

Me and my mum were wtf!

Anyway OP.

You have fairly blonde hair and bleach a couple shades blonder.

No big deal. Grow it out if you wish. No one will really care let alone be shocked!

NumberTheory · 27/09/2021 04:00

Everyone who sees me knows my true hair colour.

I used to colour it, from my teens through until I was 40. But then I stopped and it really hasn't made any difference. I do sometimes consider coloring it again. It's a medium brown and not that remarkable and I like the drama of it when it's black or has a strong red hue. But, possibly much like you, OP, I'm not really putting much into a "look" in other ways so it makes little to no difference to how other people see me.

starrynight21 · 27/09/2021 04:00

I've been colouring mine since I was about 17 . I'm now 63 and my "real" colour is grey / white / brown , sort of piebald patches. But to the world I'm a peachy blonde and have been for years. Turning grey might suit some people but I never felt that it suited me, specially since it never was one colour but several , all in unpleasant-looking patches. And since it happened over many years, there was never a time when I could say "I'll try going back to my true colour before I let myself go grey". It doesn't really work like that for many people, it's just a gradual process of losing what you used to have, and being replaced by the "old and grey" look.

If you've been colouring yours blonde, but your "real colour" is ash blonde, it probably wouldn't shock anyone since it would look much the same.

NiceGerbil · 27/09/2021 04:01

Rainbow the whole colouring thing.

I've got friends been getting their roots done etc for 30 years! The money time.

Men don't feel they have to do this.

It's totally understandable and I would do the same but it's really crap. IMO.

QueenBee52 · 27/09/2021 04:57

Im half grey half my own chocolate brown., Im not dying my hair.. Im bringing on the Grey and loving it 🎉

liddlelambsydivey · 27/09/2021 05:04

I dye to cover greys, but I've kept it close to my original colour, very dark brown. I let the greys grow out a year or two ago. There's not that much grey, but a lot is concentrated at my temples, so I saw it all day, if my hair was down. Eventually got tired of seeing it and feeling older because of it, so I started dyeing it again.

I don't think anyone else cares. It's for my own benefit, at this point.

SherryPalmer · 27/09/2021 05:19

I haven’t dyed my hair since my 20s, now late 30s. It’s actually a really nice colour now with natural highlights from the sun. I probably will get it dyed once I start going grey though as I don’t think grey will suit my skin tone at all.

QueenBee52 · 27/09/2021 05:29

But grey does match your skin tone.. because your skin ages too 😳

HarlanPepper · 27/09/2021 05:33

Everyone. I'm early forties and salt and pepper (very dark brown/black hair with about 30% white). I don't dye, I like the way it looks.

Porridgealert · 27/09/2021 05:38

People can wear their hair any colour they like and hopefully it makes them a happy. It doesn't effect me and good luck to them. But IMO grey hair just looks old. I know people are always complimentary to women with grey hair but it's ageing. Keane Reeves girlfriend looks like his mother. Sorry.

Porridgealert · 27/09/2021 05:39

Sorry my comment ^ was to QueenBee52 not HarlanPepper.

QueenBee52 · 27/09/2021 06:02

@Porridgealert

People can wear their hair any colour they like and hopefully it makes them a happy. It doesn't effect me and good luck to them. But IMO grey hair just looks old. I know people are always complimentary to women with grey hair but it's ageing. Keane Reeves girlfriend looks like his mother. Sorry.

🤣😂

QueenBee52 · 27/09/2021 06:03

@Porridgealert

People can wear their hair any colour they like and hopefully it makes them a happy. It doesn't effect me and good luck to them. But IMO grey hair just looks old. I know people are always complimentary to women with grey hair but it's ageing. Keane Reeves girlfriend looks like his mother. Sorry.

She's doing okay.. she's sleeping with Keanu Reeves 😂

CoalCraft · 27/09/2021 06:05

I've never dyed my hair and don't intend to ever do so. It has changed colour naturally over the years from black when I was born to platinum blonde a year later to something that is now on the cusp between dark blonde and brunette, and I'm sure it will go grey one day, probably quite soon. I love the changes and embrace them.

QueenBee52 · 27/09/2021 06:06

@CoalCraft

I've never dyed my hair and don't intend to ever do so. It has changed colour naturally over the years from black when I was born to platinum blonde a year later to something that is now on the cusp between dark blonde and brunette, and I'm sure it will go grey one day, probably quite soon. I love the changes and embrace them.

sounds beautiful

Porridgealert · 27/09/2021 06:08

@QueenBee52. It's almost incestuous! 😉

MiloAndEddie · 27/09/2021 07:02

I’m mid-30s and have never dyed mine. Was always too worried it’d wreck my natural hair colour which is actually really nice and usual (if that’s not too immodest to say)

MarleneDietrichsSmile · 27/09/2021 07:07

What did you do during pandemic OP? I saw lots of people’s real hair colour emerging then

I have never dyed my hair as severely allergic to hair dye. It’s brown with a few greys now.

Aprilx · 27/09/2021 07:08

I don’t know what my hair would look like naturally any more, I have been highlighting / dying it since I was about 32 which is nearly twenty years ago. My husband said he had a first glimpse of it naturally during the first lockdown hit that was still just longer roots than normal. Over the next ten years I would like to start to wear it more naturally but not sure exactly when.

Mercedes519 · 27/09/2021 07:09

Completely. Embraced the natural colour of my silver/white hair. Get loads of compliments which actually makes me slightly sad….because I am still bucking a trend being my natural colour in my forties.

The amount of women who tell me they wish they could do what I did but feel trapped in a constant cycle of colouring because of the pressure (clearly from other women as on this thread!) to stay ‘young’.

applesandoranges221 · 27/09/2021 07:53

Anyone who looks at my head.

CBA with colouring it!

Bolognesedoc · 27/09/2021 07:55

I haven't dyed my hair for ten years. My mum still tells me it's too dark and I should go back to my natural colour!

piglet81 · 27/09/2021 07:55

I’ve never coloured mine. It’s quite a nice reddish brown…getting a few silver strands now. I’m far too lazy for any kind of regular maintenance. Going to try to embrace the grey!