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Was he unreasonable?

81 replies

ButterflyBailey · 24/09/2021 12:32

I have never posted in AIBU before but need an honest opinion.
So, I went for lunch with a friend. I had a meal that was cheaper than my friend's. He had Steak and a dessert whereas I had no dessert and a reasonably priced meal. I suggested to my friend that we pay for what we had to eat. My meal after a misunderstanding was on the house. I insisted I pay for my meal but the restaurant wouldn't let me. He then said we would go halves. What we were going halves on was just his meal. I felt this unfair as he was the one ordering expensive things from a restaurant which isn't exactly cheap. In the end we did go halves but I feel the he was unreasonable to say that to the waiting staff. I would have paid for the drinks and felt he should have paid for himself since that was originally the idea. Who is unreasonable? What should I do?

OP posts:
debwong · 24/09/2021 19:05

What a fuss over two quid.

Flyingantday · 24/09/2021 22:48

@gannett

If I got a meal on the house unexpectedly I would definitely offer to go halves on a friend's meal. Would feel a bit uncomfortable watching them pay full price while I didn't need to put my hand in my pocket. Share the good fortune and all that.

The fact that he ordered a steak is immaterial. Half of his meal surely can't be more than your whole meal so you're still within budget.

Agree with this

Is this a good friend you actually like op?

horsemadgal · 24/09/2021 23:39

No this isn't fair.
Your meal was £13. You saved £3 by paying £10 towards your friend's meal. They saved £10, so they benefitted the most.

EatYourVegetables · 24/09/2021 23:53

@heidbuttsupper

I sometimes wonder why people go out for meals with friends/family

To get content for their MN threads

TheChip · 25/09/2021 00:15

I'd see it as a win win for both. Especially if you were happy to pay for your meal anyway, which you said you were

Blahglah · 25/09/2021 00:24

Show him your post and it will probably solve your problem, find someone who shares your view on splitting bills otherwise how will you continue from here?!

Yes I think in normal circumstances it's polite to offer to pay more if you've had a lot more, but your meal was free so seems reasonable to split it rather than faff around.

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