Ridiculous name for baby

[PegorySpeck]

My step son and gf have recently called their newborn a really awful pretentious name. I know it’s their choice but neither me nor my husband can bring ourselves to say it in a sentence. Every time we talk about him we say ‘the baby’ or the ‘little one’. We have been very diplomatic and said things like ‘ oh that’s unusual’ but they have started to notice we don’t use his name in conversation and it’s becoming tense.

Any advice on how to move forward?

Advice moving forward - use his name! You’ll soon get used to it. You can’t exactly call him ‘Baby’ when he’s a strapping six foot teenager.

@lilmishap

Wtaf? If you met an adult and didn't like their name what would you do?

The only ridiculousness here is being so affected by someone elses name that you start a thread about it!

Op would refer to them as “the adult” or “the big one”

My friend recently had a baby and her parents did this. She was very upset and said it's changed her opinion of them.

Just use the name, you'll get used to it after a while.

This is a pointless thread if you don't say what it is. It might be that you're being ridiculous and it's a perfectly normal name. If the child is called something like Balonz, Sofa or Food-Processor then it's an issue.

I’m guessing Peregrine!

Any advice on how to move forward?

Get over yourselves. What would you do if you'd met an adult with that name?!

If you can't pronounce it you could ask if there's a preferred shortening but keep trying the long name.

It’s not remotely diplomatic to say ‘oh how unusual’. It’s staggeringly rude.

You need to find your manners. Your behaviour is unacceptable.

There is no alternative really. Unless you go no contact.

Get over it and say the kids name ffs, doesn't effect you in the slightest. Doesn't matter one bit if you like it or not, isn't about you

@MissTrip82

It’s not remotely diplomatic to say ‘oh how unusual’. It’s staggeringly rude.

You need to find your manners. Your behaviour is unacceptable.

Agreed it's not at all diplomatic. It's a dick move OP.

Is it..... Solzhenitsyn ?

Either you pull yourself together and use his name, or use something ghastly to make the name seem better by comparison. Like “step granny Peg’s little Prince”.

Don’t be a dick. Use the name.

We’re all just here for the name so you may as well just drop that bomb OP.
Is it Adolf? Pol Pot? Ted Bundy Jr?

You're being ridiculous and rude.

Yaaawwwn. Another wind up thread....

Use the name. Get over yourself.

If it's Lake, then MN has already warned them...

Just use the name. It might even grow on you.

@noprofessional

This is a pointless thread if you don't say what it is. It might be that you're being ridiculous and it's a perfectly normal name. If the child is called something like Balonz, Sofa or Food-Processor then it's an issue.

I quite like Sofa.

Hunter, Bear, Fox?

It’s a noun.

I’m personally hoping for Fabergé Egg.

My advice would be to grow up.

It's his name. Will be forever unless he changes it. Get over it.

What does Saucepan want for Christmas?
How is Cannister today?
Did Aubergine like his new book?

Go home and giggle and cringe if you want to, but you're tongue won't fall off if you act your age and say the word

You must tell us the name! It could be a generational thing - my Nan thought that the common, modern name that I gave one of my kids was ridiculous and suggested Roger instead.

It's really rude to refuse to call someone by their name though, this could damage your relationship with your stepson and his partner at a crucial time where they will need as much family support as possible. If you want a loving relationship with your grandchild then you'll have to get used to the name.

@Shamoo

Don’t be a dick. Use the name.

Oh and this

My mil decided randomly to call my then newborn by another name as she preferred it. I - might - have suggested in my postpartum state that it was a wrong thing to do. No one took my side, but the one who gives birth to the baby should have final say on the name imo.