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Ridiculous name for baby

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PegorySpeck · 23/09/2021 16:24

My step son and gf have recently called their newborn a really awful pretentious name. I know it’s their choice but neither me nor my husband can bring ourselves to say it in a sentence. Every time we talk about him we say ‘the baby’ or the ‘little one’. We have been very diplomatic and said things like ‘ oh that’s unusual’ but they have started to notice we don’t use his name in conversation and it’s becoming tense.

Any advice on how to move forward?

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Raggedyanabell · 25/09/2021 21:33

No. You're going to have to get over yourself and act like a grown up.

Err @nordicnorth the poster you replied to said that she was upset by the name, not that she just didn't like it. I wouldn't like to guess but I can imagine a couple of scenarios for why someone might be upset, surely you can too.

Seriously no need for the rude reply, what was the point?

Cruiser123 · 25/09/2021 21:45

The name is absolutely ridiculous

When we named our son, we asked ourselves 3 questions

  1. Do we love the name?
  2. Will he get bullied in school for it?
  3. What will the name look like on a CV?
dray9925 · 25/09/2021 22:02

@SaddenedByItAll haha no very close
Findlay/ Finn
I I loved Findlay and I remember DH friend saying there's no point everyone will just call him Finn I was over due and not impressed 😂 now he's just a Finn it suits him but I'm still glad I stuck with Findlay

Looubylou · 25/09/2021 22:18

I like both Stormy and Cloud. He will end up as Stormy.

Cherrysoup · 25/09/2021 22:37

Stormy? Oh my, that’s a top 3 for me and I thought I’d seen some crazy names as a teacher. I actually know a Storm, aged11. My vet’s horse is also called Storm.

I have a distant cousin called Cuthbert. Can you imagine the piss taking once he gets to secondary school?? I presume he’s named after Saint Cuthbert, very Catholic family.

PolarCrew · 25/09/2021 23:01

Where's the OP gone? Evaporated in a storm cloud 😂

blacksax · 26/09/2021 00:05

Must be something in the water.

Recent even more ludicrous naming situation I know of - not a close relation, but how we laughed when we heard the news. 4 months in and I still snigger at the pretentious ridiculousness of it.

TwinsandTrifle · 26/09/2021 07:43

I don't think it's pretentious. It's not Tarquin-Rupert St John Horatio Smith. Son of Kelly and Keith.

It's Kardashian/Towie wannabe. Where the kids are named things like "Psalm" and the points of a compass. I don't know what that is, it's not chavvy as such, it's makes me think of parents with huge lip fillers and sunglasses indoors. Sheep to the media I guess. But the name is the opposite to pretentious.

Turquoisesea · 26/09/2021 14:10

I think she may have disappeared as this post has been picked up by The Sun!

Ridiculous name for baby
SparryG · 26/09/2021 14:16

Lol I was going to rip into OP but then I got to the post where you announce the child's name and now I'm like oh, I totally feel you. I'm cringing on your behalf hugs

Figgygal · 26/09/2021 14:22

Ooh yeah that’s baaaaaaaad

SweetCyanide · 26/09/2021 14:30

Quite simply put, You’re not the parent, suck it up and get on with it, if you’re more worried about saying his name out loud than actual real life problems then you need to take a long hard look at yourself, not this bubba’s parents for giving him a name you don’t like. Lol. Says a lot about yourself when you say his name is a noun, who cares, all that baby and his parents need is love, not judgement over a name ffs you sound like a petulant child, stomping their feet trying to get their own way.

nordicnorth · 26/09/2021 16:08

@Raggedyanabell

No. You're going to have to get over yourself and act like a grown up.

Err @nordicnorth the poster you replied to said that she was upset by the name, not that she just didn't like it. I wouldn't like to guess but I can imagine a couple of scenarios for why someone might be upset, surely you can too.

Seriously no need for the rude reply, what was the point?

I can think of plenty of reasons why someone would be upset by a name. I stand by my first comment however. It's far more upsetting that someone can't put their own issues aside and bring themselves to call a baby by their name, more so for the baby than anything. What happens when the baby growns up and realise that 'so and so relative' can't even bring themselves to say my name. The baby is a human being, completely innocent and deserves the respect of having their name acknowledged.
Bubbles1234567 · 26/09/2021 22:11

I really did think you were being unreasonable, until I saw the name!!

TheEponymousGrub · 27/09/2021 14:03

I wonder if the parents will have to change it, now that it's been ridiculed in The Sun. Maybe they will still say that it doesn't matter what a bunch of strangers on the internet think? It does though, if it indicates what absolutely everyone in the poor kid's real life will think.

Window1 · 27/09/2021 20:30

@TheEponymousGrub

I wonder if the parents will have to change it, now that it's been ridiculed in The Sun. Maybe they will still say that it doesn't matter what a bunch of strangers on the internet think? It does though, if it indicates what absolutely everyone in the poor kid's real life will think.
They're going to see it aren't they?
Unsure1983 · 27/09/2021 21:32

This is a pretty massive betrayal on behalf of OP tbh now that it's appeared in the Sun and the Mirror. Probably having a major family fall out now.

Bananarama21 · 27/09/2021 21:34

Tbh hopefully the parents see sense and bloody change it. My dnephew has a horrible name it's toy unfair on the child.

Duchess379 · 27/09/2021 21:49

I had money on Lord Farquaad. But Stormy is rubbish. What happened to good ole fashioned names like Ben, Peter etc?

1WildFlower · 27/09/2021 22:00

If it's Hunter, it's a lovely boys name.

Bounce55 · 27/09/2021 22:09

@1WildFlower

If it's Hunter, it's a lovely boys name.
It's not 🤣
TwinsandTrifle · 28/09/2021 11:30

Whilst it might cause an initial falling out, actually this thread being highlighted to the parents is probably the best thing for the child.

I hope they see the responses of people on here whose parents thought they were equally clever with ridiculous names. And see how they were bullied, and changed their own names at the first opportunity.

I hope they see 99.9% of people saying how awful it is, and that we are just normal folk, who mirror 99.9% of the people little Stormy-Water is going to meet in his life. They are unbelievably selfish and egotistical to put this on him, just for some terrible "how we met" story that doesn't even make sense as the translation into an even more terrible name, that they don't have to live with. The child does.

Even if it's shit right now OP, you did the right thing for the child. I hope the parents find it in themselves to do the same instead of everything being about them.

LoislovesStewie · 28/09/2021 13:03

@1WildFlower

If it's Hunter, it's a lovely boys name.
No, it's not. Why the fad for giving kids names which are trades /professions? What about Environmental Health, or Dentist?
YouTubeAddict · 28/09/2021 13:52

Oh my, that poor kid!! The teasing he’s going to get Shock And to use the full name is just such a mouthful!!

Garriet · 28/09/2021 15:10

@1WildFlower

If it's Hunter, it's a lovely boys name.
Well it’s not, but also I’m old enough to remember the gladiator with curtains so that writes off this name anyway.