Ridiculous name for baby

[PegorySpeck]

My step son and gf have recently called their newborn a really awful pretentious name. I know it’s their choice but neither me nor my husband can bring ourselves to say it in a sentence. Every time we talk about him we say ‘the baby’ or the ‘little one’. We have been very diplomatic and said things like ‘ oh that’s unusual’ but they have started to notice we don’t use his name in conversation and it’s becoming tense.

Any advice on how to move forward?

Just use his name. You might not like it but it wasn't your choice.

Is it Hawk? Something like that? Fox? Maybe Scout?

I know, it's Pouffe isn't it?

Name or it didn’t happen

Squirrel?

Advice on how to move forward?

Why would you need advice?
You think the name is ridiculous, so although you say you accept it's the parents' decision, you have been avoiding using the name.

The only way to "move forward" is to get over yourself & start using the name.
Your alternatives are either to avoid using the name for the rest of your lives, which will be a hard act to pull off.
Or to use a different name, which ... would be insane.

YABU. Even if the baby is called Balonz, or Covfefe.

@mathanxiety

This sounds like a 'you' problem.

Totally agree with this!

You sound completely up yourselves.

How rude to refuse to say the baby's name. You'll end up on the wrong side of a low contact decision if you keep this up long term.

@WeAllHaveWings

Come on op, let us guess - 20Qs

Q1. Animal, Vegetable or Mineral?

"it’s more about the abuse the poor child will get when he’s growing up."

Well it's starting already isn't it with Gps who can't bear to say the name & a father who now thinks less of his son FFS!

Leaf
Forest
Dale?

Hunter
Bear
Wolf
Beaverdam
Grizzly
Forestfire
Elk

?

OP, you really just have to get over it and yourself. My husband teaches an Antigone. There's a Portia in my daughter's class. And to be honest, both of my daughter's names would be quite at home in an ancient Greek tragedy too. Little Clytemnestra* has never had any trouble.

Anyway, the Mumsnet rules say you have to tell us the name, IF ONLY so that we can all tell you that there are at least 3 of them in our kids' classes.

*Not her actual name! But that WOULD be a bold choice!

Placemarking for if name is revealed

Is he named after where he was conceived? I can't see why the reason makes it worse.

Impossible to say if you’re being unreasonable without knowing the name!

@Iwantcauliflowercheese

Skegness? Glasgow? Great Yarmouth?

@diddl

"it’s more about the abuse the poor child will get when he’s growing up."

Well it's starting already isn't it with Gps who can't bear to say the name & a father who now thinks less of his son FFS!

Maybe the son hates the name OP and her husband gave him and this is his revenge.

I immediately thought 'Skegness'! No idea why.

Hope it's not Scunthorpe.

And... how to move forward?

Un-hoick your knickers and actually be kind to your family and their lovely new baby by using the child's name.

My Dad put up SUCH a fuss each time I told him what we were calling one of our children, and about a week later had settled down and loved it. You're turning this non-issue into anissue and being mean to your step-child. Do you have form for encouraging division?

@user64325

Is he named after where he was conceived? I can't see why the reason makes it worse.

Cafeteria?

[quote CattingT]@Iwantcauliflowercheese

Skegness? Glasgow? Great Yarmouth?[/quote]
More Dublin or Cork. It would be VERY outing!

It's Rainbow isn't it?

@SouthOfFrance agree no one should be teased because of their name but it happens all the time at all schools even at the ones with the best pastoral care. Parents should not make their children an easy target for being teased. This starts with not giving your child an awkward name.

Lettuce?

It must be Fox, after Laurence Fox

Oh how awful for you to feel so much ridicule! You sound like horrible parents frankly. It's pathetic.

@Somethingsnappy

It's Rainbow isn't it?

Oh I think you may have cracked it @Somethingsnappy.