To think this won't be embarrassing?

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Im happy to be told I'm BU as DS is my only child.

DS is 20, and in his final year of uni. He lives with his friend in a flat. He's about 3.5 hours away, I saw him briefly in July but then he went back to where his university is. We do call and text regularly though.

He has asked me if I want to visit him this weekend, I said yes. I was telling my sister that I might take him (and his friend) some food, my sister has told me not to as it'll embarrass DS and his friends mum probably doesn't so that.

AIBU in thinking this won't embarrass him?

I'm pretty sure either of my dc would be delighted with a food parcel and I've often taken them when I've gone to visit! Why don't you just asked your son what he thinks?

Mine when away at uni were always happy to receive food!

I don't think it's embarrassing. I'd appreciate free food!

Your sister is weird.

My ds 17 has just when to a festival with his mate. I sent him with a food parcel. Ds was chuffed and his mate was well jealous he said!!
Ime of teens food is always well received!!

I'd have been over the moon

Especially with some 'treat' things that I wouldn't have usually bought.

Not embarrassing at all. I would have been delighted.

We always order a Sainsbury's delivery or something so there is tea and milk and cake in the house without any mould on it!

Your sister is daft. Ignore her.

He won't give a shit

How can food be embarrassing? Unless you arrived with a plate of what he liked best when he was 5 all cut up small for him, obvs.

Yes do it. They'll be grateful.

Definitely not embarrassing, extra points if you include beer

I think as long as it is not Farleys Rusks or jars of Gerber Baby food it shouldn't be embarrassing at all for him.

I didn't go to uni but I started working and living away from home when I was a teenager.
My mum used to bring me bags of shopping all the time. I was never embarrassed and my housemates thought it was great!

When DS lived in halls he said all the other parents visited frequently and brought supermarket shopping with them. We were the bad guys as we only visited once a year on his birthday!!

Your sister sounds a bit odd.

So you, his actual mother, thinks it won't be embarassing but you want total strangers to tell you what he'll think. What's the thinking behind that now

Unless you're going to drip feed that you'll be feeding him said food using a spoon and a game of here comes the aeroplane, your sister is a twit.

Uni students are never, ever, going to turn down free food and preferably beer!

Take the food, ignore your sister

Why would it be embarrassing?
When my Ds was at uni he lived with 3 other students, I visited a couple of times a year other than when he came home and I always took them all out for a meal every time as did the other parents.
They were all grateful to all parents as they couldnt afford normally to go out to eat somewhere nice.

Omg you're brilliant. I would have loved a food parcel at uni!!!

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Unless you're going to drip feed that you'll be feeding him said food using a spoon and a game of here comes the aeroplane, your sister is a twit.

Food parcels are The. Best., according to my 19 year old niece!