To think this won't be embarrassing?

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Im happy to be told I'm BU as DS is my only child.

DS is 20, and in his final year of uni. He lives with his friend in a flat. He's about 3.5 hours away, I saw him briefly in July but then he went back to where his university is. We do call and text regularly though.

He has asked me if I want to visit him this weekend, I said yes. I was telling my sister that I might take him (and his friend) some food, my sister has told me not to as it'll embarrass DS and his friends mum probably doesn't so that.

AIBU in thinking this won't embarrass him?

My kids are always delighted to be given food!

I wouldn’t be embarrassed if my mum showed up with shopping for me and I’m 38 with a husband and three kids!

He’s at uni of course he won’t be embarrassed. What is your friend on?!

I’m taking it your sister has never been a student! He will love it!

Actually she’s probably on here, this is classic MN overthinking.

@Now5sos

Why would it be embarrassing? When my Ds was at uni he lived with 3 other students, I visited a couple of times a year other than when he came home and I always took them all out for a meal every time as did the other parents. They were all grateful to all parents as they couldnt afford normally to go out to eat somewhere nice.

I remember my flat mate's Mum used to do this for me. Her parents were fairly local but mine were 100s of miles away and couldn't visit very often. I loved it when they included me!

@ChimChimeny

Definitely not embarrassing, extra points if you include beer

This is what I came on to say. Include some beers - best mum ever

Take him food, just make sure there is enough to share with his flat mate!

I loved a food parcel when I was at uni. Even better was being taken to the supermarket, shopping paid for and transported home. Your sister is wrong.

There's nothing embarrassing about it unless your food is awful.

I loved it when My Mum made food for me while i was at uni and so did my siblings.

I always took a food parcel

Your sister is fucking weird. I literally don’t know a single student who would have thought that.

I used to take my nephew food shopping when I visited. He had no issues accepting in front of his friends

Your sisters wrong

When my parents or my housemates’ parents would kindly send food we loved it! I mean you don’t have to do it, but it’s a lovely thought and your sister is being weird about it.

Take the food!
Every time i visited with my auntie she always had a goodie bag for me, even up to my mid 20's. The abiding memory i have is of her kindness, i'm now 50. It was how she showed me she loved me. It's a nice thing to do, your sister is wrong.

Supermarket shopping? Isn't it traditional that parents come bearing gifts from the supermarket when they visit their DC at university?

Home cooked food? Even better. Mine often request I bring home baked cookies, cake or things like home made cottage pie and lasagne, if I am stopping by. They love sharing different home made foods with their flatmates when anyone's parents have been to visit. Unless your sister was trying to tell you something about your cooking...

Completely normal and not embarrassing in any way. Why is a parent visiting their child weird? I wasn't lucky enough to have my own parents do this but my flat mate in my final year, her parents were minted and would bring bags of treats, really good quality food and we would have a buffet of gorgeous brie and mature cheddar with bakery bread and crackers, expensive meats, pates, and dessert. We loved them for their kindness.

Even when pregnant my Mum sent me a local sweet that I couldn't get when I lived over 3 hours away. I'd merely mentioned it on the phone and she secretly bought it and sent it through the post. When she visited she would bring cake or biscuits. It is what lovely parents do.

Most students would love free food but if you're actually worried about this you could just text him and ask him if he has any requests.

Any of mine would be very glad of a food package, far from embarrassed. I enjoyed picking out treats they wouldn’t buy themselves as much as the pasta, rice, etc.

My mum would turn up with a load of fresh fruit and vegetables and I ate fantastically for a week or so.

Definitely do it!

Thank you, I will be taking the food

Add beer

Your sister is being weird, I'd have been delighted

Christ I’ve never met a uni student yet who doesn’t love being taken a food package, one of my friends even sends one of hers random sainsbos deliveries.

Glad you’re doing it.

Aww when we had covid my Parents brought us food parcels, I loved it, lots of lovely treats and things we wouldn't usually have, and things that I forgot my Mum and Dad always had in at home....tbh they really did spoil us...!

Not embarrassing at all, just a loving Mum looking after her child.

Hope you have a lovely weekend!

All students love free food!

Your sister is weird. All my mates at uni would have food given to them by family. It's a totally normal thing to happen.