Young mum stigma creeping down?

[DoeDear]

So I am in my early 20s and married with a small baby. So far, other mothers have been okay, but older women have seemed very weird about it. They make out that it's somehow socially inappropriate for an educated woman to have a child in her 20s, that the 'right' time is only in your 30s, and telling me that my child will be disadvantaged because I am in my 20s. I wouldn't mind, but I have all of my ducks in a row, and my child is absolutely thriving (she's about 2 months ahead on all of her milestones. Where she gets that from I don't know, but I'm not going to complain).

Aibu to wonder if this is just a regional thing, or is treating mother's in their 20s with the same unpleasant scorn reserved for teenage mothers is becoming more common?

First baby group I went to I was the youngest by about 10 years and was ignored completely on the two occasions I went.

Baby groups are the most cliquey environments I’ve ever experienced. Nothing to do with age at all, round here they are just full of people who go to spend time with their mum friends and aren’t at all interested in speaking to anyone they don’t already know.

I had mine in my 30s and got short shrift from mums in their 40s and 20s. But after the initial wary circling people calm down, and I make people work bloody hard to offend me.

Most of the crap you encounter is rooted in other peoples insecurities and once you switch to wondering what’s going on for the other person, instead of trying their opinions on for size, life gets an awful lot easier.

People are often frantically justifying their own choices, and trying to shut out the nagging doubts that they’re damaging their dc in any of a million ways. The more emphatic the opinions, the deeper the insecurity.