To think that partners comments about his friends wife are inappropriate or am I over reacting

[minesapinotg]

As I am prone to doing .
Partner and I very happy, very close and no reason not to trust each other. His friend for years is lovely , quiet and sensible but is easy to rise. They are always rising each other about one thing or another.
Partner tells me that he was messing with his friend a few days ago after he met his friends wife when he had to collect something at their house. Friend asked him how he got on and My partner told him that he was exhausted after the visit ... tongue in cheek .. and friend slagged him back and reverted back to normal
Chit chat .General fun. Nothing out of the ordinary.
I don't think he should be telling me though !
I know it's fun and there's nothing in it . He was telling me in general chit chat and having gone through a hard time, how friends wife seemed to be in a much better place and smiling again.
Still though... he thought nothing of telling me this and this is the type of messing that they are always at.
AIBU

Sorry @Bahhhhhumbug I should have said ... she has gone through a hard time and he was genuinely worried about her as her husband was .

They know each other for years

It's a slag because he puts work ahead of his family and my partner is always advising him to spend more time with her and their kids before they grow up and leave. His wife is almost always alone and the kids don't see him from one week to the next . When they are being serious he advises him to give up extra work and mind his marriage ... then they start the banter

@minesapinotg

It's a slag because he puts work ahead of his family and my partner is always advising him to spend more time with her and their kids before they grow up and leave. His wife is almost always alone and the kids don't see him from one week to the next . When they are being serious he advises him to give up extra work and mind his marriage ... then they start the banter

So to me this sounds like he is joking but also trying to make a point to his friend that she may not stick around if he isn’t spending time with her. He’s not saying it will be him that becomes her love interest (although I’m sure many would read into it) but more “mate, get your act together”.

Also maybe he relayed it to you because he is concerned about them being on a rocky path and sort of wants to talk about it. The joking sounds like his way of saying it without being too heavy.

Ah l see, so he 'met her' but not for the first time but since she'd been through a bad time.

Guys do this all the time in my friendship group.

Not necessarily about their partners but their crappy football skills, how light weight they are etc.

I've also had the joke made referencing me but as I'm used to it I don't find it offensive it's just the kind of humour they have.

However, I don't think you'd share that with someone who doesn't share your type of humour - it seems almost like a 'how uou going to react' type thing.

Sorry, I don’t get who is involved.

Did your husband make a joke to his friend about his own wife?

If so, it’s a bit of banter- not in good taste to imply he shagged her.

Although if they have a close relationship, it’s likely the sense of juvenile humour they share. May not be yours, which is fair enough.

@DiscordandRhyme

Guys do this all the time in my friendship group.

Not necessarily about their partners but their crappy football skills, how light weight they are etc.

I've also had the joke made referencing me but as I'm used to it I don't find it offensive it's just the kind of humour they have.

However, I don't think you'd share that with someone who doesn't share your type of humour - it seems almost like a 'how uou going to react' type thing.

I don’t think it’s a sense of humour thing, I think it’s a ‘whether you think it’s normal to make Benny Hill fnaarr sex jokes about shagging your best friend’s significant other’ thing.

I mean, find it difficult to imagine a situation in which a woman would think it was ‘normal chit chat’ to randomly joke that she’d slept with her best friend’s husband while at his house to collect something, or that it would even occur to her to say this, far less that her friend would find it funny.

Move on it was a daft joke.forget it.Don't make a big thing of it with your dp op.😀💐

Dear god 🙄

@MaenadsJustWannaHaveFun

I'd say many a true word is spoken in jest.

I don't think it's a normal male comment to make unless all involved are twelve.

I'd say many a true word is spoken in jest.

So actually he did shag his friend's wife?

@MurielSpriggs I would take from that comment that they think he might want to shag her