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Thread deletions

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Yogsgirl · 16/09/2021 17:00

AIBU to think that there are more and more thread deletions these days.

Looking down my 'threads I'm on list' there are quite a few zapped threads, some which are deleted for obvious reasons, but some seemed quite innocuous at the time, like the thread about comments from teen girls on a group chat, one about someone being unhappy with their primary school etc. What on earth can have gone so wrong on these threads they need deleting?

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Jessiekate33 · 16/09/2021 22:05

Yes! It's so annoying! Like we're children who have to be told how to behave..

steff13 · 16/09/2021 22:09

I like how they always say, "we don't like to delete entire threads." Yes you do, you do it all the time.

steff13 · 16/09/2021 22:10

I belong to another message board that will lock the thread but not delete it, so you can still read it but not post on it. Unless the person has been identified IRL, why not do something like that?

blacksax · 16/09/2021 22:13

@Sundaymorningfiveninteen

I don’t normally get invested but I was really looking forward to an update on the thread about the office joker sending a make visitor into the female showers. It disappeared . I was a bit miffed .

I saw that one and didn't think it would last long.

worriedatthemoment · 16/09/2021 23:00

I asked fr a thread to be deleted as even though i changed some info someone in real life who I didn't want to know what was going on / advice I was getting had spotted it and i didn't want to be compromised so asked to be deleted so sometimes its often for genuine reasons and i had to explain why fo get it deleted
I also had a post deleted as someone reported it , yet it was geniune and I was allowed to repost it when mn looked behind the scenes

mummyh2016 · 17/09/2021 19:09

@Whinge

And if something gets zapped and you aren't clear why then do drop us a line and we'll be happy to explain things.

Why do you delete for privacy concerns, when there are no privacy concerns? Some threads are deleted for this and as others have said it's usually because people are disagreeing with the OP. Is there a limit for how many times an OP can cry to MN and get a thread deleted?

So is it just MN policy that any time an OP reports and states privacy concerns you automatically delete? Because it seems like an OP saying they have a dog, partner or children can be enough of a reason to delete threads these days.

There's no limit. There was an occasion a month or so ago where a poster got her thread deleted due to 'privacy concerns', then a week later posted the exact same thing which again got deleted due to 'privacy concerns'. My argument to the powers that be on here is that once you've had one thread deleted surely you'd be very careful about what else you posted in the future, not post the exact same thing a week later

I asked if posters who repeatedly got threads deleted were ever given a warning or spoken to. I'm still waiting on a reply and that was weeks ago.

scully29 · 17/09/2021 19:19

The one on primary schools was a racist nonsense so I was really glad it was down so quick. There seems to be an awful lot of racist nonsense disguised as concern recently so its really good MNHQ are quick to address this.

Whinge · 17/09/2021 19:42

There was an occasion a month or so ago where a poster got her thread deleted due to 'privacy concerns', then a week later posted the exact same thing which again got deleted due to 'privacy concerns'.

Privacy concerns my arse. 😅 Although I can't say i'm surprised by this ridiculous policy. Honestly MN needs a better troll policy. Perhaps enforcing an account age limited, like photos, where your account needs to be a certain age in order to post. Or a limit on requesting thread deletions. I suspect most posters have never asked for a thread they have made to be deleted, so an account who has multiple requests should be given a warning / strike. And maybe sent information on basic internet safety, and a reminder not to post personal information on a public forum. 😉

grapewine · 17/09/2021 19:43

@Kinneddar

The deletions that annoy me are 'The OP has privacy concerns' in other words people disagreed with them & the thread didn't go as they planned

Exactly!

Maireas · 17/09/2021 19:46

@SheldonesqueTheLazyEyedBstard

I don’t buy the privacy things 99% of the time.

If they don’t like the answers and get pissy when folk pull them up on any resultant snippiness from them, then the thread should stand.

But should the moderators feel it really should go, then “hurty feelies” is far more honest. And then we all know it is nowt but a flounce.

Wise words as ever, my friend. There's a lot of flouncing on here. Plus hairy knuckles. ps the lazy eyed bit is new!

SheldonesqueTheLazyEyedBstard · 17/09/2021 19:54

Hello maireas ☺️

(Name change is true but only for the duration of MAFSUk. )

I’m not one for those who throw a strop when people don’t fluff and fawn over them (read actively disagree!) or those who require Immac gloves.

I unxerstand deleting those with hairy handies.

I do get irked with flouncers demanding deletions. As you know…

Hope you are well my friend x

Maireas · 17/09/2021 19:56

Remember the thread where someone asked for detailed sexual advice? The hairy hands were strong on that one.
They asked for deletion on "privacy" grounds.
After being rude to us!

SheldonesqueTheLazyEyedBstard · 17/09/2021 19:59

I’ve not forgotten that one.

Was that the one who said I was low in breeding? I forget 😉

Privacy my humps. The hair on the hands got that fluffy they were unable to move their fingers to type.. 🤣

Maireas · 17/09/2021 20:05

😂😂😂 probably the breeding!!
I always spot the anti teacher trolls.
They're usually on the lines of a 14 year old DD getting her thighs touched and school doing nowt about it. Always bollox.

ChicChaos · 17/09/2021 20:09

@CarolineMumsnet

Hello

We really don't like removing threads as we know how frustrating it can be especially if you've taken the time to post on there.

We do sometimes reinstate threads. If we've removed with a 'taking a look' and then we don't get back to reinstate or update the deletion message then it's more than likely things didn't check out behind the scenes or that at the very least it was all raising more questions than answers.

We try and make deletions or post on the thread to stop things descending if we can see things are getting a bit heated but when we've made so many deletions the thread's starting to look like swiss cheese then we sometimes decide it's best all round to pull it.

Where we can see a thread is causing the OP distress we will look at helping them out and this can sometimes mean removing it for them. At the end of the day we're here to make lives easier.

Hope that answers some of the questions above. And if something gets zapped and you aren't clear why then do drop us a line and we'll be happy to explain things.

How about a link in the deletion message to contact MNHQ if you have questions?

SheldonesqueTheLazyEyedBstard · 17/09/2021 20:20

You get anti-teacher trolls? 🤬

I hope they can count to one 🖕🏽

(I’ll take a detention for rudeness but it was done with the best of intentions - honest!) 😇

Maireas · 17/09/2021 20:24

I'm giving you a merit and a @SheldonesqueTheLazyEyedBstard!! xx

Bluntness100 · 17/09/2021 20:25

The second thread by that “kitty” poster was just really odd if anyone saw it, I wasn’t surprised it was taken down.

Lurcherloves · 17/09/2021 20:33

There are some nasty, ignorant comments made on here and I guess some people feel rubbish receiving those and ask that their thread is deleted. Unfortunately, people aren’t always kind or compassionate

worriedatthemoment · 17/09/2021 21:22

Maybe some are deleted as some people can be horrible on here sat behind a keyboard and maybe someone isn't prepared for some of the abuse and its gets too much.
Should MN ignore them if they ask and say its causing them suffering or that maybe they have been outed and that could cause concerns

Sparklingbrook · 17/09/2021 21:29

If it's genuinely outing and they've been unwise to post then fair enough.

If it's just because they don't like the replies then deleting it isn't going to help them, they've already read them. So they should just hide the thread or not engage with it further in that case.
Anything abusive should be reported.

ItWearsTheBatteriesOut · 17/09/2021 22:35

I vote for 'nowt but a flounce' deletion message.

SpittinKitten · 17/09/2021 22:38

@Bluntness100

The second thread by that “kitty” poster was just really odd if anyone saw it, I wasn’t surprised it was taken down.

I was quite taken aback by it.

Bluntness100 · 18/09/2021 06:49

@SpittinKitten, me too, although I thought the prevjous thread had also went weird but that new thread was just something else.

Goatling · 18/09/2021 07:26

I practically begged mn to take a thread of mine down as I had been outed in real life and it caused so much trouble it affected my mental health so badly. They didn't care a bit and refused to take it down.

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