Asking dc about school day

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Most of us as parents ask about our dcs school day, right?
I don't do drop offs or pick ups coz of my working hours, I'm lucky if I even get to attend a virtual meeting with teaching with my hours.

My dc doesn't particularly like to tell me about their day no matter how I phrase it. So I've learnt to now say "who did you play with today?" Followed by "what did you play?" "who did you sit with at lunch?" "What made you happy?" Or "Did you do anything that would make mummy and daddy proud?" Etc.

Is there anything wrong with that? Because I don't think so....

Dp says it's weird to ask about friends who I don't know and I'm being a slag by wanting to know their names.
For context my dc are under 7....

I'm only asking for friends names to get my dc to talk about school day!

Who is BU?

Your DH calls you a slag???

Your DP is unreasonable for using the term “slag”, and you’re unreasonable for letting him speak to you like that.

Other than that your questions seem great, we should know about our children’s days and friends and feelings.

Erm what

He called you a slag?!

And yeah you’re interrogating them.

It’s normal to want to know. It’s also normal for them to not tell you a thing!

Your husband has issues.

All children are bad at answering this questions and there's nothing wrong with wanting to know friends names and details of the day.

The fact that your husband calls you a slag over it says more about how unhinged he is and I would worry far more about that than your children who are behaving absolutely normally, as are you.

Sorry, just realised it’s ‘d’p.

Your partner has issues.

It's totally normal to ask, totally normal for them not to reply properly

What's not normal is your husbands reaction. Slag?

Slag usually means “sleeping around” here, so quite a reach of dh’s

A nag? Hoping it’s a Typo

Wait, what?

Your DH calls you a slag???

Once again on MN, OP asks a question and her OH is revealed to be an arse.

LTB

@PumpkinKlNG

A nag? Hoping it’s a Typo

I'm really hoping so too

It must be a nag? Slag doesn’t make sense and yes it’s normal for kids not to say mine always says they did nothing

A slag??!

Is 'd'p your children's father?

It's completely normal to be interested in your children's life.

I find the best way to get some sort of answers is questions like “what’s the best thing to happen today?”
“What have you learnt today?”
“What’s been the hardest thing today?”

Thanks for quick responses all!
I'm afraid it is not a typo, he called me a slag. And yes where I am from it also means to sleep around.
Bizarre as we have been together 8 yrs, father of dc too. Never cheated in any kind of way.

Erm...so what does 'slag' mean in your neck of the woods?

Of course it's normal to want to know about your children's friends including their names! Personally I find the "what made you happy?" American type questions really cringey, but there's nothing inherently wrong with them. Also hoping the "slag" comment is a typo as it literally makes no sense...

Yanbu. Your questions are good, and helpful in terms of providing a bit of structure for their answer rather than yes/no/stuff. Aldo good for you to get to know their classmates and the dynamics that might be going on there.

Your 'D'P is a fucking idiot I'm afraid. I hope he doesn't let your children know that he thinks it's "weird" for you to show an interest in their friends, or for them to tell you about their day.

I ask.similar questions to you as does DH (at different times)

He doesn't call me a slag however...

Does he think you want to sleep around with the 6 year olds? I don't understand why he called you that.