To be pissed off with DD

[Lollipop858]

She’s nearly 19, got her own house key. Lately she’s been out drinking every night or working in the bar until the early hours, and she KEEPS ON FORGETTING HER KEY, and then waking the whole house up bashing on the door at 1am 3am etc, blowing up my phone - the works.

I’ve really had enough because I also have 2 school aged kids she’s waking up when they have school next day. I’m always reminding her not to forget her key but to no avail.

She doesn’t see why I’m annoyed, AIBU to be thoroughly peed off? What would you do in this situation?

Get a key safe then if she forgets again , which ids highly likely , you won’t be disturbed

She’ll need to take it to uni with her then.
Teach her, phone, keys, bag
Attach it on to those bungee wires in her bag or inside of her coat or something it needs to be habit.

I’m dyslexic and am not particularly organised or good at remembering where things are so I’ve had to develop strategies to remember things as I don’t like to be late or forget things. The key is in the same place as phone etc always. When I put something important down I say out loud where I’ve put it, jogs memory really well. Just a few daft things I do. But it’s part of life.

My 16 year old can not shut a bloody door
Drives me mental, sounds daft but I don’t want the cats in my room or any bedroom and i don’t like the dog running to the front door. We have a toilet/porch type bit between and dog isn’t allowed in there. When he comes in he always opens that door before the front door is closed every damn time, drives me mad. He’s come in before and just left the front door wide open, or he doesn’t lock it behind him.

Turn your phone off and put a set of ear plugs in (buy some for the younger kids too). She will learn pretty quickly after a few cold wet hours in the garden.

Stop making it easy for her.

Keep the door locked at all times. Let her stand outside knocking in the rain during the day too. Do not hurry to answer the door, let her suffer a bit.

If she complains remind her that she could get in with out fuss if she took her key.

Also if you keep your doors locked (a sensible security precaution) and have a proper lock not a Yale it is impossible to forget your key as you need it to open the door and lock it behind you.

In all my years I have never "forgotten" a key. I have once or twice been locked out due to a handbag being stolen or something but my key always goes with me every time I leave the house as otherwise I can't lock the door behind me.

First of all, I'd be worried and annoyed by her being out drinking every night. She's only 19 and needs purpose and direction. But that doesn't seem to bother you at all.

Couldn’t agree more, some of the replies are really OTT and nasty!

@Lollipop858

She is a general PITA. Always has been. I will look into key safes for sure, they’re a good idea anyway I feel, but if I do that and then she doesn’t replace said key I’ll be straight back to square one. Can’t leave one under the mat because we live on a big estate in London. And you’re right, never forgets her phone obviously 🙄

God knows what she’s going to do when she’s at uni next year 😂

My key safe has the key attached to a great big chunk of the device. So even if she didn't put it straight back, the safe would clearly be fully open and the key very distinctive where she left it. It's not going to get hidden under something because it's attached to a big hunk of metal almost the size of the safe!

So choose an ugly one like that.