My head is spinning. I’ve posted about him before, but this feels like a whole new level and I need some opinions before I go batshit at this guy. My baby is 3 months old. I wasn’t in a relationship with her dad but he wanted to be involved. We’ve had ups and downs but generally been getting on okay. I get maintenance paid through CMS as he kept dragging his feet. He’s employed, good job. Comes from a good family. I know that doesn’t mean much but it’s making tonight’s revelation feel like even more of a kick in the teeth.
He’s very quiet, doesn’t tell me much. I’m getting used to that. When I first found out I was pregnant, I showed up at his place in a state of panic. He wouldn’t let me in. Eventually told me he’d taken Coke that night and wasn’t in the right frame of mind to talk to me. Said it was a one off. I’ve asked him since then to make sure it’s not a regular thing as I really am not keen to be involved with anyone that uses drugs. I’ve never taken anything. Maybe I’m naive and it’s more common than I think, so really not sure if my reaction tonight is reasonable but this is why I’m posting.
He sees baby 3 times a week. He gave her a bath tonight and when he left I noticed he left his watch in the bathroom. I didn’t realise it was a smart watch til I was brushing my teeth and noticed notifications pinging through. Tinder verification code. I shouldn’t have looked but I was curious. Next thing I’m reading texts from last week to his friend asking if he’s got drugs, that he fancies shrooms, something else about coke. The messages go back a couple of months and it seems to be a common theme. I just feel sick. I’m shaking. What do I do? Am I over reacting? Part of me wants to not my daughter anywhere near him! But I can’t think straight at the moment. I also saw messages from girls off tinder as early as a couple of weeks after our daughter is born. I know we’re not together and he can do what he likes, but I feel a bit sick at tinder being his priority then.
Please help me think straight.