Anyone else ever secretly impressed with how cheeky people can be?

2ndtimemum2 · 2021-09-13T13:18:46+00:00

Having read another thread where a woman was asked to go 40 minutes out of there way to drop someone elses child to school, or the poor woman who's been asked to give daily injections to her neighbour because her kids couldn't be bothered has gotten me thinking are these people absolutely mental or how are people brazen enough to make these requests? It seems like a daily occurance where a poster seems to deal with some crazy cf!!! I don't think I'd have the actual nerve or be brazen enough to make some of the ridiculous requests that people have made so I'm secretly impressed that there's these group of people who don't even think twice about these off the wall requests!

pombear4949 · 13/09/2021 14:38

Ive got a friend who has asked me to :
walk their dog
look after their dog at my house
water their flowers while away
pick up their kid/drop off to school
baby sit
borrow money
borrow random things
go food shopping for them
feed their cats while away
help with their gardening
help wallpaper their bedroom
take stuff to the local tip with them
pick up furniture they brought off ebay
There's other stuff but its too outing.
..Im a working mum with 3 kids, a home to run, and a team of 15 to manage at work

Sonofabiscuit · 13/09/2021 14:38

I wish I had the confidence or enough bare face check todo it.

Sparklesocks · 13/09/2021 14:39

I think they’re split between:

A) oblivious people who simply don’t know they aren’t the centre of the universe and just assume everyone wants to help them in some way. Would probably be quite shocked if called out on their CFery.

B) people who know very well they’re pushing their luck but try it anyway as you’ll often find someone who is trying to be nice/polite and doesn’t know how to say no.

Part of the issue is people who DO go along with their mad requests for one reason or another, which validates the A) people that it was reasonable and fine to ask because they’d say no otherwise, or the B) that you can get away with it as long as you find someone too passive to say no.

Annoyedanddissapointed · 13/09/2021 14:40

I am sometimes!
I had few situations when I did this

Anyone else ever secretly impressed with how cheeky people can be?

honeylulu · 13/09/2021 14:43

@Sparklesocks has it.

"A" type people are not at all unusual. For some unknown reason they consider themselves special and that ordinary folk will be honoured to bestow them with favours.

lollipoprainbow · 13/09/2021 14:46

@2ndtimemum2 just thinking exactly the same !! How can people be so brazen in asking/demanding I wouldn't dream of it !!

gwenneh · 13/09/2021 14:47

No, I don't think impressed is the word I'd use for the CF in my life!

GemmaRuby · 13/09/2021 14:48

I’ve honestly never come across CFs like this in real life, only on mumsnet. But my DS isn’t school age yet, so I’ve got a few years to prepare myself for the onslaught of CF school mums.

pombear4949 · 13/09/2021 14:49

Part of the issue is people who DO go along with their mad requests for one reason or another, which validates the A) people that it was reasonable and fine to ask because they’d say no otherwise, or the B) that you can get away with it as long as you find someone too passive to say no

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I know I should say no and I think my friend plays on that. eg how do I say no I cannot take your child to school when I'm going that way myself to drop my own kids off. The problem here is that her child has (undiagnosed) special needs and is difficult to manage and also hates my child to the point i cannot leave him in the same room as my child. Also, how do I say no you cannot borrow cash when she knows full well I have it (I earn a lot more) but she has either over spent or over committed herself, which is why she needs to borrow money (usually around £450 a time, not talking £20 here and there). I don't mind helping someone, but mixed in with all the other asks makes me reluctant.

EatYourVegetables · 13/09/2021 14:50

Yes! I’ve been thinking about this too.

The 2x 40 min driving daily was the most bonkers thing I heard on MN! (Ok, maybe on par with learning today that I should be washing my skirting boards ).

darksideofthemooncup · 13/09/2021 14:50

My ex husband asked me to help move house and decorate his new house. I'm sure his current girlfriend would love to walk in and find me up a ladder ' don't mind me, just doing a bit of cutting in'
I actually find it hilarious in its brazenness

RollaCola84 · 13/09/2021 14:51

Agree with @Sparklesocks some people do just seem completely oblivious to the fact that they're not the centre of the universe.

My mum had an attempted CF who she used to work with, asking for help with all sorts and kinds of things constantly, and regularly expecting lifts. She only lived a few streets away from my parents but they weren't even really friends. Most memorable one was asking my retired parents to mind their two tween kids for the weekend, my parents hadn't looked after any kids that age since me (and I was about 25 at the time) never mind two that they'd never met before !

GemmaRuby · 13/09/2021 14:53

@pombear4949 she’s not your friend. I think you’ll find that out pretty quickly when you stop lending her money and looking after her child.

Soubriquet · 13/09/2021 14:55

I think some people go by the “it doesn’t hurt to ask”

PalmarisLongus · 13/09/2021 14:56

I'm more saddened by people's lack of ability to say
"No, fuck off"

I don't get it.

"Can you inject your neighbour? we would, but we can't be arsed"
"No, fuck off"

"Can you go 40 minutes out your way to drop a child at school?"
"No, fuck off, you cock sparrow."

"Can you, walk the dog, look after their dog at my house, water their flowers while away,
pick up their kid/drop off to school, baby sit, borrow money, borrow random things, go food shopping for them, feed their cats while away, help with their gardening, help wallpaper their bedroom, take stuff to the local tip with them, pick up furniture they brought off ebay"
"No, get to fuck you fucking chuckle fuck fuck"

SapphosRock · 13/09/2021 14:58

I have a good CF story from yesterday. Me, my friend and our DC we're having a picnic on the beach. We had been there about half an hour when a woman came over and asked us to move as she wanted a friend to take some photos of her without us in the background. We were so taken aback we actually moved!

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 13/09/2021 14:59

I have known a guy for 30+ years and his ability to get people to do stuff for him is impressive.

He just blatantly asks people, and I think he's so brazen they are too shocked to say no.

Its bizarre and impressive and cheeky all at the same time.

Susannahmoody · 13/09/2021 15:00

Yeah, I'm usually blown away by people's cheekiness. Faves are:

SIL asking me to go camping with my DS (3) and her DS (10). She insisted we go camping near her house, horrendous 3 hour drive for me, which would involve hiring a car. I was stupid enough to agree. She then said niece and nephew (9 and 11) were coming too So all of a sudden I'm babysitting 2 extra kids whilst camping, having driven 3 hours, £50 in car rental, sleeping in a tent?

No.

Neighbour asked if my garage would be available to fit a windscreen in case of rain

Amdone123 · 13/09/2021 15:03

@pombear4949, I agree with a pp, she's not your friend. Friends don't treat each other like this. You sound lovely but she's taking advantage. Next time she asks you to take her child, just say no. I know it's hard and I'm not the best in these situations ( though in this one, I think I would be). Her child is not your responsibility. Also, regarding the money, you're enabling her ( I know you probably don't mean to), but she's never going to learn to budget so by saying no, bank closed, you're actually helping her out.
But, as a pp said, once you stop, she'll probably do a disappearing act.

emuloc · 13/09/2021 15:05

@pombear4949

Part of the issue is people who DO go along with their mad requests for one reason or another, which validates the A) people that it was reasonable and fine to ask because they’d say no otherwise, or the B) that you can get away with it as long as you find someone too passive to say no

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this

I know I should say no and I think my friend plays on that. eg how do I say no I cannot take your child to school when I'm going that way myself to drop my own kids off. The problem here is that her child has (undiagnosed) special needs and is difficult to manage and also hates my child to the point i cannot leave him in the same room as my child. Also, how do I say no you cannot borrow cash when she knows full well I have it (I earn a lot more) but she has either over spent or over committed herself, which is why she needs to borrow money (usually around £450 a time, not talking £20 here and there). I don't mind helping someone, but mixed in with all the other asks makes me reluctant.

The fact that you can not leave the children alone at all, because of how the child feels towards your child, should be enough for you to say no.

Closetbeanmuncher · 13/09/2021 15:05

Type A - deluded, self-absorbed irritating tit

Type B - obnoxious, self-absorbed irritating tit

It's a no from me.

TillyTopper · 13/09/2021 15:06

It is rare I come across these CF people myself, but I did once when my DS were at school. I'm still gobsmacked by it!

A mum from school asked me if me and my 2 DS wanted a picnic by the river. We said yes that would be good with her and her 2 DS so they could play together. We agreed we'd each bring our own sandwiches/drinks etc and meet there. They boys would play in the river. All good.

On the day she called me 30 mins beforehand saying she was so sorry but she was caught up and running late would I mind getting her some picnic food for her and her DS and she'd pay me when she got there. It was a bit of hassle because I'd already prepared my stuff, but I said ok and got it ready. We went down to the river and - she dropped off her kids.... and drove off! Her DS came over and found us, I asked where their mum was and they said they didn't know! I called her and no answer... She turned up 4 hours later to pick her kids up, I asked where'd she been and said it was so much ££ for the picnic and she said she had no money! Picked up her kids and went. The kids did have a good afternoon though!

YouTubeAddict · 13/09/2021 15:07

And all the people who reserve ‘their’ parking spot with a cone or a bin 😤 We had a neighbour years ago that did that as there were only 3 spaces for 5 flats. We’d just move her cone and park there. Her nickname was Cone Lady 😂

Tiramiwho · 13/09/2021 15:13

Don't care if I out myself here:

Knew a woman vaguely who turned up at my house uninvited one evening "for a chat and a brew" and then grumbled on for so long-in shock and horror-that I wasn't tuned to Corrie, that I switched it on and left the room

Same woman wanted to use my £30 odd pound monthly Gym pass for free entry, despite it being against all the rules ( before photo ID at reception etc )
I remember feeling really awkward explaining why I wasn't comfortable with this and she practically blanked me ever after.
Now I just think, What the actual fuck?! 😶

pombear4949 · 13/09/2021 15:25

same as @Tiramiwho - my friend has also asked to use an annual pass I've brought. She used it twice and luckily never asked again, If she had got found out I would have lost the pass (which only cost £15 for the year so don't know shy she didn't buy one herself). She also uses my Sky Go account for her ipad too. We go away for the weekend together once a year. I usually lose something to her during this time. This year it was a set of (cheap) headphones. When I asked for them back she laughed and said I've lost them now and thought it was funny. I wouldn't mind if it was a one off, the headphones were cheap, but it's something every year.