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[midlifeangst]

My lovely son who is on the spectrum married this lady a while ago. All seemed great and they appear to adore each other. As time goes on it appears that she is always being wronged by somebody, her boss/her mum/ the bus driver/ the checkout cashier..you name it-they have done something.
Recently I have joined this category because she took a dislike to one of my closest friends and I refused to stop being friends with her! Yes , handbags at dawn or pathetic school playground behaviour.

My son is being isolated from his friends and his family and sneaks out to phone us. She has told him he is not allowed to see us,until I change my friends!!

She happily lives in a flat that I paid for, uses our holiday home etc!
Am desperate to tell her a few home truths but terrified what she will do to my son.
She’s a piece of work . Advice please!

@HoundofHades thank you so much for taking the time. It’s a horrid situation. I will do you, really appreciate it x

So since all the drama in November she has finally left the flat, and divorce is in progress.
My son was left money by his grandfather, she told him that it showed he trusted her if it was put in her name.. so he did and she’s kept it.
Last week she offered to sell me some jewellery that was mine originally- a diamond ring and done ither things- she said if i paid her 12500 i could have them back.
i am so glad she has gone but the long term damage caused is frightening

Can you get that exchange over the jewellery in message form (not just verbal) so you report her for theft?

You must be absolutely exhausted from this long saga, OP. Hang in there.

I am so glad she is gone - but the damage to your son will be immense.

does he have counselling? He is vulnerable - and from this I assume you are wealthy? He has been taken advantage of hugely here and he needs to be a bit more street smart in future relationships.

thank goodnesses there was no children to weaponise.

How did she get your jewellery?

Hi OP,
Sorry for the horrible situation for you and your son.
I assume there is evidence/a paper trail that the wife had the money from grandad (perhaps a bank transfer).

If your son divorces his wife and a financial settlement found that she awarded 25% of the flat (half of your son’s half) this cash that found it’s way to his wife should also be taken into account (she could owe him half of this for example). Make sure you keep evidence.

You say the jewellery was “originally yours”. Did you give it away. If it was taken from Grandad’s house but belonged to you that doesn’t make it hers. If that’s the case I would consider getting the police involved.

Hope things resolve as well as they can.

Just to add a further thought: if you son transferred his entire inheritance from Grandad you might find some mileage in adult safeguarding for the wife taking financial abuse which might help in a financial settlement (in light of your son’s vulnerabilities).

This is what everyone would be saying if the sexes were reversed.

This is what everyone would be saying if the sexes were reversed.

Everyone is saying it and the sexes aren't reversed.

Absolutely true

Your whole family has been scammed by a con artist.

We have and lessons learned.

I’m so sorry, this sounds awful. Have you sought legal advice? And specifically asked about coercive control and adult safeguarding with regards to financial abuse?
Wishing you and your family all the best 💐