Leftover meat for sandwiches tomorrow, will school really care?

[ChickenSandwichYum]

7yo DD, year 3.

I don’t get paid until tomorrow, have about 40p to my name until then. Won't have time to do a shop before school. I have bread, butter, chocolate, fruit and juice for lunchboxes. The only filling I have is leftover chicken or tuna from the roast I did today.

I usually cook up a big chicken for the two of us and then use the leftovers in curries or for my own sandwiches over the next week.

When I was with ExH he would forbid me from putting leftover meat on sandwiches for DDs lunchbox (she was at Nursery at the time). Said it would make the Nursery (and probably now school) think we’re poor and common. He said it shows we can’t feed our child properly – it was fine to put the sliced sandwich chicken or sandwich ham or cheese, but tuna, leftover meat/poultry or egg where not allowed.

DD happily eats chicken (or pork or beef) sandwiches after school on the days she has a hot lunch, so I don’t see this as any different.

So will school really think badly of me as a parent for putting leftover meat in a sandwich for her? I doubt myself a lot and making lunch box tonight for tomorrow could hear him in my head telling me I was disgusting and setting us up for an investigation by SS (yes ExH was abusive and violent).

Leftover roast chicken sandwiches are the best, go for it.
And if anyone judges me tomorrow for my roast chicken (and stuffing) sandwich they can do one!

Your ex sounds like a fruit loop 😳
Maybe it's all the processed sandwich meat he's eaten 🤣

Your ex is an abusive twat and your sandwich is brilliant. Carry on op, you're doing great.

Your ex is a knob.

@gogohm

Your DD's school will think you are an amazing mum for putting proper (not processed) meat into her sandwich! (If they notice which I doubt)

This!

The chicken sandwich will be delicious and your experience was not only controlling and weird but also just wrong!
But I'm surprised the school allows chocolate, most schools really do not.

Was your husband thick?

If you're looking at 2 lunches, one with water thin pre-packaged chicken (which is reformed with salt and water) and the other sandwich is big chunks or slices of a roast chicken (possibly with some stuffing and cranberry added in) then I can tell you for certain which kid has the better lunch.

Your ex really is thick as mince.

I'm a bit concerned that your kid will only wear the branded school uniform though. That sounds like she has been told she looks poor if she doesnt. What sort of comments has she been privy to from your ex?

Well done for making him your ex.

Some of the kids at the primary school that I did my teaching placement at would never in a million years have leftover roast meat on their sandwiches.

But that's because their families were too poor to own an oven.

I bet your ex didn't think of that did he?

As PP have roundly said your ex is a knob with weird views on what constitutes healthy food.

Leftover roast chicken sandwiches are amazing, your DD will love it and nursery/school Will. Not. Care. Do it all the time if it works for you 💁🏻‍♀️

I LOVE leftover meat from a Sunday roast! There's only 2 adults in my house, but I always buy a joint that can serve at least 4, and we use it for lunches/dinners in the week - cold meat with bubble and squeak is divine. Or cold roast chicken and stuffing sandwiches with mayo. And we're far from poor, although probably a bit common 😬😂. Today's leftovers is pork loin, which will be used in sandwiches with apple sauce tomorrow for lunch.

I'm sorry your ex was such an abusive prick, and I'm very happy he's your ex.

Fairly sure you've been told enough times now OP, but will add my comment as a Midday Supervisor in a school - nobody will think you're "poor" or "common" for feeding your child leftover meat.

Dinnertime is hectic, unless a child specifically points out to us what they have, or we have to keep a special eye on them for allergy reasons or whatever, we likely won't even know.

And even if we did, who the fuck would judge that? Literally nobody.

You poor thing, I'm sorry your ex has led you to believe such nonsense. Having leftover meat from the roast the next day is a treat and far more healthy than packaged processed crap! No one will even notice anyway.

Stupidest thing I've ever heard! If anything real chicken in a sandwich is 'posher' than sandwich meat

But regardless rest assured no one will notice or care..!

Ignore the vote results S it wasn't clear which way to vote. Yanbu to ignore your ex, or yabu to think the school will judge.

... Am I the only one who really wants a leftover roast chicken sandwich now?? NOM! 😂

@GeorgiaMcGraw

So if you cooked a lovely roast on a Sunday, he would expect you to throw away everything you didn't eat by Sunday evening? I can't get my head around the idea that using a joint/chicken for more than one meal is anything but normal (unless you have a large and ravenous family who polish it off, in which case, fair enough). Your kid's lunch sounds great. Your ex is insane and really quite horrible.

He would do just enough meat on a sunday for us, so he'd cook up 2 or 3 chicken breasts, or a very small ham. Same with vegetables, he'd do exactly 3 potatoes each, 2 for DD. Ex-MIL is exactly the same, did exact portions with no leftovers - DD says she's still the same as EO Sunday she goes to Ex-PILs with ExH and Ex-MIL does exact portions for a roast, never more or less, always just enough.

My mum used to deliberately over cook because then the leftovers did an extra meal/sandwiches and she thought it was saving money doing that. I don't eat at my mums often but I do still get the occasional phonecall "Do you want some leftover chicken I've overcooked again?"

It might be a good idea to forget anything your arsehole of an ex ever said.

Hi OP, ex child protection social worker here. Had I received a referral that of a child given home-cooked meat sandwiches to school then I would commend their parent for making their child a nutritious homemade lunch. I’m fact there isn’t a social worker on Earth that would investigate this let alone think it abusive. Your ex on the other hand has tried to scare you & make you doubt your ability at simple tasks - please realise that you do have sound judgement & do not let his need for control continue now you are rid of him.

I'm sorry to hear that you are having a tough time financially OP. Your Ex is an idiot! The leftover chicken is much better than packet rubbish. They add all sorts to packet meat - just look at the ingredients. Real chicken is much better value and tastier too.

Just to address this - in our school certainly and I'd say probably most others - it's the size, and the biscuit that makes a difference. So we wouldn't allow a big bar of dairy milk, but most "lunchbox" biscuits like Pengins, Club bars etc are fine. Especially in the context of a balanced lunch. We had a child who brought in every day some sort of sticky cake (Belgian bun or similar), a big biscuit and a share size bag of crisps. That one had to be referred to the class teacher.

Ignore him about that and every other twat awful thing he ever said to you.

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"But I'm surprised the school allows chocolate, most schools really do not"

From @polkadotclip

@RedskyThisNight

How will the school know it is leftovers and not meat you cooked up specially for the purposes of making sandwiches?

No one will care.
Probably no one will notice.

This

@UndeadSlut

Just to address this - in our school certainly and I'd say probably most others - it's the size, and the biscuit that makes a difference. So we wouldn't allow a big bar of dairy milk, but most "lunchbox" biscuits like Pengins, Club bars etc are fine. Especially in the context of a balanced lunch. We had a child who brought in every day some sort of sticky cake (Belgian bun or similar), a big biscuit and a share size bag of crisps. That one had to be referred to the class teacher.

DD loves penguins, asks me every time I do her a packed lunch for one, it's the one thing I always keep in.

He's a twat OP.
You crack on.
P.S. posh people always eat leftovers!