I've been seeing my BF since November, yes we broke lock down. He has had alcohol issues in the past to the point were he had liver problems. He finds it difficult to pace himself and know when to stop. He drinks in rougher pubs than I'm used to. He is also paying off debts accrued during Covid. So we don't generally go out drinking.
A few months ago he was meeting his brother for a drink. He phones me to join them. When I get there his brother has gone home and my bf can barely string a sentence together. The group was all male. It was embarrassing.
Cut to the end of September. The day after his birthday we went out for lunch with his Mum, it was the first time meeting her. Then he was going out with his brother again. He went at 3pm. At 5.15 pm he phones me to join them. But I declined, thinking it would be the same as last time. Last week he admits that it was a mixed group out for his birthday. The group included his brother's ex, who I know he fancied. I can't help feeling that I wasn't told the true situation so he could do a bit of flirting etc. He is always going on about me meeting his friends. This was the perfect chance. I was sitting in his house by myself, three minutes away from the pub, while he was in there. His excuse is that I said that I didn't want to go, but what I was asked to go to, wasn't what was happening. He claims this woman is a mate, but only because she's turned him down previously. We've argued this week and suddenly he's commenting on her FB posts. He doesn't usually bother with FB. I feel really hurt. I've done a lot for him and it was him who wanted a 'real' relationship, not something casual. Is it overreacting to end it. We are in our 50's.