A few years ago I moved in with my DP. We'd been together for a few years before that.
He has this odd unspoken arrangement with the LL where they both take the piss basically. The rent is significantly lower than the going rate for this type of property in this central area. The LL (has many properties) does no upkeep whatsoever. All the fixtures and fittings are crumbling away and between DP and LL things keep getting brushed under the massively aged carpets.
Just btw, I have made a load of effort since I moved in to improve things, do various upgrades and all the rest of that. In real life I ask people about this and they say, just get the work done/do the work and then invoice the LL. Well hohoho they would not like that, it would take months of bloody back and forth to even get a conversation going and quite frankly I think if you rent then you're paying to opt out of the responsibility of owning. I get the impression this LL wants us to have all the cons of owning without any of the pros...like this actually being our place which it is not.
Last year during lockdown a serious fault occurred in the flat. We did not cause this. I got a tradesperson out to look at the issue and said I would pay him upfront with my plan being to then chase LL for the money. He said fine and we discussed how the problem was urgent and if left unattended would cause much more damage potentially to properties other than ours.
Between DP and the LL they farted, faffed and arsed around and then the guy contacts me and says that since the situation is serious he needs the owner of the property to OK him doing the work, it would not be ok for me to simply pay him. He tells me this has not happened and he will be taking other work.
I had to absolutely rage my arse off at DP to get him to ask the LL about this. By the end I think they were both quite upset because the situation was worrying but eff effing me!
Anyway there is loads of stuff broken in the property now. The cooker has just packed up. I ask DP about it and he starts with "owww did you put a fork in the pan, sometimes that helps...."
It's broken, mate.
I'm just ranting because I have nowhere else to. I want to move. DP agrees to and then starts all this vague crap with me. I said I would move and he could stay here if he wanted to, he got really upset.
I am going to move. DP is actually a good person but somehow gets sort of stuck on things, This "deal" between him and the LL is one of those things he has just got stuck on. They both basically have pissed me off to fuck and back.
We've just had a huge barney and he is audibly contacting the LL. He says I am being horrible. If it was just the cooker I would get that but the whole place is knackered.
I am stuck between him not wanting change and the LL not being arsed.