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And just like that…ffs

317 replies

Oopsupsideyourheads · 09/09/2021 10:25

How often am I seeing this on Sm these days 🙈

‘And just like that..such and such is 7’ etc etc 🙄

Aibu in doing another massive eye roll at seeing this yet again or am I just a miserable bugger?

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EmotionalSupportBear · 09/09/2021 12:30

know what i'm sick of? Joyless fun sponges.

I don't do any of this stuff, and gushy facebook posts annoy the fuck out of me, but my god, leave people alone/let them enjoy stuff without being such a miserable cunt about it.

Just unfollow people if seeing it bothers you so much.

fluffythedragonslayer · 09/09/2021 12:31

@TallulahBetty

Picture of present, captioned 'the boy done good'

GRRRRRRRRR

I have a friend who refers to her husband as "the boy". Ugh. "Taking the boy out for his birthday" "Another date night with the boy" "cheeky birthday surprise for the boy"

HE'S IN HIS THIRTIES FFS

ConstanceGracy · 09/09/2021 12:33

Soon we won’t be able to say anything without it annoying someone.. oops.. already happened!

Fluffycloudland77 · 09/09/2021 12:33

I only keep one person on insta because she’s having “this ones” baby. 5th baby, 4th woman he’s had kids with so I’m waiting to see how long this lasts.

CounsellorTroi · 09/09/2021 12:35

*Or the couple really really love one another, like my DH and I grin grin

So much jealousy and bitterness!!*

That old chestnut 🤣

FluffyWhiteBird · 09/09/2021 12:35

Maybe I am thick, but I don't get 'you do you' confused What's it mean?

Often it means 'I don't agree with what you're doing and I think you're a total idiot, but you just carry on doing it if it makes you happy'. Its an insult when said condescendingly.

Sometimes seems to be used to mean 'be yourself and don't worry what people think' as a comfort when someone is worried about other's opinions.

The shared Facebook accounts I've come across is where one party has a secret (eg an affair, or something equally as big/bad) and has been found out by their partner, who no longer trusts them and wants to be able to read the messages and see what's being 'liked' etc.

I hate the gushy posts and 'happy birthday' especially to people who aren't on social media, but maybe this is why...Someone tried to start a fight with me once, on Facebook, accusing me of not thanking a friend who'd done me a massive favour. I had thanked them, in person, the very next day (and it was none of this third party's business anyway, they weren't real life friends with either of us, just an acquaintance). I guess because I didn't do it publicly on social media then some think it can't possibly have happened 🤷 .

lannistunut · 09/09/2021 12:41

@Glitterblue

I'm getting irritated by the number of posts I'm seeing that says "Go smash year 2, beautiful girl" and "first day in reception done. He smashed it".

I don't even know why that irritates me but it does!

I hate hate hate 'smashed it'

Fine if you actually smashed a world record but it is too much if all you did was poach an egg or something.

B1rthis · 09/09/2021 12:41

Putting children's photographs on the internet so that strangers can see them and making quotes etc it's just alien to me.
It's like popping them in the zoo so strangers can gorp at them, but not charge.

CatsBooksAndCoffee · 09/09/2021 12:45

@Indecisivelurcher

Uh oh, what CAN I post later then when my 4yo goes for his first afternoon at school?!

Was totes going with
And just like that this one starts school #feelingblessed #smashedit

😂🤣🤣🤣👍
theleafandnotthetree · 09/09/2021 12:46

@Malin52

"Don't mind if I do" "Not a bad place to...."

'This one' has made me feel ill for quite some time.
And I'm unsure how so many 13 year old boys have 'grown into a kind, generous, funny young man'. Most of them are boring or shitbags in my experience.

Grin
GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 09/09/2021 12:48

Yes I really hate it too! “And just like that” grrrr

It’s usually a certain sort of rather smug parent who posts it too.

starfishmummy · 09/09/2021 12:50

@MyPatronusIsACat

I don't see an issue with people wishing each other (and other family members, and friends) happy birthday. But a couple sharing a facebook account is super weird.

Also annoys the F out of me when a woman has a facebook account, and her 'name' is (for example) 'Linda Harris was Jackson.' Presumably she puts this so people who knew her before she was married can find her. But you can put your maiden name on facebook in your settings. I get irrationally annoyed by 'Sue Smith was Jones,' and 'Mandy Harper was Peterson'. ARGH! Angry

A friend of a friend uses "formaly"!! Apart from the fact that it should be formerly she can't even spell formally!!
Harlequin1088 · 09/09/2021 12:52

@Reallyreallyborednow

It’s the same as couples who gushily wish each other happy birthday/anniversary and say how much they love each other. Often not a reflection of reality

I work in safeguarding (we often look at social media for indications and evidence) and we have a general rule of thumb that the gushier a facebook relationship is the more likely it is to be abusive. It they have a couples page “janeandmark smith” instead of individual ones- huge red flag.

That's a really interesting rule of thumb. Being ex-Police, this makes sense to me though.

Oh and in our world a joint Facebook account "BobandJane Jones" and the like normally screams "somebody had an affair...." 😂

WhatIsThisPlease · 09/09/2021 12:53

#livingmybestlife

🤮🤮

Extraslice · 09/09/2021 12:57

Sort of related but I hate ‘gives me the ick’
I have never heard anyone say this IRL but MN are obsessed with it

HaudYerWheeshtYaWeeBellend · 09/09/2021 13:06

Just unfollow them if it bothered you, I’ve got a few who has posted “just like that” as their siblings had passed away or they had a rainbow baby etc...

One of my children is at the end of his schooling and it simply has gone in the blink of an eye.

Just bore off, there is so much in the world to get annoyed, than parents showing love for their children to their friends and family on SM.

StorminaBcup · 09/09/2021 13:07

I always see those joint accounts and immediately wonder who cheated but that’s a very sad point if it’s more likely to be controlling.

Another one I hate - Need gone. Usually on selling sites or free cycle groups.

Gerwurtztraminer · 09/09/2021 13:07

Ah it's that ''everything changes, everything stays the same. Anyone old enough to remember before social meida and -gasp - before computers. (yeah I'm an ancient old hag).

Well back there there were these things called Christmas card Round Robins. A personalised card with photos of smug families dressed up in elf suits or Santa outfits. Long photocopied pages inside (or even earlier, badly duplicated on the smelly Gestetner machine) detailing all the amazing achievements of the kids that year. "Johnny got third in the Long Jump! Mary passed her 11+! Julie got Grade 8 music! We are so proud!!!" Oh and Jim got a promotion and Patricia is now a member of the PTA. They'd have loved FB.

The one thing that seems very popular at the moment which I really dislike is posting something that must be shared., Usually after some nauseating inspirational message or some statement about being against bullying or in solidarity with [insert any topic] or "let's see how many read posts without pictures".

Accompanied by instructions - "Please copy and paste to your page, " "Don't just like, share this", Lets see how many people can share this!" "Hey this is too important - please share!" And then there are the "I'm doing a life declutter - testing to see how many of my FB friends actually take the time to read posts - please comment!"

I feel it's a test of my friendship or love. Unfriend me if you like but no I won't play that game.

ACreakingGateNeverStops · 09/09/2021 13:09

The thing that gets me about most of this tripe is the over-sharingness of it all (if that's even a word).
No one needs to hear someone elses inner monologue or see their children's pics and/or holiday snaps. That sort of behaviour was tedious enough before social media came along for goodness sake !

FiddlefigOnTheRoof · 09/09/2021 13:12

Wishing a household member (or worse a child) happy birthday on FACEBOOK is cringe because it’s so clearly performative. It’s for other people. The children won’t read it, and just say it to your husband/wife over the bloody dining table.

CounsellorTroi · 09/09/2021 13:13

The one thing that seems very popular at the moment which I really dislike is posting something that must be shared., Usually after some nauseating inspirational message or some statement about being against bullying or in solidarity with [insert any topic] or "let's see how many read posts without pictures".

Accompanied by instructions - "Please copy and paste to your page, " "Don't just like, share this", Lets see how many people can share this!" "Hey this is too important - please share!" And then there are the "I'm doing a life declutter - testing to see how many of my FB friends actually take the time to read posts - please comment!"

I feel it's a test of my friendship or love. Unfriend me if you like but no I won't play that game.-*

Yes this, and even worse when you’re asked to copy something to your wall and comment “done” in the original post and they say they know which of their friends will do it.

KeepPortlandWeird · 09/09/2021 13:13

Yes it’s cringey but it’s just people trying to present an upbeat non-offensive mode on social media.

What’s the alternative ... type as you think? If you did, that kind of straightforward writing on social media makes people think you are blunt, rude, even aggressive or antagonistic. As it does on MN.

dollybird · 09/09/2021 13:14

I hate those posts that people comment on that go eg 'How many can say they made it to 40 without getting grandkids' or some other rubbish thing that absolutely LOADS of people will/will not have done depending on what it is. Or 'all girls fancy this guy' with a photo of a guy with such huge muscles he looks like he's been blown up with a tyre pump at the garage and is about to explode Hmm

TheYearOfSmallThings · 09/09/2021 13:15

I don't mind "just like that" - they are only expressing surprise at how quickly life passes.

And as for parents saying they are "so proud" of the unremarkable adult their child has grown to be... what parent is going to say "Happy birthday. You are 32 and nothing to write home about."? A person doesn't have to be exceptional for their parents to be proud of them. (I hope!)

RealBecca · 09/09/2021 13:16

That awkward momemt when....