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. . . to feel that breastfeeding was an absolute waste of time?

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RedPandaFluff · 08/09/2021 16:56

I breastfed my toddler (now 20 months old) for the first 5 months of her life, and stopped because I had to go on medication that wasn't compatible with breastfeeding. This was such a difficult decision, I felt like I was letting DD down, not doing the best thing for her, giving up etc. and cried buckets over it.

It's also worth mentioning that breastfeeding was an absolute nightmare for me - constantly trying to increase supply, painful, and I always felt like I was battling my own body.

I persevered for as long as I did because I thought it was best for DD in terms of her immune system, that she'd have some health benefits. However, she's had continuous coughs and colds (and other illnesses) since she started nursery at a year old. Honestly, it feels relentless, as soon as she gets better from one illness, she develops another.

It occurred to me recently that the reason I persevered with breastfeeding was to help build up her immunity. Which it clearly didn't. AIBU to think I may as well not have put myself through all that, and enjoyed the first few months with her instead of suffering the constant battle of breastfeeding?

Someone please tell me it was all worth it!

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MeanWeedratStew · 10/09/2021 11:27

It wasn't a waste of time if that's what worked for you and your baby at the time.

I tried and failed at breastfeeding with all 3 of my children. All are healthy, thriving and achieving well academically, despite me having to switch to formula within a couple of weeks of birth. I also had no trouble bonding with any of them, despite what some on this thread would have you believe.

I do wish I'd been able to breastfeed, though. I will forever feel that my body failed me and my babies. So if you're looking for a reason to be glad you breasfed, here it is: you never have to feel the guilt and failure I feel.

Hoppinggreen · 10/09/2021 11:52

You really shouldn’t feel like that MeanWeeratStew
They sound like they are doing well and that’s what counts

Somethingsnappy · 10/09/2021 14:44

@MeanWeedratStew. Guilt and failure? You have 3 healthy, thriving children. You should feel nothing but a sense of success and achievement Flowers

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