To think DH shouldn't blame me...

[mishroom]

For not putting our family staycation in the main family calendar? I spent literally a whole evening discussing the long weekend with him and booking it. I put it into my calendar on my phone but didn't think to select 'family' for it to appear in both mine and DH's calendars.
I think DH should have put the holiday into his own calendar at the time we booked. He either forgot or relied on me to do it.
Anyway, I'm now waiting to feel his rath when he realises he's booked a work event plus golf plus a clubbing night over this weekend.
He's going to be furious. I should have put it in the family calendar but then surely he should have made sure he had put it in too... waiting for him to realise as I've now added it and it will pop up on his phone. He's working upstairs.

@TempName01

In my family we would absolutely check verbally with the other parent before arranging anything that they were free and happy to have the children for that time, especially for the full weekend it is a courtesy to ask and not just assume the childcare (always seems to be the men who do this). I would not be happy with something just appearing in the calendar that therefore ties me up with the kids for the entire weekend.

Like I said, it depends on family setup. I have teens so childcare is not particularly an issue (and if we had family engagements they would be in the family calendar) as they tend to make their own plans (which they also put in the family calendar). I've found running a calendar arrangement like this actually takes away "wife work" as DH doesn't constantly expect me to be the font of all knowledge about what we are doing when and who is where - I just point him at the calendar. This system only works if everyone puts things in. If someone forgets (which of course does happen from time to time) we all just huff and puff a bit and try to work round it. But the person who "forgot" would be in the "wrong".

Not clear what OP's system is so I don't think we can assume any particular way.

So, how did he react?

I feel your pain. I organise all the holidays and kids activities in this house. I discuss it all with dh and expect him to take charge of booking it in his own diary. This summer several events have taken him by surprise and caused work stress. See also claiming he hadn't been involved in the decision not to use the wrap around care facility to this summers wood school activity and being grumpy about 9am drop off and 430 pick up 2 days of the week or less.

I think it means he's not very bothered about these things it's apparently my responsibility and my "fault". I'm pretty miffed at him.

You don't deserve to be in trouble for not acting like his PA.

If it were something he'd really wanted to do e.g.a weekend away with his friends, he'd bloody book it in wouldn't he?!