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I have a CF

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Nixandwotsit · 05/09/2021 19:31

Never thought it would happen to me... a couple of weeks ago a lady came to my yard where I keep my 3 horses to collect a free item I'd offered on FB. She brought two little girls with her... and of course they were ecstatic to stroke ponies. They were also quite shrill LOL! I had to steer them towards the most easy going pony because one of mine isn't all that tolerant, another is poorly so not feeling friendly, but the pony lapped it up. It was a tense time for me to be honest. I put the big intolerant horse in a stable. I had to keep dragging them away from poorly old horse. Made pointed comments about time to go and walked to their car so they had to follow me.
As they were going the kids started talking about coming back... one was asking about coming to ride... Mum was saying maybe they could come brush and give them carrots. I told them they aren't really that sort of horses, not completely easy going. I didn't have insurance to cover children visiting. If you gave the pony carrots you could cause him to get ill (lamminitis). I was very polite.

Yesterday I arrived at the yard, saw a car parked outside. Go to the front and find the three of them on the yard - where my 3 nags are free roaming, screeching, patting, all very excited. Intolerant horse is being a saint thank goodness, poorly horse is looking miserable and trying to hide in a corner. I was nice, but I told Mum that they absolutely can't come and visit alone and actually, I'd rather not have regular visitors. I repeated the bit about insurance and added that the weekends at my yard are my "quiet time" and I like it that way. I have no idea if they'd fed carrots - mum said not.
Today - I'm sat on the yard with a cuppa, surrounded by my herd. I hear a car pull up and who should appear around the stables? The three of them plus dad.
I'm quite assertive so I stood up and as dad was opening the gate I walked towards them with my hand out in a stop gesture and said "No!". Carried on walking through the gate and stood between them and it. Told them that I have a sick horse, I have a horse that isn't particularly kind, I do not have insurance and they are trespassing. Dad was loud - accusing me of spoiling the girls' day - they weren't doing any harm. I just kept repeating "please leave" and they did with many passive aggressive comments between them and little girls wailing.
Tonight on the local FB group - a pointed post about the joys of being in the countryside, how wonderful it is when kind people welcome children who love animals. You get the picture.
I am so not being unreasonable, but I thought it might amuse you all. They'll get a shock, I'm moving to a new yard on Wednesday.

OP posts:
Burgess67A · 06/09/2021 18:22

What a cheek ! You’re not running a zoo ! And fancy wanting a ride ! Go to a stables and pay for one

Wineandroses3 · 06/09/2021 18:33

What a cheeky bitch. Can’t believe the 2nd you managed to stay so polite after you’d already told them no!

KisstheTeapot14 · 06/09/2021 18:38

What idiots. Great example the parents are setting for their offspring. Some people just don't get the word 'no' do they? So disrespectful.

Hope poorly horse feels better soon and gets the peace he/she needs.

oakleaffy · 06/09/2021 18:38

Ghastly!
Horses cost a lot to keep well, let them buy and fund their own.
It’s not a petting zoo.
You need geese
A yard I was at had geese, superb guards.

Tictocrobot · 06/09/2021 18:56

I know it’s not quite the same, but similar levels of countryside CFery - on our local fb the other day, people were harping on about how they had filled ‘bags’ with farmers’ crops to take home and eat. Some people see the countryside as some sort of theme park.

Tictocrobot · 06/09/2021 18:56

Sorry about my bizarre use of apostrophes above

Margerine78 · 06/09/2021 18:58

This is outrageous, also as an animal lover I HATE it when parents don't consider that their loud kids might annoy/scare the animals. That's not teaching kids to love animals, it's teaching kids that animals are there for their amusement. The entitlement is off the charts!

YoComoManzanas · 06/09/2021 19:07

@Backtomyoldname

Near me an old bingo hall is being demolished. Let’s say my children were interested in this, diggers etc.

I’d never dream of going onto the site and asking for a ride on a digger or asking for one for my children.

Even less likely would I turn up later, wander round the site playing on them and letting my children climb. And then giving the workers grief when they turn down my request/expectation.

I’m not a horse expert - but do know that they can kick. I understand that they have different personalities and might react unpredictably.

Quite frankly they would be the first to complain when there is an accident. I tried to look after my children carefully, not expose then to unpredictable risks.

Yeh but people have done this in the past and still do it. It's why you see the solid hoarding all around building sites with big locked gates. Not just to stop people robbing the materials.
FreddieMercurysCat · 06/09/2021 19:11

These sort of things make me really dislike people. Cheeky buggers.

Toomuchtrouble4me · 06/09/2021 19:28

Next time they come tell them that horses don’t like children and there’s no Santa. They should do it.

MumOfScience · 06/09/2021 19:47

What the actual?! If they want to see and pet horses they can pay for a trip to a petting farm or for riding lessons. Who do they think they are!

BeckyWithTheGoodHair5629456 · 06/09/2021 20:29

@Toomuchtrouble4me

Next time they come tell them that horses don’t like children and there’s no Santa. They should do it.
😂😂😂 yes do this! Cheeky fuckers
Backwaterjunction · 06/09/2021 20:59

It’s funny nobody ever turns up to wash your car for free or much out these horses for free but somehow you are supposed to supply leisure and your ultimate and property for free. Go round to theirs and watch thier tv

Ifeelsuchafool · 06/09/2021 21:28

Well done OP. In RL I often shy away from confrontation but I'm quite passionate about horses and stuck my neck out the other night when on a walk round our village I encountered a middle aged bloke with a young girl in tow who was lobbing apples out of a bag into a field containing ponies and donkeys. Something about their demeanour didn't look natural and why would anyone feed their own animals in such a way so I asked if they were their animals and when they said no I asked did they know the owners and did they have permission to feed them. Again they said no so I said, "then stop lobbing apples into the field, you have no idea of their dietry requirements and could be hurting them." The bloke got very defensive and asked if I knew their dietry requirements. I said "no but then I'm not lobbing apples at them and wouldn't ever do so."
I took a guess at the owner's house and knocked and reported what I'd seen. Lady was very kind and thanked me, even if she thought I was an interferring old bat! 😂 Horsey people are so nice.

Magnoliamarigold · 06/09/2021 21:42

Please - reply to the facebook message with a link to this thread Grin

Trudij123 · 06/09/2021 22:23

I was putting caution signs on my electric fencing ( you have to if it’s along a footpath) one day and a woman with two little girls asked me if the horses would be moving back over - when I said yes, she asked me not to electrify the fence as her girls like going into the field to Pat the horses…. 😳😳

I’m usually quite a polite person, but bearing in mind they didn’t usually give two hoots about the electric being on so i had to double fence it in the vain hope it would keep them in, to be told not to electrify it, I saw red. The field contained an old, grumpy cob, a flighty Welsh a, an old very wise mini shitland and a yearling thoroughbred - it wasn’t the kind of field to have young children wandering about in just to give them a pat. And that’s before I got to the trespass into the field as soon as they went off the designated footpath…

ConstanceGracy · 06/09/2021 22:52

Holy shit, the brass balls on them!

DumbestBlonde · 06/09/2021 22:54

Slight tangent alert - there is a similar thing going on now at the edge of my (large) village; only with pigs.
Not only have they been placed on Common Land, but the fencing is woefully inadequate - single electric fencing, with no warning signs. If they escape - and they have - a few steps and they are onto a road close to a busy staggered crossroads.
In order to seem like Lord Bountiful, their owner/s patronisingly welcome any and all to come and feed and pet them - so much so that these poor pigs are constantly coming to the fence whenever anyone walks past.
Personally, I have never known pigs to be accessible to passers by, let alone that they can be fed any- and everything (just pellets, or what they can get out of the ground). I am unsure of disease they may carry, or transmit.
He SAYS that Defra, RSPCA, Council Animal Welfare, Borough and Parish Councils are all OK with it (and the occupation of the Common Land) - but all I can see is an accident waiting to happen.
People can be so stupid.

nannykatherine · 06/09/2021 23:29

I love how the vote is 100 per cent unanimous in your favour

Nanasueathome · 07/09/2021 07:30

@MumOfScience

What the actual?! If they want to see and pet horses they can pay for a trip to a petting farm or for riding lessons. Who do they think they are!
Oh, that’s good Very, very good
Nanasueathome · 07/09/2021 07:30

Wrong quote aaarrrrgggfffffhhhh

Nanasueathome · 07/09/2021 07:31

@Toomuchtrouble4me

Next time they come tell them that horses don’t like children and there’s no Santa. They should do it.
This is the one. Excellent response That should do the trick
MakeMathsFun · 07/09/2021 11:47

I would consider putting up a sign saying "Private property" or "DANGER: Quarantined Biohazards". I would also write down the car registration if they came again. I would ask their names and inform that this is the third occasion when you have explained to them [all the info you described] and that they are trespassing, and I would tell them that you have their car registration that you will pass to the Police should they disturb your horses again.

trippingflip · 07/09/2021 13:10

Shock @DumbestBlonde

Barmychick · 07/09/2021 16:23

Idiots! Hope you and your horses are ok.👏