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Tell me if I’m being oversensitive

71 replies

Lbnc2021 · 04/09/2021 12:55

I don’t think I am but I’m not really in a good frame of mind.

My father is seriously ill in hospital with covid. We’re not sure if he’s going to make it. My father is a very generous man and would give me the shirt off his back. I have no idea about his will etc and I don’t have any interest in it, I don’t expect anything at all, it’s never been a discussion.

I have a very close male friend (I’m using the term friend loosely at the moment.) since my father became ill he’s maybe called twice and I’ve seen him once so have been feeling a bit let down but tbh I’ve had better things to worry about.

Friend and I both work in the same industry. In the past we have both spoken about how we’d both individually like to open our own place. In order to do this would cost at least 20k.

Friend texted the other day asking if he could come and see me last night as he had a business idea he wanted to put to me, I said ok. So up he comes with his notebook and pen etc etc and says he’d really like us to open a place together etc etc. So I asked him where the money would come from. He said his first thought was my fathers will. I reminded him that my father wasn’t even dead yet and even if he was I don’t know if I would be left anything and if I did I would be keeping that for my children. Then I asked him to leave as I was tired.

I really am quite upset about this, the only word that comes to mind is vulture.

AIBU

OP posts:
plodalong12 · 04/09/2021 12:57

No you’re not. Horrendous behaviour from a so-called friend.

Sparklesocks · 04/09/2021 12:59

No you’re not overreacting at all, it’s really callous and thoughtless behaviour. He’s absolutely not your friend.

mineofuselessinformation · 04/09/2021 13:00

Whatever you do, NEVER go into business with this person.

takehomepay · 04/09/2021 13:01

He’s a fucking vulture! Never go into business with him.

BakedTattie · 04/09/2021 13:01

Holy shit, he actually said that to you? How bloody awful.

He’s no friend of yours.

TheCanyon · 04/09/2021 13:02

Wow, what a bellend. He's not your friend.

Lbnc2021 · 04/09/2021 13:02

Oh no I would never go into business with them and tbh even if life was ok just now and I had the money I don’t think I would want to. I just feel hurt that at a time like this the first thing my so called best friend can think of is how he can profit from my fathers death. While he’s still alive.

OP posts:
MyMILisLovely · 04/09/2021 13:03

You are not being over-sensitive. Hope your father recovers fully.

Bin the friend, he's an arsehole.

sammylady37 · 04/09/2021 13:05

That’s abhorrent.
Re-think his status as ‘friend’

Best wishes to you and your Dad.

Xmassprout · 04/09/2021 13:07

You are not being oversensitive and he is not your friend.

He should be there supporting you. Instead he sees your father being unwell as a buisness opportunity.

oklets · 04/09/2021 13:10

That's horrible behaviour. Definitely not a friend or someone you need in your life.

FannyBrice · 04/09/2021 13:14

Wow, that hits a new low, flick him off your radar
I'm sorry that your dad is ill, life must be hard enough without him in your life

DrManhattan · 04/09/2021 13:14

What a horrible person. I wouldn't have anything to do with them ever again.

Lindaloo08 · 04/09/2021 13:16

Get rid of him he's not a true friend. Sorry about your dad and I hope he recovers to tell that person what a shite he is.

Lbnc2021 · 04/09/2021 13:18

It is really difficult just now, I’ve settled into this horrible new norm. I just can’t believe someone would do this to me. I am not joking when I say I would saw my limbs off if it meant my dad would be ok. And then you get cunts like this.

OP posts:
DysmalRadius · 04/09/2021 13:18

He sounds awful. I hope your dad's OK.

RiversideAnne · 04/09/2021 13:19

Absolutely horrific behaviour - truly despicable.

I’m so sorry, on top of everything you’re going through that’s really awful Flowers

Spaceformetoo · 04/09/2021 13:20

What utterly disgusting behaviour - does he not have a soul?

He’s no friend to you, I hope you never get tempted to go into business with him.

Igmum · 04/09/2021 13:22

That is awful. So sorry OP. you did exactly the right thing. Sending love to you and your dad Thanks

icelollycraving · 04/09/2021 13:23

That is so appalling. I’d block and never see them again.

Lbnc2021 · 04/09/2021 13:26

Trying to lighten the mood a bit here but surely he’s in the running for some sort of CF of the year award on mumsnet. I’m actually pretty speechless about it.

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plodalong12 · 04/09/2021 13:29

I wouldn’t even put it in CF territory. It’s downright heartless and abusive.

messybun101 · 04/09/2021 13:30

... and even if he was I don’t know if I would be left anything and if I did I would be keeping that for my children.

I can't believe you had to justify where it was going after politely (I wouldn't have been!) explaining that your DF is very much alive. What a bastard

Lbnc2021 · 04/09/2021 13:31

That’s true. I’ve messaged him saying that it was totally insensitive to do that to me. He’ll downplay it then I’ll block him

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ApplesAreTheBaneOfMyLife · 04/09/2021 13:33

Shockingly awful behaviour.

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