Tell me if I’m being oversensitive

[Lbnc2021]

I don’t think I am but I’m not really in a good frame of mind.

My father is seriously ill in hospital with covid. We’re not sure if he’s going to make it. My father is a very generous man and would give me the shirt off his back. I have no idea about his will etc and I don’t have any interest in it, I don’t expect anything at all, it’s never been a discussion.

I have a very close male friend (I’m using the term friend loosely at the moment.) since my father became ill he’s maybe called twice and I’ve seen him once so have been feeling a bit let down but tbh I’ve had better things to worry about.

Friend and I both work in the same industry. In the past we have both spoken about how we’d both individually like to open our own place. In order to do this would cost at least 20k.

Friend texted the other day asking if he could come and see me last night as he had a business idea he wanted to put to me, I said ok. So up he comes with his notebook and pen etc etc and says he’d really like us to open a place together etc etc. So I asked him where the money would come from. He said his first thought was my fathers will. I reminded him that my father wasn’t even dead yet and even if he was I don’t know if I would be left anything and if I did I would be keeping that for my children. Then I asked him to leave as I was tired.

I really am quite upset about this, the only word that comes to mind is vulture.

AIBU

Wow. What a monster. That's one of the worst things I've ever heard.

I'm sorry about your dad.

goodness that IS nasty

He's a horrid man to suggest it. You are not being oversensitive. My 2 words to him would have the second word 'OFF.
I'm so sorry about your dad as well.

He replied saying he actually meant I could ask my dad for a loan. I’m not sure how I’m meant to ask someone in a fucking coma for a loan, sorry for the swearing. I told him he’s callous, calculating and self obsessed and no friend of mine. Any decent friend would be doing what my other friends have done, texting me, ringing me for a chat, bringing me a coffee, helping with the kids so I can get a couple of things done, sending daft memes to cheer me up a bit. That’s my real friends, not this arsehole.

What a twat! Has he responsed to the last text?

Responded

No he’s not read it yet, tbh I might just block him before he comes back with another downplay or tries to make out he’s somehow doing me a favour because it’s just so upsetting someone could do this to me

Good idea!

That is absolutely awful. Block him before he come snack with some self absorbed reason as to why it is your fault you are upset by his words.

He read it but I’ve now blocked his ass on everything. I’m just gutted about the whole thing

Good for you op. You do not need that taking up space in your mind!
You're dealing with so so much right now. Someone who couldn't give a toss about anything other than themselves is just not worth it. Time is too precious to be wasted on grabby cunts with sticky hands.
Good riddance prick

Fucking hell. You're right to have nothing to do with the deal or the friend.

I’m so sorry for what you are going through, I hope your dad recovers

I’m glad that the absolute b@rstard of a ‘friend’ has shown his true colours though. Cutting out wasters and CF’s before they’ve had a chance to fleece you is the best of bad options

I just feel hurt that at a time like this the first thing my so called best friend can think of is how he can profit from my fathers death. While he’s still alive.

No, you’re not being over sensitive. At all. You’ve been remarkably restrained in the circumstances….

Thank you everyone for letting me vent. This has knocked the little stuffing I had left right out me. I’m exhausted. I’ve spent the night eating takeaway and watching tv and generally doing nothing productive. I’ve spoken to a couple of RL friends about that’s happened, they are astonished and foaming at the mouth on my behalf. He’s a sick parasite, I would do anything for my friends and have done a lot for him, supported him through some tough times and this is the thanks I get.

So sorry about your dad, hope he pulls through ❤️

Your friend is a d!ckhe@d, well done for blocking him

What on earth goes through someone's head to think that's an OK sugges?! Anyway came on to say hope your dad has a swift recovery. My neighbour was touch and go with covid but pulled through and is doing well now. Take care xxx

He put a note through my door today saying sorry except he didn’t actually say sorry for what he done. Just went on about how he’s not good with feelings and empathy and how he just wanted to keep my head busy. Yeah because it’s not been busy frying away for the past fortnight

Fucking Hell @Lbnc2021, every time he just gets worse and worse, I've read your updates just appalled he calls himself your friend. I hope your lovely Dad recovers, don't lose hope

He actually wrote DO APOLOGISE, in capitals. That’s the sort of thing I say when I’m being really sarcastic. I just hope he doesn’t come near my door again as I don’t know how I’d react.

Well my dad was off the ventilator for a couple of hours today and was coughing a bit which the doctors said was a good sign so I really hope we’re turning a corner 🤞🏻

Jesus, what is wrong with people.

When I was in ICU 5 years ago my DP’s manager said to him that it would be perfectly acceptable for him to move on soon as this was generally the norm for men to move on quickly after a partner’s death. And I wasn’t actually dead yet.

And a friend was seriously ill and not expected to survive and someone said to her DH “I bet you can’t wait until this is all over can you?”

You have to wonder how these people ever get by in the real world without being decked by someone.

Fingers crossed that your dad is going to pull through.