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to think it is not inappropriate to shower when workman is in the house?

61 replies

BunnytheFriendlyDragon · 04/09/2021 10:19

We have someone doing some work for us today, a joiner, in two of the bedrooms. I am in our bedroom feeding the baby (joiner does not need to come in here). I just mentioned to DH I will be getting in the shower so will put baby down in the cot.

He suggested it is not appropriate for me to shower while he is in the house. I said I cannot wait til he's gone as we are going out to a party this afternoon and he is likely to be here until then and I don't think it's an issue anyway though don't really want him to see me in my PJs.

Is it just me who thinks it's odd DH says I shouldn't shower as their is a man working upstairs?

OP posts:
TimeForTeaAndG · 04/09/2021 10:20

So you're not even alone in the house? Your DH is being weird.

Mercurial123 · 04/09/2021 10:21

That's weird and he's being ridiculous.

Hopdathelf · 04/09/2021 10:21

How odd. Especially since there are two of you at home and your DH can see to anything the workman needs.

Akire · 04/09/2021 10:21

What the! Does he think you will be waddling past the building in teeny towel ? Just ignore him do what you normally do when have visitors use a dressing gown/towel/get dressed bathroom before you leave.

sbhydrogen · 04/09/2021 10:22

Dear DH,

Don't be ridiculous.

Love OP

Gwenhwyfar · 04/09/2021 10:23

Is it walking around in just a towel that's bothering DH. Could you take your clothes to the bathroom?
He does sound overly jealous/paranoid.

Titterofwit · 04/09/2021 10:23

I doubt you would be steaking between bedroom and bathroom so cant see the problem .
Obviously if you were alone you wouldnt want to be naked and distracted for all sorts of nromal safety reasons but with DH on duty surely you can get a quick shower.

EmeraldShamrock · 04/09/2021 10:24

Is DH worried that the workman might think about you naked in the shower?

Titterofwit · 04/09/2021 10:24

*streaking

toomuchlaundry · 04/09/2021 10:25

I wouldn’t have a shower if I was the only other adult in the house just in case the workman needed to ask some questions, but your DH is there

uhtredsonofuhtred1 · 04/09/2021 10:26

I wouldn't if I was home alone with the baby but that's because I'm ultra paranoid about leaving babies/children unattended around strangers but if that wasn't an issue then I'd definitely have a shower, regardless of who was in the house!

SpacePotato · 04/09/2021 10:26

WTF.
You take your clean clothes into the bathroom, lock the door, have a shower then get dressed.

What part of this is inappropriate exactly?

OneTC · 04/09/2021 10:28

DH could be on the phone

Anyway it's weird behaviour regardless. Have a shower, if tradie needs anything he can ask after you're done

Planty13 · 04/09/2021 10:29

I would feel uncomfortable if I was alone in the house with them but that’s a me issue. If your OH is there i cannot see why there would be any issues at all.

Gonnagetgoing · 04/09/2021 10:29

Very strange! If DH is there all he needs to ensure is that you’re separate from workman and you need to ensure maybe extra towelling robe, dress in bathroom etc.

And most people normally get dressed after showering in the bathroom don’t they?!

Your DH needs to give his head a wobble!

Most workmen who’ve ever been in my house couldn’t be more disinterested or are just very polite and therefore give me space to shower and get dressed and wouldn’t dare perve. It is a small house (cottage) though. I’m not Claudia Schiffer but I’m certainly not unattractive either!

Mydogisagentleman · 04/09/2021 10:30

Ask the workman to wash your back.
OP, your DH is a div. what on earth does he think is going to happen?

SpacePotato · 04/09/2021 10:31

@toomuchlaundry

I wouldn’t have a shower if I was the only other adult in the house just in case the workman needed to ask some questions, but your DH is there
A question that couldn't wait for 5 minutes until you're out the shower? Confused

I wouldn't if I was home alone with the baby

Why couldn't you simply take baby with you? Bouncy chair or playmat on the bathroom floor?

ElfDragon · 04/09/2021 10:34

Totally weird.

We had a building project that ran on for 2 years. Had builders here practically every day, from 8 in the morning until 5 in the afternoon. There were many times when I had to shower with various workmen in the house - it would have been rank if I hadn’t!

Agree with previous posters, if I was the only adult I’d hesitate about leaving a baby alone with random workmen in the house (I’d take the baby into the bathroom in a bouncy chair), but since your dp is there, that’s not an issue, so crack on and have your shower.

uhtredsonofuhtred1 · 04/09/2021 10:34

@SpacePotato purely because she said she was putting baby down in the cot. If the baby was unattended I wouldn't go and have a shower. If I could keep them with me then yes, I'd have a shower 🤷🏼‍♀️

Notaroadrunner · 04/09/2021 10:44

I wouldn't have a shower if i was alone in the house with a workman, but given your dh is there then there's no issue. Do you have a lock on the bathroom door? If not, just sing loudly Grin

megletthesecond · 04/09/2021 10:47

Yanbu.
You're not alone and he doesn't need the water off.

Bagelsandbrie · 04/09/2021 10:48

He’s being very weird.

toomuchlaundry · 04/09/2021 10:49

Obviously if you have builders in for a number of days/weeks life has to carry on as normal as possible. But as it would appear the workman is only around a few hours, if I was on my own in the house with them I would try and be available as much as possible. But as DH is around that is not an issue here

EmeraldShamrock · 04/09/2021 10:59

I think he saw too many porns with plots his brain is doing overtime.

chaosrabbitland · 04/09/2021 11:10

if i had a workman in the house i would be carrying on as i normally would if i didnt have one , im not sure how its inappropriate to shower as you would take your clothes into the bathroom , have shower , dry and get dressed and emerge again , i think the prudish side of your husband must be coming to the fore here lol

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