To have said 'I don't want to hear your domestic I'm trying to exercise' ??'

[Dailyfuckyoumail]

I am seriously regretting this.

In short I was trying to concentrate on the cross trainer to get my heart rate up and I was finding it hard.

Woman on the step machine behind gets on step machine and immediately gets on a call with her partner getting into an increasingly heated argument about things she had put in the loft.

By the time she had risen her voice and had been going on sometime, i turned round and said that to her.

When I got off the machine she and her friend both shouted at me really aggressively and then both shouted at me to fuck off.

Was I unreasonable to have said that in the first place?

Your weren’t unreasonable but I guess someone who’s happy to have a loud argument with their partner like that would be willing to be aggressive to you. And so it turned out. Weigh up whether you’re happy to have an argument with them I guess.

Well it was a bit stupid to say that when she was already agitated and expect no consequence.

I'm really not sure how overhearing a conversation means you cat concentrate on working hard on the cross trainer.

Of course, in a perfect world, you wouldn't overhear other people's distracting conversations but that was never going to end well. She was in a stressful situation, already angry and you added to the stress, what did you expect to happen?

Should have gone straight in for a tussle.
That'd get the blood pumping.

#humble brag

It might have been less confrontational to just ask her to keep her voice down rather than being so specific?

@GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing

Your weren’t unreasonable but I guess someone who’s happy to have a loud argument with their partner like that would be willing to be aggressive to you. And so it turned out. Weigh up whether you’re happy to have an argument with them I guess.

Yep. If she was prepared to have a barney on the phone in public, it would be difficult to embarrass her over it. She clearly doesn't care.

Might be worth telling the gym staff, though.

Understandable, but did you really expect someone who'd behave like that in the first place to do anything other than mouth off at you?

I wouldn’t like that at all. I don’t think you were unreasonable to not want to hear someone ranting about nonsense but as a PP has already said, someone who is willing to make an aggressive scene in public is not likely to be a reasonable person or in a reasonable frame of mind.

Not unreasonable to say something (should be against the rules to take phone calls), however your wording and tone were obviously very off, and you know this. It's not big and it's not clever to shout at people. It's also not nice to use the word 'domestic' like that - makes light of actual domestic abuse.

You live and learn!

But yeah I’d definitely report both of them to the gym management about them telling you to F off.

Should have gone straight in for a tussle.
That'd get the blood pumping.

🤣🤣🤣

Oh yes, I think that was weird and rude of you. Weird and rude of her too, but since you are asking and she isn't.

She shouldn't have been on her phone in the gym

Seriously dickish behaviour

Not unreasonable. People these days just seem to think they can make as much noise and inconvenience people as much as they like because "what's it got to do with you". Furthermore you're not unreasonable for expecting the person in question to be embarrassed that someone had to point out their offensive manner and apologise.

Naive to think that such a rude person would take your comments on board with good grace, but not unreasonable.

Honestly, I'm a bit surprised that you thought you'd tell someone off for being a loudmouth without any blowback.

You can talk about how fair or unfair it was all you like but it was inevitable.

She was already angry,why would you prod a grizzly bear? Take eat buds next time and zone out.

@KateTheEighth

She shouldn't have been on her phone in the gym

Seriously dickish behaviour

this

not allowed to use phones for phone calls at our gym (people use them for music etc.) she'd have been told before you had a chance to OP

YANBU

Not unreasonable at all, we aren't allowed to be on the phone in our gym as it is really inconsiderate to others,

She was a bit of a dick but really l, how hard is it to concentrate on a cross trainer?!

What’s a gym?

She was being rude and confrontational.

You were doing the same.

If you require silence to "get your heart rate up", buy your own personal cross trainer and work out at home.

Just think how much you can brag about that.

I love being able to eavesdrop on a barney, especially when doing something as monotonous as the cross trainer.

Oh come on, it's not hard to concentrate on a cross trainer! Just admit you had a serious case of RIGHTEOUS INDIGNATION.

Jesus, I wish I needed to concentrate to get my heart rate up, but I'll ignore that humble brag.

You'd have probably had more luck telling her to 'shut the fuck up' she might have understood that 🤣

But someone that gobby & unaware was never likely to take kindly to what you said

Next time either tell them bluntly or tell the staff. Look up their phone policy if you don't know it.