Hi all,
Just want opinions really on if I'm being a bit precious or if my manager is being a bit much.
I am 28 weeks pregnant. On the whole have been okay, suffered bad sickness until 15 weeks but as working from home never took any time off sick. Haven't had any time off at all in fact during this pregnancy. Stating this now just to show I haven't not pulled my weight.
Anyway, I have found in the last couple of months my manager has been really quite chaotic. It started with asking me to cover multiple people at once at very short notice (literally either the same morning or an email sent the evening before, for me to open the following morning) which has been impossible at some points as the sheer volume of work was just not feasible.
Sometimes, I had never done these people's work before and his response was to just follow the work notes. He never offers to cover himself though or help out with workload.
He is randomly popping up on skype asking me to train new people at the last minute too. If I reply saying I am sorry I am covering people who are off that you have asked me to do he says can you not just show them a bit of that - so he effectively wants me to train on work I have not actually done before and already feel a bit unsure on myself.
He hasn't checked in once to see how I am doing throughout the pregnancy or to ask if I am managing. Someone left whilst I was on annual leave a couple of months ago and he gave me their work - I only know I was given it thanks to another colleague, to this day he has still not told me lol.
Yesterday was the worst one so far. I had some bleeding (still ongoing, looks okay but they can't say where it's coming from) and I had to go to hospital to be checked. The first thing he said when I told him was have you done all the work you needed to do today. I said yes but I really need to head to hospital now.
When I was at the hospital he sent me an email asking me to pick up some urgent work he had been emailed about. I was in hospital having observations done at this point and reminded him where I was. His response was to completely ignore me.
He has also been guilt tripping me in the last month or so. One woman put in a last minute request for annual leave the day before the event and he emailed me asking to cover. I said I couldn't as I was only on a half day that day myself and also had a midwife appointment so wouldn't have time to complete theirs plus my own. He then asked if I could just have my half day another day instead as this other woman was talking about cancelling her annual leave and he didn't want her to feel upset.....
This happened again last week. Asking me to cover with no notice and then guilt tripped me when I said I was already covering 2 other people plus my own work. He said I am struggling to find cover with a sad face at the end.
I really don't know how to handle this - is it enough for me to request a meeting with him and bring it up? I am finding it all really stressful, especially now with this bleeding etc. I just feel like he isn't managing very well?