To update you on my invasive neighbour?

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I posted a few weeks ago about a neighbour who had sent me a message about my children, complete with photo of the back of my house. I had lots of great advice and sympathy from you all, and I had the thread deleted while pending police intervention.

Update: Police agreed that she had crossed a serious line, especially following her previous damage, trespassing and theft of our property and the fact that we'd laid it out in text that there were boundaries and she was invading our privacy.

They sent a team round to speak to her and tell her to pack it in. The office who came over to see us said they would tell her that if she behaved like this again, they could reasonably arrest her for harassment. They were also going to quietly assess her for vulnerability or mental health needs.

We haven't seen her since, although we know she is there because she slams cupboards a lot. RESULT.

I remember your thread OP, great result!

[quote TheWeatherWitch]@custardbear can I message you. It was a lot going on. Too much to repost here, especially as op wanted it deleted.[/quote]
Can you pm me too?

Because I know you all love a good update...

We had nearly a year of silence from NDN. If we were out in the garden, she would literally turn her back on us. Total non-contact. It was BLISS.

Then we exchanged clipped 'good mornings' when we bumped into each other in front of the houses. During burst pipe in our area she dropped off a bottle of water with a simple 'for emergencies' note. The bottles were sparkling water ones filled with tap water, so we used the soda stream to refill with sparkling as thanks afterwards.

We stick to the hellos, we are civil, she has stayed off our property and has made NO comments (that we know of) about our activities or choices. I think being civil is important since we both own our homes, but if she crosses the (very tightly drawn) line again I will not be waiting to report.

I'm so pleased to read your update OP. Long may it continue. Currently wrangling with evil neighbours who know how to play the police so waiting for them to transgress (matter of time sadly) so something can be done. I hope you are feeling so much safer in your house now - and it sounds like she may have got some much-needed help too.

Thank you for the update! I'm glad that all is still calm. Nice to hear how things are.

Best wishes to you.

Thanks, both. I feel like we don't get enough positive updates after drama-y threads! I think she probably has been offered some support, or maybe just some much-needed advice.

Thank you for the update particularly as two home owners need to work out some kind of way of being and you seem to have managed it since the police spoke to her.

This just proves that sometimes bad neighbours can turn into ...um... non-neighbours??

What a wonderful update, long may the peace continue!

Great update - hope your life stays drama free Op!

Good news OP. Cordial good mornings are a positive step.

Great update!