To expect some money back

[Bonezzz4]

Partner is unwell, he has Covid and we dont live together. I’m buying him bits and pieces everyday, food, getting takeaways and cooking food for him also travelling to his sometimes twice a day to give him items. It’s clocking up money wise. AIBU to want some money from him going forwards?

@Cocomarine

Thanks for some of the advice? You’ll take some of it on board?

Would love to know in what what you’re going to support him to do an online shop.

What part does he need support with?
What a catch!

You’re going to just gloss over his tendency to avoid paying when out, too? 🤨

Maybe him avoiding paying when out could have something to do with having to pay for OP and possibly kids... We all know eating out or days out with kids racks the cost up considerably.

The poor guys not even asked for food, meals cooked or takeaways, he'd probably be more than capable to order and pay. He's only got to feed himself.

OP is now planning to undertake online shopping for him. Poor bugger hasn't asked for that either, but it looks like he's going to have to have it, and pay whether he wants it or not. 🙄

@Starseeking

Don't martyr yourself OP, just ask him for his bank card next time.

Whether he wants the food shop/ takeaways or not?

He's asked for none of this. Giving his bank card could cost him money for stuff he neither wants or needs.

@PigletJohn

You can say "Have you got the money for the groceries?"

And you should do it now.

I would hope he has the decency to apologise for not offering earlier, but that is an additional matter.

I would certainly be embarrassed if I'd forgotten to pay someone for doing my shopping.

He's not asked for any shopping! Or takeaways Or support with online shopping.

He's not asked for any shopping!
Or takeaways
Or support with online shopping.

Aahhhh okay... He doesn't eat ... ok got it 😂

@Bonezzz4

Thanks for some of the advice on here. Will take some of it on board. I guess I was trying to make up for not actually being able to go in and help Take care of him. I think he secretly would like some in house support. Will support him to do an shop online I think

Seriously OP, listen to yourself, this man has really done a number on you.

What support does anyone under the age of 60* need to do an online shop???

*My dad is over this age and struggles to do anything online, so I'm guessing others of a similar generation may too.

He should offer to pay back once he is feeling better. If I could afford it I would not mind.

Do you live together?

@QueenBee52

He's not asked for any shopping! Or takeaways Or support with online shopping.

Aahhhh okay... He doesn't eat ... ok got it 😂

He would probably be more than happy ordering his own takeaways or online shopping.

Instead he's got his girlfriend turning up twice a day with meals ( that he probably doesn't even fancy) Shopping he probably doesn't want, or need and expected to pay for.
He's now got to be ' supported doing an online shop, again that he doesn't want.

All so the OP can moan and play the martyr.
Having had Covid, I bet he'd probably just like to be left in peace and not keep being pestered twice a day.