What time is too early to visit someone on a weekend?

[Elouera]

My FIL and his wife visited, unannounced today at 8:20am. She had an early appointment nearby and they decided to 'pop in'. She then went on and on about how it was such an early appointment and she couldn't have her usual 10am lounging in bed, where DH brings her a cuppa and she will read and snooze!

I started a new job this week, so was shattered. I was awake, but had clearly just got up. I'd never visit theirs without a text or call first (DH didn't grow up with him).

AIBU to think its too early and rude, or would you visit a childless couple at that time?

Well I don’t appreciate unannounced visits at any time of the day, but very early is especially unacceptable. I do feel annoyed dab out your “childless couples” comment though, childless couples do not as a default lounge around in bed half the morning.

I wouldn’t have answered the door! I don’t get up before 9 on a Saturday.

@Aprilx

Well I don’t appreciate unannounced visits at any time of the day, but very early is especially unacceptable. I do feel annoyed dab out your “childless couples” comment though, childless couples do not as a default lounge around in bed half the morning.

I think the OP meant childless as opposed to “has a 3 year old that’s had them up since 5am”

I don't like unannounced visitors at any time but turning up prior to about 10am is seriously NOT ON.

I think anything from 10am is ok

It would depend entirely on the person/people being visited.

Clearly the best way to repay their kind visit is to turn up at theirs at the same time next week.

I think its fair enough to mention that its a couple without children. Saves the inevitable comments of "oh I have 2 small children and am never up later than 6am so I would love a breakfast time visitor" (like me).

I wouldn’t even answer the door at that time

I'd never visit someone without asking anyway but 8.20 is very early. We've 2 small children so are up from about 6.30 but at the weekends tend to have more relaxed mornings with tv on for breakfast etc unless we have a day trip planned.

I wouldn’t just drop in on anyone without arranging it first! A quick text or phone call is all that’s needed.

I definitely wouldn’t answer the door. We’re a childless couple and rarely get up before 10am on a weekend

I wouldn't answer the door. 8:20am on a Sunday? Madness!

I wouldn't turn up at the same time at theirs only because it might give the impression that it's a normal hour to be out and about for you.
I'd be more likely to have been borderline rude and point out that it was too early to show up unannounced.
Point out at any opportunity how you like to have time in the morning and how essential it is that people make sure it's OK before they turn up.

I wouldn't have answered the door.

I think I'd be unlikely to visit a childless couple at that time, even with a pre-arranged invitation!

If my own mother had turned up **, I'd have grudgingly let her in (because after ignoring the doorbell, she would have rung me), but after ascertaining there was no dire emergency, I would have promptly gone back to sleep and left her to entertain herself.

** She wouldn't do this, she's not batshit.

I would have stayed in bed and left DH to deal with them; 8.20am on a Sunday with no warning is very rude in my opinion!

I don't have small children and I'm retired.

For some awful reason I never seem able to sleep past 7.30 in the morning, even though I rarely fall asleep before 12.00 at the earliest.

I would still be majorly miffed if someone turned up at my house at 8.20 week day or weekend though.

I'm also not keen on unannounced visits generally. But that's way too early to visit someone unless you know that they're the sort of weird people who welcome visitors at that time of the morning.

I was up at 7am, even with having kids I don't want people over just after 8am. They would find me bleary eyed, walking around with either a top or bottoms on (rarely both) trying to get the kids to play so I can get a bit more shut-eye. It is rude to turn up unannounced to someone's home especially at ridiculous o'clock on a Sunday. I wouldn't have answered the door and if dh did I would have stayed in bed (39 weeks pregnant and tired).

I'd make it clear that you don't expect guests so early on a Sunday so they don't do it again.

That is very rude! What were they thinking?!!
I would be very annoyed and shocked even if I was awake!
What did you say to them? Something along the lines of, ‘wtf are you tipping up on a Sunday at 8.20am for? I haven’t even put my face on yet! Go away and come back later’? 😂

@Aprilx- I never said nor implied that childless couples lounge around in bed all morning!!!

I put the fact we are childless because we aren't woken by small children very early, therefore 'may' not be expected to be awake that early on a Sunday.

I don't think 8.20 is particularly early for family to pop in, but I can understand why you are annoyed.

Meant to add- would never do it myself unless it was pre arranged or close family/friends who I know wouldn't mind.
I have no problem with people popping around, mind you

I think anything from 10am is ok

Not unannounced, it isn’t!
I rarely stay in bed beyond 8 even at weekends, because I can’t seem to do ‘lie-ins’ any more. However, unless I’d got something to get ready for, I’d probably be having breakfast and pottering around in my dressing gown, prior to having a late morning shower. The last thing I’d want is an unexpected visitor flustering me and making me feel uncomfortable for not being ‘visitor ready’!

Tbh honest I wouldn’t really visit anyone before lunchtime on a weekend unless it was specifically arranged !

To me all unannounced visits are unacceptable. Happy to host, just tell me if you want to come over.

I don’t “drop in” but I wouldn’t suggest popping in before 10.00 on a weekend.