What time is too early to visit someone on a weekend?

[Elouera]

My FIL and his wife visited, unannounced today at 8:20am. She had an early appointment nearby and they decided to 'pop in'. She then went on and on about how it was such an early appointment and she couldn't have her usual 10am lounging in bed, where DH brings her a cuppa and she will read and snooze!

I started a new job this week, so was shattered. I was awake, but had clearly just got up. I'd never visit theirs without a text or call first (DH didn't grow up with him).

AIBU to think its too early and rude, or would you visit a childless couple at that time?

Unbelievably rude.
Wouldn't dream of answering.
Would complete ignore.
If they kept ringing I suppose I'd have to answer...eventually but they would be told it wasn't acceptable before 11am.

I have zero tolerance for being imposed upon.

I wouldn't drop in on people that I wasn't 100% sure would be up (so, for example as you suggested, if you have a toddler) before lunchtime on a weekend.

It seems particularly odd as she then sat and talked about her "normal" lie in and cuppa in bed

Anything between 9.30-10 is fine.
8.20…..my initial thought would have been there was some sort of emergency.

They would have been told to go away - but then we are working nights!
House rule - no invitation or appointment? Then you don’t get the door answered.

Ridiculously early, no way

Knocking would set my dog off, which would wake my son up, so I'd be furious.

My MIL turned up unannounced late one evening. My husband and I were in bed watching a film. We thought something had happened to FIL as he'd been poorly. But no, she was just showing off to her friend. She asked us if she'd disturbed us having sex because we didn't answer straight away, and then cackled like it was the funniest thing ever.

I really do not this woman.

She then went on and on about how it was such an early appointment and she couldn't have her usual 10am lounging in bed, where DH brings her a cuppa and she will read and snooze!

I would have said "oh yes, it's so annoying when your lovely Sunday morning plans are ruined isn't it" with a very tinkly laugh.

But yes, very rude. I know that we could visit my parents in law at 8.20, because they are up and dressed by 7am everyday at the very latest, but we would still call first.

Yes that's early for an unannounced visit at a weekend! We'd be up but maybe still eating breakfast

To answer some questions. We are renovating, so living in a small static caravan in the garden- so no door bell. It was a knock on the metal van door we got! The walls are paper thin, so even if I had been asleep, this would have woken me up. (I wear earplugs too)

When MIL was going on about her lack of a sleep in, I did point out it was still only 8:30, to which she said she might go back to bed when she got home! I said 'I wish I could' but I really don't think it registered at all.

I said 'I wish I could' but I really don't think it registered at all.

I have a preschooler so I’ve been up for hours at 8.20 but no, I wouldn’t be calling round someone else’s at that time. Plenty of times I’ve been in the local playground by then though.

....any time before the time you've been invite to arrive is rude!

Unannounced before 11am on a weekend I wouldn’t even answer the door.

If it was planned then I’d be up by 10am.

Agreed, I don't want any unannounced visits from anyone, but before midday at a weekend for me would be rude. Weekends are for lie-ins and reading the paper in my pyjamas til 11.