Feeling awful and dont want to go out in public with toddler again

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I was on the bus with my toddler and had 2 stops left till I get off when he started tantrum .. it was because he wanted to get out of his pram . In the past I have taken him out and sat down with him on my lap however this time I couldn't do that as I had bags and seats were full so I was standing . I tried to sooth him but it made him worst so I just ignored him with the hope that he will go quiet . This lady who had two kids with her rudely asked me if I had something to put in his mouth to feed him or quiet him . I told her he's fine and just wanted to get out of the pram . Anyways after that encounter I got off the bus and to prove it was a tantrum my son was immediately quiet. He always does this when ever I stop moving the pram . Anyways I was embarrassed by this lady,, there was also these men on the bus complaining under their breathe . I feel so awkward going on public transport again if I can avoid it I will

OP, I am the most miserable misanthrope in the whole world, and I HATE other people’s kids on public transport. Even I think you should continue to go out and live your life with your child. Fuck everyone else! Don’t let the bastards get you down.

BTDT. Poor you OP. Ignore the wallies with a short memory.

When my dd were young, and acting up in public, I would whisper loudly “just wait until I get home and tell your parents about how you’ve behaved”. It didn’t stop the poor behaviour but it’s surprising how effective it is at stopping the judgemental glances/comments.

It doesn’t work once the dc know that parents=mum but it’s strangely satisfying disassociating yourself from the familial relationship.

CBeebies on your phone should work a treat

YABU to feel awful, I'm afraid. You need to grow a thicker skin. Sometimes your kids will embarrass you because that's what kids do and you need to go home, pour a glass of wine/eat chocolate/both, thank providence that the day is over and put it out of your mind. Then crack on again with your life the next day, including using public transport if you need to.

To let you in on a guilty secret, the point at which my DC was full-on screaming the bus or train down (and it happened to us a few times) is the point at which I would have put Peppa Pig or similar on my phone on silent and zombified them for the rest of the trip.

@Iwantcollarbones. . I remember on one occasion taking my DC to the gardens of a nearby NT property, where they were running repeatedly through a massive puddle and sitting down in it, and saying to my mum, "Let's sit under this tree and pretend we're not with them for a bit".

Depending how old he is, could he be pacified with Raisins or yogurt raisins or a small tub of Cheerios, some fruit?
A book?

I was a nanny and lo was having a tantrum, just because she could,
Lots of people were staring, a person even banged on the roof of the upper deck
Some people need to give their head a wobble, what do they expect you to do

Most people with children would have been through it, Dont let it put you off

If snacks dont work, if your only afew stops away from getting off, can you just get off?
Not ideal but if you are embarrassed about a tantrum, Maybe best

dont get put off , i had a toddler once whos now 13 . i dont drive so have to take the bus , iv heard screaming babies , tantruming toddlers and i just grin and bear it and say nothing as i understand that theres sometimes not a lot you can do ,
theres worse things ,such as the bloody pisshead the driver let on once who moaned about not being able to take is can of lagar on board and then kept getting up to carry on moaning at the driver AGAIN at every other stop meaning the bus was getting held up thereby making me late to collect dd from school , he did stop when i had a firm word with him on the 3rd time he got up to do it , but i will take your toddler carrying on over that any day of the week

Boo hoo for the passengers that were on a bus for a few minutes with a stripy toddler. We’ve all been there, no child is perfect and they don’t call it the terrible two’s.

Just you ignore them. If that’s the worst thing they’ve got to complain about then life is pretty sweet!

stroppy

don’t call it terrible twos for nothing I mean