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To think this school mum was being ridiculous?

89 replies

ruhmes · 27/08/2021 14:02

DD is 7, and she went back to school yesterday, this morning, a school mum, came to me and told me that DD kept telling her class about going to see her dad abroad and how he bought her a lot of things, and told me I should talk to DD about telling lies as she saw her dad pick her up from school yesterday (he came back with us and is going to stay here for a few weeks for work and so he can see DD often etc). I told her DD wasn't lying about her summer holiday, the mum then said that DD is going to grow up being spoilt, and that she shouldn't have been showing off (I don't think she was, she was just excited).

AIBU to think she was being ridiculous?

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Threearm · 27/08/2021 14:04

The mum is insane.

Raffles1981 · 27/08/2021 14:05

Um, no! It is none of her business what your daughter does or how she is raised. Tell her to mind her own. What is it with other people weighing in on your life?

notenoughcoffeeee · 27/08/2021 14:06

Seems a bit much, do you know this Mum well? Due to COVID many can't go away on holiday due to income cuts etc so it may have touched a nerve with her. It's inappropriate for her to say your DD will grow up spoilt though! It's normal for kids to share holiday stories but yes I can see how it may have triggered such a reaction due to the changing situation.

Cantdecidewhere · 27/08/2021 14:06

Wow that mum is rude.

KimDeals · 27/08/2021 14:06

Jeepers!!! My jaw would have hit the floor with that interrogation on your private family life set-up! None of her business nor is her opinion on your child welcomed! What on earth did you say? You were ambushed!!

notenoughcoffeeee · 27/08/2021 14:07

To clarify, I mean the other mums reaction was ' a bit much.' (understatement of the century!)

Tlollj · 27/08/2021 14:07

Tell her to mind her own business.

birdsong7 · 27/08/2021 14:10

Why does she think it's any of her business?! The audacity of some people really baffles me. I could never have the nerve to say something like that to someone.
Also, why does she care?? Kids talk all sorts of nonsense (not saying your daughter is talking nonsense) but one minute they're talking about their summer holiday the next it's the fairies in their bedroom or their imaginary friends. Unless children are saying anything hurtful why on earth does is she bothered so much.

I'd have asked what it had to do with her and called her a CF for saying my daughter was spoilt. Don't give her the time of day op. Nothing better to do with her time.

PieceOfString · 27/08/2021 14:11

She has some brass neck! Offering unasked for opinions about something she knows fuck all about. Ice cool response required here something like 'I don't intend to clear up all your assumptions just so you can correct your ridiculous opinions, kindly take them elsewhere'.

ParkheadParadise · 27/08/2021 14:14

Christ, she sounds like a bloody nightmare. I'd be avoiding her from now on.

maddening · 27/08/2021 14:15

One of my BILs relations/family owns a football club and one of the school mums went over to dsis laughing about dnephew lying about his relative and the football club only to be told it was true. Stupid arseholes like this are so annoying 🙄

5128gap · 27/08/2021 14:20

She's ridiculous and rude. However I don't think it hurts for children to be taught that talking about how many things were bought for them doesn't always go down well.

FindingMeno · 27/08/2021 14:23

I'd laugh at her and tell her to mind her own.

Teamfemale · 27/08/2021 14:24

I would have laughed in her face

ClemDanFango · 27/08/2021 14:26

What a bizarre thing to say Confused

MimiDaisy11 · 27/08/2021 14:34

Even if your daughter was spoilt it's fruitless and stupid of the mother to approach you. I mean what could she achieve?

MiddleEasternMummy · 27/08/2021 14:39

I hope you laughed in her face . Ridiculous!
Is s a child not allowed to tell about her holiday anymore ?? What the f**k is the world coming to ?

UserStillatLarge · 27/08/2021 14:40

The mum sounds bonkers.

But, my children learnt fairly early on (and I don't think 7 is too young) that they should be mindful that not all their classmates had the things they had and were able to go to the places that they did. So it might be that your daughter came across as boastful and showing off?

bamboocat · 27/08/2021 14:43

@Cantdecidewhere

Wow that mum is rude.
Yep.
Mintjulia · 27/08/2021 14:44

She's being ridiculous. And interfering and rude.

Just point out that she's wrong and she really should check her facts before calling anyone a liar.

Eralos · 27/08/2021 14:54

The mum is crackers

Hemingwaycat · 27/08/2021 14:57

She’s rude, weird and probably jealous.

Lavender24 · 27/08/2021 14:57

She's an interfering bitch.

OhSmellyCatSmellyCat · 27/08/2021 14:58

I bet she feels a right prat now you've put her straight.

Original poster
ruhmes · 27/08/2021 14:59

I didn't know what to say, I was shocked!

I don't really know her, and haven't spoken to her very much.

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