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“A well done to myself”

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Whatsgoingonnnn · 26/08/2021 15:17

So in a 24 hour period where there’s a humanitarian crisis going on in Afghanistan, at a time when many key workers have risked their health and worked long hours in stressful conditions, only to be thanked with applause, an “influencer” posts a picture of a £37k bracelet she’s just bought as a “well done to myself” for, as far as I can ascertain, being able to look pretty and appear on a reality TV show. And people all over the internet applaud it.

AIBU to be deeply uncomfortable with this juxtaposition?

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HarrietsChariot · 26/08/2021 15:25

Sorry but yes. Those things are unconnected. There are always multiple tragedies, disasters and crises ongoing - should people never celebrate anything?

(Not defending this instance, I don't know who you are talking about. I'd happily agree that nobody should be in a position to be able to buy themselves a 37K bracelet for being on a reality show - it's the system that needs changing.)

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 26/08/2021 15:28

The two things are totally unrelated.

Will you never be proud of your/childrens/families achievements because there is shit going on in the world?

starrynight87 · 26/08/2021 15:36

You have to find your own joy, you can't feel the guilt of the world on you.

There are far worse people in the world than Molly Mae.

mollibu · 26/08/2021 15:37

@starrynight87

You have to find your own joy, you can't feel the guilt of the world on you.

There are far worse people in the world than Molly Mae.

I agree.
minipie · 26/08/2021 15:38

TBH I think it’s a revolting thing to do even if there was worldwide peace and happiness.

Hopdathelf · 26/08/2021 15:38

I’m having a nice bottle of wine with dinner tonight as a well done after a long hard month. Is that tasteless too?

Molly Mae and the rest of us living like monks doesn’t help Afghan people in a desperate situation. Neither does virtue signalling on internet message boards.

Etinox · 26/08/2021 15:39

Showing off something you’ve bought yourself and getting praised for it is laf IMO.

stevalnamechanger · 26/08/2021 15:41

What's the cut off price point for things to feel bad about ?!

... £10k , 20k , 50? Being able to afford a huge £800k house ...

Where is it 😂 this post is ridiculous sorry . The girl has worked hard , been very savvy and built her brand .

AnneLovesGilbert · 26/08/2021 15:42

Not sure why you’re comparing these completely different things. Never heard of this woman but do you think not buying herself something or not posting about it would somehow ease the suffering in Afghanistan?

What’s happening there is horrendous but terrible things are happening to people every hour of every single day in multiple hell holes in the world.

Do you swear off shopping and social media because of the travesties in China, North Korea, Nigeria?

Fairyliz · 26/08/2021 15:43

I bought some chocolate at the supermarket today that cost £1.50. Feeling guilty now Hmm

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Whatsgoingonnnn · 26/08/2021 15:43

@DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult

The two things are totally unrelated.

Will you never be proud of your/childrens/families achievements because there is shit going on in the world?

Of course I will. But those are other people. Different thing. This is about announcing you’ve spent way more money than people will see in a lifetime, doing a far more difficult job, as a reward to yourself to the world at large. Which she’s free to do, sure. I’m just uncomfortable with the fact so many are keen to applaud it and how this post contrasts the difference between those doing really, really hard work who definitely deserve a “well done to themselves” but have to make do with far less.
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AnneLovesGilbert · 26/08/2021 15:46

@Fairyliz

I bought some chocolate at the supermarket today that cost £1.50. Feeling guilty now Hmm
Redeem yourself. Chuck them in the bin while beating yourself with a broom stick immediately.
GrimDamnFanjo · 26/08/2021 15:48

I'll bet she didn't really pay that either...

ComtesseDeSpair · 26/08/2021 15:48

But the two still aren’t connected. Key workers wouldn’t be paid any more even if influencers didn’t exist, or if they didn’t spent their money on bracelets. And didn’t we spend every Thursday evening last year quite literally applauding key workers?

youdoyoutoday · 26/08/2021 15:50

It's very gaudy but aren't all these "influencers"? They literally make a living by being all "look at me".

AbandonedCharacter · 26/08/2021 15:53

I can't get annoyed by a young woman being successful in her career.

ohfook · 26/08/2021 15:53

I find there's a lot of hatred towards female influencers and male footballers re how they spend their money. I think it's snobbery a bit of judgement on people getting above their station.

Good for her.

A lot of people can go fuck themselves over the situation they have got us in in Afghanistan and I'm willing to bet they've spend more on champagne at a long weekend at chequers or whatever the US equivalent is than this influencer spent on her bracelet. Also at that price at least we can hope no one was exploited in the production process for said bracelet .

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Whatsgoingonnnn · 26/08/2021 15:57

@ComtesseDeSpair

But the two still aren’t connected. Key workers wouldn’t be paid any more even if influencers didn’t exist, or if they didn’t spent their money on bracelets. And didn’t we spend every Thursday evening last year quite literally applauding key workers?
That’s what I mean. That’s the connection - it’s the juxtaposition at this moment in time.

An influencer might well be savvy and manage their brand well but that’s a lot less hard work, hazardous and selfless than what many key workers did (and still do).

The influencer’s post says the £37k bracelet is her just reward for all she’s done.

The NHS workers just reward is applause. Just applause.

That makes me uncomfortable.

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Xdecd · 26/08/2021 15:57

I did feel it was a bit tone deaf but more because I don't think it's a great look for someone to be so proud of being associated with such a morally dubious company. But she is young and actually seems quite sweet so should be given a bit of leeway I think.

roarfeckingroarr · 26/08/2021 15:59

Totally unconnected.

LuaDipa · 26/08/2021 16:00

I find there's a lot of hatred towards female influencers and male footballers re how they spend their money. I think it's snobbery a bit of judgement on people getting above their station.

Absolutely. Whichever way you look at it she is a beautiful, successful young woman and she should be proud of everything she has achieved. She isn’t more or less worthy of support and recognition for her accomplishments because of how she earns her living.

araiwa · 26/08/2021 16:00

Unless the influencer is head of the Taliban there is zero connection between the two things.

Cattenberg · 26/08/2021 16:14

I haven’t seen the post, but that does seem insensitive, yes. £37,000 is a crazy amount to spend on a bracelet at the best of times. And for millions of people, these are the worst of times.

1AngelicFruitCake · 26/08/2021 16:16

I’m a lone voice of support OP but I find that nauseating. ‘A well done to me’ for being extremely lucky, being born beautiful and working hard at opportunities that have arisen? Meanwhile so many people are struggling at the moment. I agree where is the cut off but then I can’t stand people bragging about how much money they have snyway!

Bryonyshcmyony · 26/08/2021 16:20

@starrynight87

You have to find your own joy, you can't feel the guilt of the world on you.

There are far worse people in the world than Molly Mae.

This