Sorry this might get a bit long!
My sons girlfriend (both now 18) has been living with me since Xmas day. She used to stay with her mum a couple of days a week for the first couple of months but that has now stopped and is staying with me permanently. She’s never really had a permanent home since she was 16.
She did have a part time job but was only on a small wage but she quit that job in April. She used to give me £20/£30 a month here and there but not always and I haven’t had anything since then.
My son is still in education so I do still get an allowance for him (I don’t work, please don’t judge, I have an illness) but he gives me £50 per month out of his own money but I do not ask him for this, he wants to give me this even though I tell him I do not want it.
He will also go to the shops if we are running low on food etc, he says the shopping is split between them but I am not so sure. I feel like he is providing for her and he shouldn’t be.
Whenever I can afford to buy a take away I always buy one for her, but when she buys one she hardly ever asks the rest of the family and that really pees me off tbh.
Now, the girlfriend is starting a full time job soon and will be earning a wage. My question is, should I be charging her to live with me? People who I have spoke to have said I should charge her £30/£40 per week but I don’t know if that’s too much and I don’t want to seem greedy.
I can’t go on with the way things are. I have gone without meals because I haven’t been able to put enough food on the table to feed the whole family. I have spoke to her about it and she has been to shop and got a couple of meals but then it goes back to the way it has been so I can’t win.
I also do all the cooking, cleaning, washing etc.
Sorry for the long post.