Shes showing off right?

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Am I right to think my friend is showing off?

Just a passing comment she is making about how the amount of jewellery and her clothes and bag currently on her now is worth over £10K. How every day she walks around with £10K worth of stuff on her?

But it made me think how maybe I don't actually have very valuable stuff that I wear everyday - yes valuable as in they mean a lot to me but not expensive stuff

Depends entirely on the context. Was she remarking on how risky that it, that it’s nothing to her, that it’s crept up on her, what?

Depends on how she said it.
Were you discussing the price of jewelry and clothes or did her remark come out of the blue ?

It wouldn’t bother me because I remember at the end of the day when those expensive things come off our bodies we are still the same person as when we were wearing them. My worth as a person is not determined by how much worth of stuff I am wearing.

Definitely showing off. I can’t think of a time when I discussed the price of my clothes and jewellery.

What was she wearing?

I presume you mean that everything put together cost her £10k to buy. If she said in a way that emphasised that she can easily afford that sort of stuff and implied that you can't, then, yes, she's showing off. But if she said it (as pp said) in a sort of "I'm a walking insurance risk" sort of way, then probably not.

Depends. You sound jealous though. Does anyone really show off as an adult? Who care enough to notice

It sounds like a deeply peculiar topic of conversation.

THe only time I have ever boasted about what my clothes etc cost is when I got a really cheap deal! How different people can be.

Bizarre. What does she wear?

There's no reason to discuss how much all your accessories cost so, yes, she's definitely bragging.

The friends I have who are very very wealthy and wear beautiful designer clothes and accessories dont say a word. Why would they? This is their normal and who they are. Anyone who is strutting around bragging about the cost of their outfits and jewellery is crass and i would feel embarrassed for them.

I've been guilty of this about jewellery when I had to take it off- for a scan or hand washing for etc.
I cringed

The rings I wear every day were £3,000 new. Doubt they’d fetch that second hand though.

She may have paid 10K for it, but its resale value is likely to be much, much less, particularly any jewellery.

Is she perhaps quoting you the insurance value of the jewellery too, that tends to be very high. Some jewellery is only insured if it's actually being worn, take it off even at home and it's not covered.

Your final paragraph shows the real issue for you, and the good news is, that's the part you can control.

Context is key.

Oh bloody hell, mine comes to about £10 (Aldi t shirt, charity shop shorts, undies, two elasticated hair bobbles)

Agree context. Friend worried re getting mugged or discussing insurance not showing off. Friend constantly saying do you like my new handbag cost £3,000 etc yes show off. People with money usually don’t look like to draw attention to it so watch worth fortunate but not blingy, real diamond studs, very high quality stone in engagement ring, Expensive coat etc.

Yeah she’s showing off
I walk around in mainly primark, charity shops and supermarket clothes/accessories etc
I look just as nice and put together as someone who had spent more money, so I honestly couldn’t care less about how much someone has spent on designer things. Seems materialistic just for the sake of it to me 🤷‍♀️

People with money usually don’t look like to draw attention to it

I see this on MN so much and it doesn't bear much resemblance to what I see in real life. Sure, many wealthy people aren't overtly dripping in diamonds day to day but people with money do tend to spend it on things that aren't readily available, be that a big house, expensive foreign holidays, a large engagement ring or whatever gives them pleasure to buy.

If you do have money, why on earth wouldn't you spend it on things that you enjoy? What's the point of earning or having it otherwise?

Showing off or not, it's sad that she thinks her worth is her belongings.

How does a conversation about clothes price even start. I don’t think I ever talk about things like that with my friends.

I’d find it odd if some one told me their outfit cost that much...and vaguely ridiculous.

I’d be tempted to reply something like...” oh really...that tops looks exactly like one I saw in H and M last week”

I only know two or three people who show off, but that is usually about the cars they have. ( all probably on finance) which is a no no for me.
They show off,in the sense of telling people how much the cars are worth, and all other monotonous stuff., and their car is always going to be better than anyone else's. I feel sorry for people like this, that they have brains full of a mushy thinking process

Definitely Bragplaining

See Urban Dictionary .....

When you complain about something for the sole purpose of bringing it up in conversation to brag about it.

Man, I'm only getting 10MB/s download speed. Normally I get at least 15.

Quit bragplaining. We all know you're just bitching to show off.

by TheShrewKing August 09, 2010

I have never felt the need to discuss to any one how much my jewelry or accessories are worth, and if she's worried about security why wear it.