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To say my sister is the biggest f****** hypocrite

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chickenandbacon · 23/08/2021 00:06

Through covid I have followed the rules as best I can, stayed at home unless going to work/food shopping, isolated if I'd come into contact with someone who tested positive etc... I've always had a funny relationship with my sister and we seem to clash quite often. I've always felt that she thinks she's better than everyone else, entitled to do whatever she wants - 1 rule for her and 1 for everyone else...

Anyway, a couple of months ago she went to a party with a few friends and the party was hosted by an old friend of hers. They were there for a couple of hours I think, had food and drinks then went out to the pub down the road. Next morning old friend messaged everyone to say that she had tested positive for covid and would be forwarding everyone's details to track and trace. Everyone asked her not to, as some people couldn't afford to take the time off work to isolate (I'm not saying it's right btw but I do understand). The friend did as everyone asked. A day or so later my sister messaged me to say that she was on the beach with two of her friends who had also been to the party (when it was really busy as all the holiday makers were visiting at the time) and asked if I wanted to join them. I had plans so didn't go. At the time I did think it was quite selfish of them as unlike work reasons, a beach visit wasn't necessary but I kept my thoughts to myself. I'm not the covid police after all and it would only cause arguments if I voiced my opinion.

Fast forward to last Friday when I visited my friend. I didn't tell her I was going as I was just passing through and decided to knock on and see if she was home. She explained that she hadn't been feeling very well the last few days and it was probably best that I didn't come in, although she was confident that it was just a stomach bug. I was desperate for the loo (thank you McDonald's tea) so asked if I could just pop in quickly to use the loo. We didn't touch, hug, anything and I left after using the toilet. I was in there 5 mins max. Told her I would pop in when she was feeling better. Anyway, friend messaged me on Saturday morning to say she had tested positive. I've decided not to take a test or isolate (unless I start to feel ill of course) as I think it would be quite extreme given that I was only in there for 5 minutes and we didn't actually come into close contact.

I told my sister earlier about my friend being unwell. She decided to give me a huge lecture about how I should be taking a test and isolating for the next 10 days. It is really irresponsible for me not to do so Confused I honestly think she's forgotten about what she did two months ago. As the peace maker I try to hold my tongue as much as I can, more so because I just cba with the argument or hassle. I think she thrives on the drama between us sometimes. But please tell me I'm not wrong here and the two situations above are completely different??

OP posts:
Hoppinggreen · 23/08/2021 08:34

Yes your sister is a hypocrite but you should base what you do on what is right and within the guidelines, not based on what your sister did in a similar situation

Howshouldibehave · 23/08/2021 08:40

Fast forward to last Friday when I visited my friend. I didn't tell her I was going as I was just passing through and decided to knock on and see if she was home. She explained that she hadn't been feeling very well the last few days and it was probably best that I didn't come

I wouldn’t just turn up in someone else’s doorstep-especially not during a pandemic when people might be feeling unwell. I really hate people who turn up at mine without texting first to see if it’s ok.

Legoninjago1 · 23/08/2021 08:46

@newnortherner111

Don't descend to other people's level. Take a test, you are isolating as it is. And please don't visit McDonalds again.
😂 I'd probably take a test too OP.
Lostmarbles2021 · 23/08/2021 08:51

She is a massive hypocrite. Reminds me of a relative of mine who will spout strong opinions on things and have a go at you if you don’t agree and do whatever it is she thinks you should do...then a few months later has the opposite opinion and does the same!

That said if you don’t follow the rules, in terms of behaviour, it’s similar. Just not as hypocritical, IMO.

Hope you don’t get ‘the rona’ btw.

Planty13 · 23/08/2021 09:00

Your sister is right. Yes she is also a hypocrite.

MrsScrubbithatescleaning · 23/08/2021 09:14

You should take a test because even without obvious symptoms, you can still have the virus and unknowingly pass it on when you do go out shopping etc.

whatthejiggeries · 23/08/2021 09:16

Your sister is a hypocrite and you are acting like a dick so both v similar

itsgettingwierd · 23/08/2021 10:19

Why are umpteen people say isolate and have a test?

She's double vaccinated and has no symptoms and wasn't a close contact.

MN is a weird place at times.

Her sister was a close contact and went out against the rules but the OP who wasn't a close contact and is following current rules is just as bad Confused

saraclara · 23/08/2021 10:25

@itsgettingwierd

Why are umpteen people say isolate and have a test?

She's double vaccinated and has no symptoms and wasn't a close contact.

MN is a weird place at times.

Her sister was a close contact and went out against the rules but the OP who wasn't a close contact and is following current rules is just as bad Confused

Yep. This place is ridiculous sometimes. And the people lecturing the OP the most don't even know the rules themselves.
StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 23/08/2021 10:53

You can pick up tests free from some chemists and other places or order on NHS website they come in boxes of 6 and are delivered next day so people can test as often as they like. I think you are meant to test daily if someone has been a close contact and as long as it stays negative you carry on as normal as long as you are double jabbed so no need to isolate.

billy1966 · 23/08/2021 11:56

OP,
Read the grey rock technique.

Stop sharing your business with your sistet going forward.

Life will be a lot more peaceful.

Imnothereforthedrama · 23/08/2021 19:15

No you don’t need to isolate
Your double vaccinated
You just used the toilet in and out in 5 minutes a close contact is at least 15 minutes.
Test and trace wouldn’t contact you for that even if you weren’t double vaccinated and the fact you are vaccinated you don’t need to anyway .
So I don’t understand those saying you need to isolate and you actually saying you are going to.
Unless test and trace contact you carry on with you life .

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