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Air B n B, who gets the master room?

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Tranquilaroma · 22/08/2021 16:48

Planning a trip abroad next year for 10 days with my brother, his partner and 2 children and my partner and 3 children and our single sister.

We have found a place in the right location and size however we are having a dilemma with allocating the rooms.

Two of my children and their two will be sharing a family/kid room with bunk beds and beds. There is then a king size room left with an en suite and two queen size room. Single sister is happy to take a queen.

There are two other bathrooms in addition to the en suite.

We will be needing to put our then 5 year old in with us and I feel that we should have the larger room. The photos from the queen room would have very little floor space to put a foldaway bed.

My brothers partner isn’t happy with this idea and would like the king sized room.

If it’s important my brother and I will not be covering the air b n b, it is a gift trip from our sister who is joining.

Aibu that the room should go to us?

OP posts:
MaMelon · 22/08/2021 18:37

Your sister is paying so she gets the king sized with the en-suite to escape from the chaos.

You and your brother each get a queen sized kid a bathroom each. The 5 year old can bunk in with the cousins and have a whale of a time.

justasmalltownmum · 22/08/2021 18:37

The sister - so everything is fair

FinallyHere · 22/08/2021 18:42

has a prostate issue no one but us knows about and it causes him some difficulty

Like PP, DH has some issues which mean he won't be comfortable unless he has a private en-suite loo in which to do what needs to be done. I can think of loads of reasons which mean that SiL would also need their own loo in order to relax and enjoy the holiday.

It's one of the reasons we always book a hotel these days rather than stay with people unless we know the layout of their spare room. For us, it is very much an age related thing but we know there are lots of people who suffer 'toilet anxiety' or urge incontinence which can really impact how much they can enjoy a holiday.

No one wants to talk about these things. My mother had 'urge incontinence' but never, ever spoke to a doctors about it and we all just knew that she needed her own loo and to be prepared to know where all the loos are when out and about. As a child I just accepted this and only know realise what she was going through on our carefree outings. Such misery to need always to wear pads and carry a change of undies in your handbag.

One simple solution is to book en-suite accommodation. Sometimes an AirBnB kind of venue is simply not suitable.

Luxury means different things to different people.

SamVimes6 · 22/08/2021 18:48

Whoever pays for the Airbnb gets first choice!

3Br1tnee · 22/08/2021 18:54

Is your SIL usually so entitled?

MrsMcAloon · 22/08/2021 18:57

@Tranquilaroma

SIL reasons were she wanted the extra space and privacy.

I have told my sister she should take the king and en suite but she wanted me to have it with our LO, I got the call from my brother last night about the possible change of plan!

You should get it as your sister has paid and said she wanted you to have it. Plus it is for 3 people.
mrsm43s · 22/08/2021 18:59

Both you and your DB should be insisting that your DS get the room. Both couples are being grabby trying to bagsy the best room for themselves.

UmamiMammy · 22/08/2021 19:03

Your sister is paying, she has decided you need the room as you have your 5-year-old child sharing with you...........decision is made!
SIL is being unreasonable to try and take the room. (unless she has a relevant disability you haven't mentioned)

Muchmorethan · 22/08/2021 19:06

At first l thought you and your child should have the King-size but hygiene wise it may work better if your sister has the ensuite.

Then each seperate family has a queen and bathroom for their own family use

tealandteal · 22/08/2021 19:10

Honestly if you haven't even left yet and someone is moaning about the rooms I wouldn't go. How much privacy does she think she is going to get in a house with that many people?

itsgettingwierd · 22/08/2021 19:11

@Tranquilaroma

SIL reasons were she wanted the extra space and privacy.

I have told my sister she should take the king and en suite but she wanted me to have it with our LO, I got the call from my brother last night about the possible change of plan!

Well your sister is paying and if she says that's your room then your sil needs to suck it up.

Otherwise I'd say put the put up bed in the children's room, sister in king and you and brother each have a queen

DeRigueurMortis · 22/08/2021 19:17

Your B/SIL are are being cheeky.

Wanting privacy could apply to any group within the party and that aside they have no other justification for claiming the biggest room.

It should either be used by the sister paying or your family as you'll need the extra floor space for your youngest.

They should be grateful about having a free holiday rather than being unjustifiably grabby before you even get there.

Tbh I'd ring your sister, explain the situation and let her decide and communicate to your brother.

Tbh the most logical outcome is for you to have the largest room as you need space for the extra bed.

The fact it has an en-suite is a moot point really. It would still be the most appropriate room for you even if it didn't.

What I would suggest though is that your family will all use the en-suite so each other family party has their own private bathroom.

Yourstupidityexhaustsme · 22/08/2021 19:19

No you need the king you have an extra child.

If they want the king they need to take one of their kids out the family room and your son can go in their place.

If you can’t agree then I think your sister should get it.

Yourstupidityexhaustsme · 22/08/2021 19:20

Good god if your sister is paying then she absolutely get the bigger room. What is wrong with your sil?

Karwomannghia · 22/08/2021 19:25

You should have the king but for the sake of peace and harmony I’d take the smaller one. Maybe SIL needs the en-suite for IBS or something.
I was in a similar situation recently and had already talked myself into having the smaller one as arriving last but they’d already left us the big one knowing we’d have dd in with us.

TheGoogleMum · 22/08/2021 19:35

Person who needs space most/pays more/organises it gets priority of room I think. Sounds like your claim is better needing the space

Pumasonsatsumas · 22/08/2021 19:36

Another vote to give it to your sister!

ichundich · 22/08/2021 19:40

The couple that found the AirBnB and booked it for everybody else.

Wheelz46 · 22/08/2021 19:59

If sister who is paying doesn't want to take the larger room then you should toss a coin for it or draw straws.

The rooms are only for sleeping in and a 5 year old isn't going to take up a huge amount of space to warrant you needing it, which sounds like it's not needed if you are happy for sister to be in there.

When we went with family, we drew straws, well the kids drew straws on behalf of they grown-ups and they loved the thought of bagging us the smaller room 😆

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 22/08/2021 20:03

The person paying, wouldn’t dream of taking the larger room if I was making no contribution.

Fernando072020 · 22/08/2021 20:07

Your sil is being completely unreasonable to demand the bigger room, that she isn't paying for, because she wants "privacy" when you have an extra person in yours and need the space

RosiePosieDozy · 22/08/2021 20:11

Your SIL is out of order for suggesting she take the bigger room.

You should insist to your sister that she takes the king size. Problem solved.

AnnaSW1 · 22/08/2021 20:14

As your sisters paying and she wants you to have it, you have it!

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WhatWouldTheDoctorDo · 22/08/2021 20:52

If your sister won't take the king size, then suggest to your brother you flip a coin. If they get the king size then surely they should have one of their children in with them so your youngest can go in the kids room...

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