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Air B n B, who gets the master room?

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Tranquilaroma · 22/08/2021 16:48

Planning a trip abroad next year for 10 days with my brother, his partner and 2 children and my partner and 3 children and our single sister.

We have found a place in the right location and size however we are having a dilemma with allocating the rooms.

Two of my children and their two will be sharing a family/kid room with bunk beds and beds. There is then a king size room left with an en suite and two queen size room. Single sister is happy to take a queen.

There are two other bathrooms in addition to the en suite.

We will be needing to put our then 5 year old in with us and I feel that we should have the larger room. The photos from the queen room would have very little floor space to put a foldaway bed.

My brothers partner isn’t happy with this idea and would like the king sized room.

If it’s important my brother and I will not be covering the air b n b, it is a gift trip from our sister who is joining.

Aibu that the room should go to us?

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Alternista · 22/08/2021 17:42

I think your sister should get it.

Inertia · 22/08/2021 17:44

Sister who is paying gets the master. She will need the extra space and privacy from everyone else’s children. It’s an extraordinarily generous gift, she should not be in a position where she’s paying thousands to wait to use a bathroom behind a queue of everyone else’s kids just because non-paying SIL fancies some luxury. Of course, if SIL has a disability or medical condition (IBS etc) which means she needs immediate bathroom access, that would be understandable.

If BIL and SIL bully your sister into giving them the master, your 5yo can go in with them.

We have a similar situation where a relative pays for a family trip away in a rental house, and we make sure she always gets a decent private bedroom with en-suite, and the rest of us with kids muck in.

Whinginadeville · 22/08/2021 17:46

I'd tread softly in case there's a reason she wants a private bathroom. My dh has a prostate issue no one but us knows about and it causes him some difficulty at night.

Mindymomo · 22/08/2021 17:46

We usually decide who gets what when we get there, as photos are not always accurate. We used to take an Aunt on holiday, we always gave her the best room. My adult DS paid for our holiday last 2 years so he got the room with en suite, we paid this year, so we got the en suite. My younger adult DS who doesn’t pay anything gets whatever is left.

Peanutsandchilli · 22/08/2021 17:46

5 year old in with other kids. Then either the sister who paid gets the king, or the fattest couple if she won't.

TractorAndHeadphones · 22/08/2021 17:47

Your sister has paid so her word is final.
It’s very generous of her to treat all of you!

KentuckyCriedFricken · 22/08/2021 17:48

You are basing all of this on the pictures which could be misleading. You don’t know how much extra space there is until you get there. How many of us have looked at estate agent or hotel pictures and thought “what a nice big room” and then you see it in real life and it’s much smaller than it looked on the photos.

Why not wait into you get there rather than squabbling for the next year over who gets the better space for shagging? The Queen room may have other benefits that the pictures don’t show (quieter, the mattress might be superior quality and more comfortable, more hanging space, etc)

Outfoxedbyrabbits · 22/08/2021 17:48

So the sister who is paying wants you to have the bigger room? That's what's happening then, isn't it?

The cheek of your SIL demanding a bigger, more private room on her free holiday

Redglitter · 22/08/2021 17:48

I have told my sister she should take the king and en suite but she wanted me to have it with our LO

In that case, decision made, end of discussion.

QueenBee52 · 22/08/2021 17:49

I can tell you this ... SIL wouldn't be getting it 🤣

CheeseCakeSunflowers · 22/08/2021 17:53

If SIL wants extra space and privacy then she needs to find alternative accomodation that offers you enough space and her what she wants, then she pays the difference in cost. If she is not willing to do this then the person who is paying, your sister, gets to make the decision.

TopBlogger · 22/08/2021 17:55

@Tranquilaroma

SIL reasons were she wanted the extra space and privacy.

I have told my sister she should take the king and en suite but she wanted me to have it with our LO, I got the call from my brother last night about the possible change of plan!

Has he/they decided the change of plan?! Cheeky buggers if so!

BungleandGeorge · 22/08/2021 17:56

I’m wondering if your SIL is expecting or there’s another issue too. I’d get your sister to have a word with your brother. If no reason then your sister gets it, if you arrive and the extra bed cannot fit into your room she can swap with you

Farwest · 22/08/2021 17:59

Insist that your sister takes the ensuite. Otherwise she is picking favourites and may cause resentment, if SIL is petty enough.

ApolloandDaphne · 22/08/2021 18:01

Enquire from the Airb&b hosts where the extra child's bed will be placed then you need to go in that room.

Blossomtoes · 22/08/2021 18:01

@knittingaddict

If the sister who is paying doesn't want the big bedroom then it is her call who gets the room instead. Seems very simple to me.

This.

Blossomtoes · 22/08/2021 18:02

I’m bemused by comments that sil may be pregnant - what relevance does that have?

Dobbyismyabsolutefav · 22/08/2021 18:07

So your DB and SiL are getting a free holiday have one less child than you and want the best room... very cheeky.

I think you should have the bigger room as you have the extra child but for family harmony I would suggest that your sister has it, as she is paying.

rookiemere · 22/08/2021 18:12

Actually @ApolloandDaphne has it and I'm embarrassed I didn't think of it. It may only be possible to fit a spare bed in the biggest bedroom which neatly resolves it ( but actually your Dsis has already resolved it by assigning rooms as the bill payer is entitled to do).

Jerseygirl12 · 22/08/2021 18:18

Your sister because she’s the only one who’d be happy with the smaller room. Where as you and your SIL who are getting free accommodation both want to bagsy the biggest room.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 22/08/2021 18:25

The sil's reasoning is that she would like the greater space and privacy??

What kind of argument is that? Anyone would like those things!

It's like the people who describe themselves as 'appreciating the finer things in life', as if that's actually any kind of justification and the rest of us genuinely much prefer Poundland chic in our lives!

SIL sounds like she's about 3 and hasn't yet learned to share or consider other people's feelings too.

Chloemol · 22/08/2021 18:28

If there is three of you and two of them you get the room

FinallyFluid · 22/08/2021 18:30

Not quite the same,but I do all the leg work re holidays, so I take the master, DH gets the next one down*.

*You haven't heard him snore.

TractorAndHeadphones · 22/08/2021 18:32

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll

The sil's reasoning is that she would like the greater space and privacy??

What kind of argument is that? Anyone would like those things!

SIL sounds like she's about 3 and hasn't yet learned to share or consider other people's feelings too.

That phrase relate to things like luxury goods, expensive wine, fine dining etc. Even if I was a millionaire I wouldn’t give a shit about any of these 😂

Fine dining isn’t meant to be delicious anyway

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 22/08/2021 18:37

That phrase relate to things like luxury goods, expensive wine, fine dining etc.
Even if I was a millionaire I wouldn’t give a shit about any of these

No, neither would I - but I've heard people use it as some kind of an excuse as to why they should rightly have more than others.

As you say, if a millionaire wants to spend their own money on fine dining, that's entirely up to them; but you can't just wheel it out as justification why others should sub your rather lofty opinion of what you believe you deserve, whilst they make do with less.

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