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Air B n B, who gets the master room?

100 replies

Tranquilaroma · 22/08/2021 16:48

Planning a trip abroad next year for 10 days with my brother, his partner and 2 children and my partner and 3 children and our single sister.

We have found a place in the right location and size however we are having a dilemma with allocating the rooms.

Two of my children and their two will be sharing a family/kid room with bunk beds and beds. There is then a king size room left with an en suite and two queen size room. Single sister is happy to take a queen.

There are two other bathrooms in addition to the en suite.

We will be needing to put our then 5 year old in with us and I feel that we should have the larger room. The photos from the queen room would have very little floor space to put a foldaway bed.

My brothers partner isn’t happy with this idea and would like the king sized room.

If it’s important my brother and I will not be covering the air b n b, it is a gift trip from our sister who is joining.

Aibu that the room should go to us?

OP posts:
MeridianB · 22/08/2021 17:10

Is there a reason the 5yo would be with you? Is there a big age gap with the other children?

Your brother and his wife sound very cheeky!

CagneyNYPD · 22/08/2021 17:12

Your sister has the ensuite.
You and your brother then have the Queen bedrooms with one bathroom allocated to each family.

Unless of course your SIL is expecting and does not want to tell you all just yet?

OwlBasket · 22/08/2021 17:13

I was going to say the single sister should have the room, then I read she’d payed. She should have the room. SIL should have the smaller of the queen rooms.

SunbathingDragon · 22/08/2021 17:13

Neither of you, it should go to your sister. If you do want to bicker about it, then toss a coin as neither of have a greater claim to it than the other.

TidyDancer · 22/08/2021 17:14

Your sister should automatically get it since she paid. If you take into account the individual family circumstances, then it would make sense for you to have it. Your brother would be bottom of the priority list. Your SIL's reasoning doesn't really make sense. If she wants privacy then she would be able to go back to whatever bedroom she has, regardless of the size of it.

Cuddlyrottweiler · 22/08/2021 17:17

In fact single sister should have it anyway so she's got a private bathroom away from the kids.

knittingaddict · 22/08/2021 17:18

I think the one paying for and organising the holiday should get the bigger room. Then the non payers will be on an equal standing. Seems the fairest option.

Original poster
Tranquilaroma · 22/08/2021 17:20

I absolutely agree my sister should have the bigger room and en suite.

There would be about 9/10 year age gap between my youngest and the other children. I can be fairly certain my LO wouldn’t join them. A lot could change in a year though!

OP posts:
knittingaddict · 22/08/2021 17:21

If the sister who is paying doesn't want the big bedroom then it is her call who gets the room instead. Seems very simple to me.

Brollypackedforscottishholiday · 22/08/2021 17:21

Ime the person who is actually organising the holiday gets to choose...
Who is doing the planning and who is just turning up?

Floralnomad · 22/08/2021 17:22

Totally agree that to be fair ( and keep the peace ) the sister who is paying gets the king with en-suite and the rest of you take whatever is left and each family gets 1 bathroom .

Frodogo · 22/08/2021 17:22

I'd put the 5-year-old in the room with the other children, then sister gets the king. (And then privately dislike SIL forever.)

StormyTeacups · 22/08/2021 17:24

If your sister won't take it, then whoever has the most people has the bigger room

Chamomileteaplease · 22/08/2021 17:24

The sil's reasoning is that she would like the greater space and privacy??

What kind of argument is that? Anyone would like those things!

Your sister is happy to let you have the bigger room due to your five year old. Take it!

Get your sister to explain, in one syllable words to the SIL, why it is going to you!

Notaroadrunner · 22/08/2021 17:25

@Tranquilaroma

SIL reasons were she wanted the extra space and privacy.

I have told my sister she should take the king and en suite but she wanted me to have it with our LO, I got the call from my brother last night about the possible change of plan!

If your sister has said you are to have it then that's that. She's paying, she decides.
Blueeilidh · 22/08/2021 17:27

Unless you're brother's partner has any additional medical needs that would benefit from the larger room and en suite then it should go to you if the sister paying doesn't want it.
Alternatively your brother and partner can have it with your 5 yo, see how she likes that suggestion.Grin

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 22/08/2021 17:27

How about your kids get the children's bedroom, and their kids share the master with their parents?

Driftingblue · 22/08/2021 17:28

Since you have an extra person, I’d say you should have the bigger room. You and your kids should use the en-suite and leave the other bathrooms to the other family units (though I imagine as one person sister won’t mind a bit of usage on hers just for practicality, but it should be done sparingly)

Lineeyes1986 · 22/08/2021 17:28

Would your sister be happy sharing with your 5 year old? I know that this wouldn’t bother me at all. Then they could have the larger room
And each couple gets the smaller rooms

Frodogo · 22/08/2021 17:29

It's a holiday and all the kids from two different families are already sharing, so no particular need for privacy, etc. It doesn't seem like it should be a big problem to have the 5-y-o in the room with the other kids.

If it's really that big of a deal, then your sister's original plan should be followed, since she's paying. SIL is being silly to complain about free accommodation.

rookiemere · 22/08/2021 17:31

Ok fair enough on your 5 year old sharing with the much older DCs.
It really is incredibly generous of your Dsis to pay for a holiday- why is she doing this ?

I feel your role in this is to be as reasonable as possible as SIL is being such an asshat. Suggest to Dsis that she says that she'll take the master bedroom, but if the queen room isn't big enough for an extra bed when you get there, then you can swap.

Hopefully SIL won't be rude enough to argue over bedrooms with the person who is kindly paying for her holiday.

viques · 22/08/2021 17:36

@Farwest

Sister who paid takes the en suite.

This is because
A. She paid for this.
B. With an ensuite, she can close the bedroom door and escape the irritating chaos that is family life.
C. Solves the argument.

This, plus the two families can each have their own bathroom.
QueenBee52 · 22/08/2021 17:39

Whoever is doing all this organising ...

gets the Master bedroom 😬

Mummyoflittledragon · 22/08/2021 17:42

Your sister or you. But seeing as you sister wants you to have it, you should. If your Sil needs an ensuite due to disability, IBS, chrons etc, they should get it, but not because they fancy having a bit of privacy. Some people have no shame. No good deed goes unpunished as the story goes.

MeridianB · 22/08/2021 17:42

@CagneyNYPD

Your sister has the ensuite. You and your brother then have the Queen bedrooms with one bathroom allocated to each family.

Unless of course your SIL is expecting and does not want to tell you all just yet?

This is a great solution.