To be dying of embarrassment?

[ikidyouikidyounot]

My dad doesn't speak to any member of his family, he's pretty much alienated them all for mental health reasons and to be honest I have followed suit as I felt they could of tried harder with him.

However, last night some wine was consumed and I made it my personal mission to reunite everyone I called each of my aunties and all of my cousins, I spoke to about 6 of them, no idea what I was saying. I'm absolutely affronted, whatever I was saying I will have been slurring my words and ugh, please just kill me! I've woken up and deleted all call logs and messages but I don't know how I'm going to get through today

AIBU to think this is a really big deal or is it not that bad? It wasn't like I called them and was giving them abuse but at the same time I was very very drunk and there is no doubt they will have heard that in my voice. Not just one or two but all of them which I am sure will be discussed. Arrrgh

The prince was suprisingly cool about it but the mayor lost his mind

Some very OTT replies on here! OP, I wouldn’t worry, it’s really not that bad!

What's done is done.
Learn from it and move on.
No point worrying about it as you can't change it.
If you can recall their responses,whether they were bemused,amused or annoyed,it will give you the chance to briefly contact them to explain why it happened...If you want to,it might give you the opening to reconnect with family?
Again,if you some them at 0300hrs then you do owe them an apology.
Do you know why you drank so much?was it to give you the courage to contact them?or were you getting drunk just because you could?
Have a think of any underlying cause..
Hope the hangover isn't a bad one!😊

Morning all, thanks for the advice. I've just awoken and still cringing albeit not as much as I was at 3 am this morning. I have deleted messenger as I can't deal with anything today. I'm just going to leave it today and see how I feel tomorrow. I know I was well received, they were happy to hear from me and asked for my number etc and asked me to come visit however I'm just cringing about how I must have sounded, slurring and just being overly sentimental. Ugh.

Also I called them about 10 pm and I've never done this before

Why did you delete the messages? What if it worked?

I don’t think you’ve done anything terrible to be honest and unless it’s a regular occurrence, ignore the people suggesting you have a problem.

@Balonzette

Mumsnet ALWAYS says these things are soooo bad when really they're often not. Very judgey about alcohol on here

This! It's like they jump at the opportunity to make a clearly anxious person feel even fucking worse. Some MNers are really shitty people.

OP, relax and breathe. One day, you'll laugh about this. People do far, far worse while drunk.

@ikidyouikidyounot

I did this once! Had faaaaar to much wine. And tried to repair a family rift between my siblings and parents who hadn’t spoken in 15 years. 2 bottles of wine and 2 hours of telling them some home truths. We are now 3 years down the line and I can firmly say my family are reunited! You never know…. It could all work out for the best.

@BrozTito

The prince was suprisingly cool about it but the mayor lost his mind

😂

Katiejanej

Don’t worry about it!! These people are family, they love you, and they’ll probably think you were sweet, and well intentioned, if moderately hammered. It might even do the trick and get people talking again. Don’t be embarrassed, phoning family is a nice thing, and talking whilst drunk is a completely normal thing, that’s why pubs exist. You had a few drinks, got a bit sentimental, and tried to build bridges. It’s ok “”

Exactly.

prettymessgosh

“You should be ashamed of yourself”

If this isn’t a joke, you’re an idiot.

@chesterelly

I'd do 1 text to all of them along lines of "sorry if I had bit to much Dutch courage before reaching out to you all last night. I've realised that family is important and I shouldn't blindly follow Dad's lead in keeping to ourselves. I hope you can see past any offence I might have caused and accept my apologies. It would be lovely to hear from you." It's a bit woolly so they can take it how they want, a simple apology for getting pissed before calling or heartfelt regret at cutting them out. Puts the ball firmly in their court and you can go forward with your head held high knowing you made the first move.

Exactly the advice I was going to post. Your intentions were good. Hope you are feeling better.

Ah, you're not the first who's tried to fix the world when you're drunk, and you won't be the last,

The cringe will lessen over time!

In the meantime - remember you were trying to do a good thing and in this instance, alcohol gave you the courage.

I'd send a message saying 'sorry for the wine-induced call last night - I was feeling sad about our lack of contact and wanted to let you know. I'd love to catch up and chat about jt (and this time I'll be sober, i promise!)

Or actually, what @chesterelly said 💕💕

Hilarious! Jesus I'd be cringing. How embarrassing it is just depends on how obviously drunk you were on the phone. Never drink and phone! Or switch to beer. It gets you less drunk.

@Kiduknot

Worst case, no one talks anymore and a wedge is driven through the family - as was already the case. Best case, they take note of what you’ve said and some bridges are built.

Exactly this. It sounds like you acted with the best intentions, so no harm done. Getting a bit drunk on a Friday night and trying to reunite your family isn't a mortal sin.

Worse things happen OP, you were mending fences and not haranguing them. I bet they see it for what it was.

Hope your hangover isn't too brutal. I recommend McDonalds fries and a chocolate milkshake.